i have this boyfriend and he wants to have sex with me and im a virgin and im scared but i want to. what should i do.
2006-06-05 17:39:47 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Computers & Internet ➔ Internet
U should not worry at all. It is a normal natural thing. It wont hurt.
2006-06-05 17:43:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
It's only natural to be curious about having sex and to have a desire to "try it out" but you really should wait until you're with a loving husband who cares more about the feelings of his wife than about proving himself to his friends or satisfying his own lusts.
Just think about it for a moment. There will only be one "first time". If you start out having sex now who knows how many different partners you might have before getting married. Imagine if at your wedding reception your new husband was walking past a crowd of men who didn't see him and they were all talking about the times they had sex with you.
If the same thing happened to you and you heard a bunch of women talking about your husband wouldn't you feel cheated and wonder if your husband would be comparing you to them when you went to the marriage bed?
When a person has sex with another person to whom they are not married they open up their life to all kinds of potential harm. When you break up it's not like you just dated someone for a time and then decided you weren't right for each other. There's an inner tearing that goes on that leaves a painful scar. That's what God meant when he talked about what happens when a man and a women get married.
"Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. Genesis 2:24
2006-06-05 17:53:45 · answer #2 · answered by Martin S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are you? don't give it up too early. if you are scared, then maybe that is a sign that you aren't ready. and yes, it does hurt a lot for some and a little for others.
p.s. i didn't hear anything about love, but just about wanting to have sex. not that being in love is a good reason to have sex, just want you to look at what you might be possibly be doing. please, don't do anything you might regret later.
2006-06-05 17:45:18 · answer #3 · answered by liz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should . When you have sex doesn't really matter. What should matter instead is that you and your partner have sex when you are both comfortable.
You can't expect him to know what makes you feel good. You'll have to tell him or show him, and that may mean taking some of the initiative, taking his hands and placing them where they make you feel good. Don't be afraid to ask him to "be gentler" or change positions. Go slow. If it's his first time, he may well be totally nervous about what you're about to do, and his penis may not respond at first. Patience, gentleness, and understanding are required to bring it back to life, and that may be hard for you to achieve, but that's why i told you to give yourselves lots of time.
2006-06-05 17:44:56 · answer #4 · answered by Retro_Guru 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should relax and try satisfying your boyfriend orally. If he insists, then make sure you are protected from pregnancy and VD when he takes you. Yes it will hurt --- he will be breaking your hymen. That does not stop the other 3 billion or so females on the planet from having sex though.
2006-06-05 17:44:15 · answer #5 · answered by daddyspanksalot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't have sex. What is his hurry? What and see if he will wait. How long have you been going out? Don't be pressured into sex.
If you have sex, yes it will hurt, use condoms and cream. Condoms do break. Talk to your doctor about going on the pill. By all means, protect yourself! You do not need to get pregnant. If he refuses to use condoms, he does not respect you, never mind his whining about it does not feel right.
2006-06-05 17:46:45 · answer #6 · answered by B'Dub 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said you "have this boyfriend". Bad choice of words sweet heart. If you are ready to have sex then why are you so scared? I think you should wait.
2006-06-05 17:44:05 · answer #7 · answered by Simmy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it hurts physically if its the first time. Take all necessary precautions that generally girls take. No harm. Be safe. Good Luck
2006-06-05 17:43:10 · answer #8 · answered by tls.bhaskar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for alot of girls their fist usually does hurt. If ur not sure about this then maybe u should just wait till ur ready and if u do decide to go ahead with it just be careful and use protection.
2006-06-05 17:44:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was so scared that I waited 2 years with my BF. Poor guy. =) It's really not that bad- it's not even on my top most painful moments list. Just make sure you're ready, and that you want to as much as he does. And please... use protection!
2006-06-05 17:44:02 · answer #10 · answered by sierramac11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it if you are scared. Don't let anybody pressure you into sex. (Or pressure you out of sex, such as the people who are going to tell you to wait until marriage.)
2006-06-05 17:43:15 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋