People who live together who aren’t even married, what’s up with that?

Question

I mean, if they’re going to go so far as to live together, then why not just get married? I don’t want to judge or get into a fight, just please explain this to me. And please make it a rational answer and don’t be aggressive, thanks!

"So we can sleep together" is not a rational answer. I said I wouldn't judge, but you people seem to be judging me so forget that. Marriages last longer if people wait until the wedding night to sleep together. (Not that that's the one invariable cause of divorce). Since the sixties when people decided "I don't feel like waiting until I'm married" divorce rates skyrocketed. If enough people would stop being promiscuous, STD/HIV rates would go down and there'd be less fatherlesss homes. That's the problem these days, there's been a hedonism revoulution where people use the logic, "if it feels good, do it, who cares about consequences". It's gotten to the point where making the wrong decision is socially acceptable and people who make the right decision are labeled "prudes" simply for having morals at all. And don't pull the it's not the 50s card. Using that logic, twenty years from now people could be doing way way worse and people would just be like "lighten up it's not 2006 anymore"

Answer 1

better to know if you can live with the person before making such a huge commitment. Had a friend who married and found that they couldn't get along living together.. besides.. marriages are so expensive these days that it takes a few years to save the cash to pay for it.. why wait?

Answer 2

It really depends on what kind of interests certain people may have. I for one do not feel comfortable being in such a legal or socially accepting relationship just because that is the way that society has made love to be. Whether its Society, religion,or whomever. I personally feel that living with someone for a few years will not only give me a better idea if this is really someone whom I am compatible with is such things like money, household obligations, and sex. I don't think that marriage is the answer to anyone especially if people are simply doing it because our parents, grandparents or society supports and says that this is the right way of life. Its really sad how people rush into this commitment and they end up getting divorced. Today the divorce rate is about 53% and that's awful. Some people don't even finish paying their payments on their bridal gowns before they start making payments for the divorce lawyer to settle everything. I believe that people should not prevent themselves from experiencing things and making sure that taking life in small steps with cautious actions can really save lots of heartaches and problems in the future. There is nothing wrong with being cautious and careful, but at the same time living your life.

Answer 3

For someone who don't want to judge Ur doing a good job.

Everyone is not meant to be married, just like every woman is not meant to be a mom.

The reason many people live together and not marry because of the pressure some feel marriages are

Some people don't want to have that deep of a commitment with each other or share

So if the want to live together why shouldn't they

It's up to them and only them anyone outside of that should mind there own business

Answer 4

Hi! We moved in together because we enjoy sleeping together, etc. But did not get married because of the tax penalty (we would be in a higher bracket) and maybe we are not ready to get married. marriage is a legal obligation that carries financial things with it. We want to keep our money separate because we have separate things we want to spend it on (like each of us on our own kids and hobbies etc.). also living together is much cheaper because only one mortgage payment and one set of utility bills. It's economical. Plus we really enjoy each other. I don't see how marriage would make any difference in our life or how we feel.

Answer 5

why ya seems to have a problem with that? it's none of your business man! i am married and never have experience to live together with my bf when i was single but i didn't see any problem with those people living together while not married yet.