Women please help!?

Question

Two misscarriages and pregnant again I have a ten year from a prior 12 year relationship this relationship I'm in now 5 years.I'm 30 and he's 38.He has no kids and he wants one really bad.He is such a good guy.A very good provider,although I work to,I would really love to give him his first child.The problem is he told me that 2 girls that he know of has also miscarried his babies about the same time I did between the10th and the 13th week.My doctor said it's o.k it's normal some women just have a hard time carrying the second child but I don't wanna here it.I'm not having sex much so it's not that we just enjoy each other.And as I sit here now typing I'm cramping I have'nt told him yet I don't wanna upset him again.I'm tired of putting my body through this.My doctor said it's fine since I loose them early please help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

Call your doctor about the cramping. Your health is important too. Don't forget that. What you two might want to consider is adopting. People who adopt frequently get pregnant after the adoption. Also, you may want to speak to a therapist so you can figure some things out. Good luck.

Answer 2

Him wanting to have a baby is great but the fact is that both of you have to want this. I can say that"It is your body and it is all about what you want", and the first part of that is true but the second is wrong what it is about is "It is your body and it is all about what is "BEST" for you) I know you said that the doctor said that it is okay but he is talking about the physical part how this and from reading you question you biggest problem is the emotional part. You need to talk to your man and let him know what you are feeling. But you can not keep this to yourself.

For one thing this has to be hard on him and if he told you about the other two than he must be feeling like there is something wrong with him. Plus he really wants this and every time her gets close he looses it. I sure you are feeling the same way too but you have the physical pain to Deal with on top of that and it makes it hard to want to try again and "fail" again.

Not only talk to him but the two of you need to get some outside help to Deal with this. If you don't you run the risk of loosing each other also. Sit and talk as a couple and find out what is best for you guys as a couple, maybe it will be a different route that you decide to take. YOU WILL NOT GET THOUGH THIS IF YOU HIND THINGS AND DO NOT TALK.

Answer 3

Sorry, I can't help you... But i would just like to say that u should do what you think is right, and that u have most of the worlds support. All i can say i suppose is as u mention, is go to the doctor, maby have a look at some alternitive medicine (herbal or aromatherepy whatever, make sure it is not drugs) and just remember the final decision is your decision.... This last thing is not so nice, but if the urge for both of you to have a child is so huge, you might concider finding a surrogate mother to bare the child.

Answer 4

Just because you have had 1 or 2 miscarriages doesnt mean it is impossible to have another child. My brother was born December of 1980 and I was born August of 1983, we were both full term. However my mom had 5 miscarriages between us. And one was almost full term. Just relax, if you get extremely stressed it can make things worse. Try relaxing your favorite way, something soothing. Call your doctor if you are on good standings with him or most hospitals have an ask a nurse line. If you feel the need to I would definatly suggest going to Urgent Care or the ER if anything worse starts happening to get checked out.

Answer 5

I'm very sorry to hear of your loses. How far along are you now?
You should definitely see a different doctor. If I were you I would go to the ER just to be on the safe side. I cramped badly with both my pregnancies, especially my second, and had to go on bed rest, but both were healthy. I know someone who had 5 miscarriages before she finally had her son, so don't give up. Just take it easy and try not to get to stressed. A trip to the Er, just to make sure everything is okay will help take some of the stress off. And definitely tell your boyfriend, you need the support and I'm sure he will help every way he can. You shouldn't try to deal with this on your own.

Answer 6

the stress you are putting on yourself can't be good for anyone, ecspecially the pregnancy. Why are you carrying such a burden?

Look, if it's going to happen, it's going to happen. There is a reason for everything.

I wonder if it's possible that there is a genetic 'malfunction' on his part with so many women miscarrying his babies. This isn't about blame, just genetics. Most miscarriages are because of an abnormal pregnancy, something wrong with the development of the embryo, so perhaps there is something he needs to talk to a Dr. about??????

Answer 7

Ask your doctor is there is any way a man can have something wrong that keeps the pregnancy from going full term. I had a couple that were friends of mine and the guy had had three women get pregnant with his children and all of them miscarried. I don't mean to sound negative, but if this is the case, then you shouldn't go through this pain of loss if it isn't going to work. By the way, like you, these women had children from previous marriages.

Answer 8

I think that's harsh for your doctor to tell you it's fine since you lost them early....that's not a good thing to say. It sounds like you're in quite the situation (not unlike myself). So he has no kids....have you thought maybe his little sperms arn't healthy or something, kuz it's suspicious that you are the third woman that has misscarried his babies. Hmmm....I would say, if you misscarry this one (i hope you dont) but if you do, take a break, and if your heart can take it, try again,but the safest bet is to adopt or try IVF....i'm sure he'll be dissapointed that it's not his biological child, but he has to understand that he's sort of setting your body up to fail. I wish you the best of luck though.

Answer 9

Just keep trying and don't stress about it. I'm still trying to have a second one. My husband isn't the father of our child but he is an awesome dad. He does want one of his own and we've been trying for a year now and nothing. Just don't stress. If it happens it happens. Then if it doesn't try invtro or something else. Stress doesn't help the problem either. Don't get too worked up. Calm down relax and breathe. I'm sorry for your loses too.

Answer 10

That's terrible two miscarriages. I guess all you can do is quit worrying and relax. The more you worry the more something is bound to happen negatively. Find out if something is wrong with you from your doctor if this baby doesn't make it. No need to go through the pain over and over again and find out you can't conceive. I don't think it will be healthy for you emotionally to keep losing babies and get pressure from husband to have his kid.