If you have gone through a divorce, please explain what are the feelings a person would go through that time? Also waht is the impact it has on children?
2006-06-05 17:15:19 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Emotions will develop over the course of the divorce proceedings and beyond and will change through each period. For instance, the first feelings may be sadness. Sad that the divorce occurred. Feelings of being a failure to your children. Feelings of emptiness. Regardless of whether or not the love between you and your spouse is over, the feeling of emptiness involves moving to a new home perhaps that does not include your spouse or children. As the divorce nears it's finalization, feelings of anger ensue. Issues of financial responsibilities are often difficult to face, children may exhibit feelings of anger and bitterness at the parent that moves out (typically the father), and may side with the mother. This brings about feelings of guilt in the father and is usually the most difficult stage of divorce to experience. After a few years, and the divorced couple move on to new relationships, feelings of jealousy may develop. If the children appear close to their new stepparent, this is often difficult for the bio parent to face. Keeping a thought record of feelings daily will certainly help, along with attending support groups or perhaps counseling, both individual and family. Children of divorced parents do face some substantial difficulties. They may feel an obligation to one parent over the other. Children should never be used as a "go between" or "reporter" used to snitch on the other parent. Depending on the age of the child, it may not be appropriate to discuss too many details of the divorce. If children are older, tell them what they need to know. But regardless of age, reassure them that mom and dad love them wholeheartedly, and during and after the divorce do your best to maintain consistency in parenting and scheduling.
2006-06-05 17:31:58 · answer #1 · answered by adjoadjo 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
My first marriage was a disaster when my husband took his own life. My second marriage i married out of lonliness and on the rebound and he took off and left us all in the first 6 months of marriage. This really devastated me and my kids because these both things happened so close together... My oldest daughter could not handle this so i let her go live with my sister. After years of crying and pain i finally let him go and divorced him and chose to marry another. Now that i did it is the best thing i have ever done! Life does go on after divorce. Divorce recovery workshops and counseling are great to help get past the pain and depravation that divorce causes.
2006-06-06 00:15:33 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have not been through a divorce but I teach elementary school and have the effects that a divorce has on the children. It affects their attitude, their school work, their relation with their friends. It makes them worry. I see nothing good from a divorce unless there is violence in the home with both parents there.
2006-06-05 17:21:20 · answer #3 · answered by J T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-28 03:31:04 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been divorced twice. Even though you know it's over and for the best it's still a relationship that's ending. I was mad, hurt, I even missed him for a little while, but as time went on it got easier. As far as the kids go, they tend to think it's their fault in some way. They don't understand why mom and dad can't be together. Then my kids had a hard time adjusting to spending one week with me and one week with him. Just try to explain in terms they can understand. Over time things do get easier.
2006-06-05 18:00:24 · answer #5 · answered by fungirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to my own understanding yhere shouldnt be any room for divouce.there is nothing greater than unity in the family as in the father mother and there children to live 2gether so u need 2 go and reconcile with ur wife and children becos God believes that u have hurt them be not taking full responsibility of ur duties and world try and make the moves to get back home
2006-06-05 17:50:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a lot of mixed emotions, during the divorce. but what really bothers in even or after the divorce is children welfare, there i sometimes wonder is it right
2006-06-05 17:19:56 · answer #7 · answered by lepactodeloupes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on if u want a divorce, is there hate and anger involved, its after a divorce people wonder if they did the right thing or not
2006-06-05 17:31:23 · answer #8 · answered by charlesjerrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends why you are getting divorced and if children are involved in this . children are theones who get hurt they might not show it some do some dont but deep inside it hurts them
2006-06-05 18:43:31 · answer #9 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not me but i know someone closer. though he got a better choice but really it is the worst of the experiences for him and the kids, ya the actual sufferers are the kids and only kids
2006-06-05 17:20:33 · answer #10 · answered by mobi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋