My x and i broke up for good now and ended up not talking for 2 weeks..to my suprise he called me and told me he still wants to be friends..which is fine with me i guess...i just want to know can someone fall out of love with someone in a month? and i also heard hes seeing someone else and wondering how that would make him look at me now? our relationship didnt work out and im fine with that...but idk if hes trying to play mind games with me or what the hell is the deal?
2006-06-05 17:10:27 · 16 answers · asked by laughalot 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This does not appear to be a "in love" relationship, rather it sounds to have been an "in lust" relationship. Many people have experienced this, and you may perhaps experience it again later in life. I think it is best that you two remain cordial, but keep a good social distance from this young lad. There is substantial emotional baggage that results from keeping in touch with an ex, or agreeing to be "just friends." Chalk it up as a lesson learned and move on to the next chapter of your life. I also recommend not to give to much of yourself too soon in a relationship. Many do not fall in love with someone in a month and profess their undying love to another. It may be possible, but often love takes time to develop, and grow. By not giving too much of yourself too soon keeps the other person interested and their desire level for you grows by their need to know more. Give just a little of yourself over a period of time. By doing this, it allows you to feel the other person out. Maybe after a few dates you may decide that you don't like him and would like to end the relationship. Best wishes to you.
2006-06-05 17:16:48 · answer #1 · answered by adjoadjo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be skeptical of any man that wants to just be friends. I have done this and it is usually to keep some parts of the relationship open. It is not fair as the best thing at this point is to move on. focus on what did work and let go of the stuff that didn't.
You are free to make a new relationship. That being said I would suggest you not look for anything right away, Be happy with you and the next man will be happy with you too. :)
2006-06-06 00:22:16 · answer #2 · answered by Robert E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me put it to you like this, there really is no time table for how long it takes a person to get over someone, and "IF" it's true that he is seeing someone else, then it looks like he has moved on. One way to look at it is this way, if he can move on to someone else within that time frame, then it is better that you found out now. If you are fine with the fact that the relationship didn't work out then move on. Don't spend too much time trying to figure out what he's thinking and what he's up to. You will be fighting a losing battle. Move on to someone who can make you smile and you can enjoy.
2006-06-06 00:22:57 · answer #3 · answered by SweetSatinDoll47 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the love you shared. There are different levels of love. Were you in love or did you just love each other. There's a difference. It doesn't take much time to fall out of love if that's what you wanna do, hell sometimes people fall out of love even when they really don't want to. Don't trip though that he is already with someone else. Sometimes guys do that to cover their pain or how much they miss you. He can't play mind games with you if you don't let him. While he thinks he is playin with your mind, in the end he'll find out he was playing with his own mind!
2006-06-06 00:32:21 · answer #4 · answered by prettynpink 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it's the way you look at love. Some people think that when you fall in love, it's forever but others, like me think love is temporary. When i was in High School and in junior college i like one guy one minute and the next I'd be bored and like another... so yea i think it's possible to fall out of love with someone. Others might think if you were able to fall out of love that quickly then you might have never been in love. I have stayed friends with my ex's so it's possible to be just friends and that he might not be playing mind games.
2006-06-06 00:17:11 · answer #5 · answered by Still Halloween 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you cannot fall out of love in a month, because love is unending. You can fall out of deep lust in anytime when something that you lust after more walks by, which is what sounded like what happened. "Just Friends" sounds like a set up so that if his new thing dosen't work he can fall back on his stand by- i.e. you. You need to forget him and find someone who can commit to you...and the only way to do that is to resist temptation and forgo physical intimacy untill marrige. Sounds old and boring, but that is the only way you are going to get someone committed and in love with you. I am speaking from experience, and I wasted 8 years of my life on a guy that I thought loved me...yeah, they love you as long as they are getting something from you (usually sex) but the second something better comes along, you get slapped. Then, I pulled my head out of my a** and dumped that loser (who, by the way, whined and cried like a little baby) and this cow giving away the free milk moved on to greener pastures, and to a guy that did respect me. I have been married now for 4 years, and I am so happy.
Good luck to you.
2006-06-06 00:18:53 · answer #6 · answered by The Nag 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that you can discover that a person isn't right for you in any amount of time. If you want to be friends and it won't be hard for you emotionally, then go for it., don't worry about what he has in mind. If you end up seeing that there are games then, you always have the option to change your mind.
2006-06-06 00:14:06 · answer #7 · answered by DeltaQueen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell yes. You can fall out of love the next morning when you smell that breath and see that crazy hair-do. Maybe he didn't smell right, maybe he does something that you know you absolutely can't stand and will never tolerate. Sure. Happens all the time.
2006-06-06 00:14:27 · answer #8 · answered by Shinigami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes ... and it will suprise you, it could happen in a minute, something said or something done, or someting that wasn't done ....and ... puff, you can explain what happens.: you fall out of love
2006-06-06 00:15:34 · answer #9 · answered by gospieler 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A month is too long- u can fall outa love even in one day
2006-06-06 00:12:32 · answer #10 · answered by Mash 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋