What would you do if your neighbor influenced your child against you?

Question

my son is 13, 6'0, wears size 12.5 shoes. My neighbor called the police on me twice due to my son's lies because he wants to do what he wants to do. Skipping school, failing grades, bringing home porno w/sexual DVD's, etc...from her home. He's not on drugs nor in a gang. He was ultimately removed from the home to get help; yet within a few months he'll be home. I do not want this 57 year woman around him; my son is best friends with her grandson.. She told me "...you can't tell me who to let in my house." I told her you're contributing to delinquency, she said, call the police. The police was involved 5 times as a result. I'm at wits end.

Answer 1

I know it's easy for alot of people to ask you to move but I know it may not be practical. There goes alot into moving from one place to another. You need to have a better relationship with your son and he is the only one who can avoid going to her house.
I know your neighbour's grandson may be his best friend but if they are watching porno, etc then he isn't exactly the best influence. Spend more time with your son and get to know him more before it gets out of hand. In time, if you can find another location, then try to shift. You can consider moving your son to a different school. If he has a different set of friends, he may forget about your neighbour.
You have to become abit more stern with your son in this matter and start showing him that this kind of behaviour will not be tolerated but at the same time give him your love and affection so he wont seek it elsewhere.

Answer 2

what about relocating well away from that woman and her grandson?

starting a new life may be best off all round for you and your son

I think you are right to be concerned about the effect your son's contacts have on him NOW rather than waiting a few years

and it doesn't sound like that lady is all that supportive of your efforts at parenting either and will work to undermine you - not good for your son

Answer 3

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Answer 4

I wnated to add something .The whole leaving liquor and then blaming your neighbor is wrong.First,the police might wish to search your house to see it suitable for a kid to live in and could find this on your computer,second it illegally,and third that is really unfair to your neighbor.Yes,she may be a bad influence but she could end up going to jail because of your lie.Not right.

Answer 5

ask your neighbor to pick you up a bottle of vodka and a six pack the nest time she goes to the store. pay her for them in cash and leave them on the kitchen table where your teenage brat can get to them. After he's gotten good and drunk, call the cops and have her picked up for contributing to the deliquency of a minor. She'll never prove you asked for the liquor and I doubt seriously she'll ever have anything to do with you or your son again.

Answer 6

move......move as far away as u can from that old hag who is encouragin ur son 2 take the wrong path, coz really it wont be long before drugs start happenin and then the gangs and wat next a funeral seriously that stupid lady should no betta, either send ur son 2 see a phycologist once a week or move and start fresh

Answer 7

well she cant tell you who you can or can not have in your house--except for her grandson---he is her responsibility--and she can say no he cant go to your house---
it is up to you that you follow her orders and keep him out and away from your son..it isnt right--but you should obey her for what she wants with her grandson..
keep your son from him..its going to cause problems in the end----sounds to me that maybe --not saying it has happened--but maybe she caught them doing something sexually together and didnt approve--it happens all the time--boys bodies growing --maturing and curiousity takes hold--it is a part of life--and curiousity--is something we all have from early age until we are no longer curious about things--
maybe its nothing against you or your son and she is just a plain ol" ***** and nothing you can do can change that---
keep your son away or you might have her calling enough to get your son taken away..
as for porn --if parents knew that their sons were hiding porn--there would be alot of upset parents---13 is the right age where we hide stuff from our parents--we sit in our rooms or lay in bed at night playing with ourselves and we hide it well--the first time we play and shoot a load on ourselves --we freak out no knowing what to do and take the pillow cover off our pillow--wipe it up and hide it until one day we take it outback--get a match and burn it-- then moms wondering why she has one pillow cover instead of two--
i think alot of things is we all need to remember what it was like and what we were like when we were kids---instead of forgetting what we were like--and act ing like we are perfect--my mom didnt find my porn stash and all while i was 13 and up--and i turned out good..

Answer 8

I'd move. My children are worth more to me then that. Real Estate is a dime a dozen these days, children are forever.

Answer 9

Get a restraining order

Answer 10

move far far away