He can take any thing you talk about and turn it in to something that happened to him on the job. That in turn turns in to another story and on and on and on. I think there is something wrong with him but I'm afraid to ask because at the same time, he is very sensitive. I've approached him about it but to no avail. He claims to have had a 136 IQ in college but there is no way he is anywhere near that now.
2006-06-05 16:20:01 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He has us so deep in debt that he doesn't really get to spend any time at home. When he does come home he's tired which I understand completely but when he's rested, there isn't any money to go anywhere because we have to spend it all on bills. I did go on the road with him and he showed me a side of him that I never knew existed. He was a real jerk.
2006-06-05 16:36:30 · update #1
I never knew my husband was this igorant for lack of a better word.
2006-06-05 17:06:56 · update #2
Before we got married that is.
2006-06-05 17:07:28 · update #3
I work in a trucking company and seen many men who's marriages have fallen apart. Why? Because these guys have no 9-5 life. They live by trucking, their experiences are in trucking. Thsi is what they relate to.
What can you do? Try to help them have a life outside trucking, friends you can get together with, other people with similiar interests, outside trucking.
And try to accept that sometimes they want to talk about their trucking, at least he is trying to share his experiences with you. If possible, go on trips with him and see the world through his eyes.
Develop some common interests.
Ciao
2006-06-05 16:27:45 · answer #1 · answered by B'Dub 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has a lot of stories from on the job, theres nothing wrong with that. When you talk to him tell him that you want to talk about more than his work. Keep in mind that he is a trucker so much of his life is spent on the road - so he probably has a lot of stories to tell. He might just want to share all his stories and experiences with you because you aren't able to be with him.
Be honest with him and tell him that you love talking to him and hearing about his work/stories, but that you want to talk about other things too. Try going out together - to some museums, art galleries, etc - anything that will give the two of you something to talk about together.
2006-06-05 16:26:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah....he's not so hot about hearing the latest gossip from you either chiquita. Face it, men and women are different. VERY different. We focus on and find interesting completely different things. You need to understand and accept this about him and he needs to understand and accept this about you. Have a talk with him about it. I'm sure he could give you an earful about how you drone on and on about stupid stuff and how painful that is. No, it's not actually stupid stuff (don't get offended if he puts it that way), it's female oriented stuff (while his is male oriented). It's a communication mismatch and its perfectly normal. If you want a satisfying female oriented conversation, you need to spend time with your girlfriends. Your husband is basically for *******, bringing home the bacon, and mowing the lawn.....not for deep discussions about what your sister REALLY meant during your last conversation. Welcome to married life.
2006-06-05 16:28:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He knows about his life. Be glad he wants to share it with you.
You can remind him to share some of yours. Too bad you are bored by this. A number of the questions here regard their spouse not talking to them at all.
2006-06-05 16:26:22 · answer #4 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just trying to relate to what you were talking about.
2006-06-05 16:26:58 · answer #5 · answered by tooyoung2bagrannybabe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And you didn't have a clue before you got married that he doesn't know anything about life??????????? or you are just noticing this????????
2006-06-05 16:44:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I attribute my long marriage to the consistant absence of my husband. Just bob your head like your listening and go 'uh huh, wow cool.' and go online and talk to interesting people. marriage isn't about conversation. it's about making life easier. if'n your life isn't easier, dump him and get one that does. duh!
2006-06-05 17:08:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
most of them do, and most of them are
2006-06-05 17:38:03 · answer #8 · answered by charlesjerrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋