Are there any husbands out there who wash dishes, and do laundry regularly(my husbands wants to know)?

Question

My husband wants to know if he is the only who washes dishes, and does laundry, and iron clothes for his wife? Are there any men out there who helps his wife also??

Me and my husband both have full time jobs. I told him recently that I simply just can't do everything in the house! His chores are washing dishes(since he makes most of them dirty), I will cook, He will do his own laundry, and I will do mine. And he also irons my clothes for work (since I can't iron). And I do all the bill-paying and budgeting.
He is telling me that it's not common for men to do ANY chores around the house, and I told him I know many people who are married, and their husbands help out.
So we just wanted to know what the other husbands out there are ACTUALLY doing??

Answer 1

My husband doesn't do it regularly b/c he works off , but when he's at home he helps me. Sometimes he does it without help from me 2.

Answer 2

Sounds like you guys have things split pretty evenly and that is good. Times have changed. Women are not here to wait around on thier husbands hand and foot anymore, especially working women. I'd understand if you were a stay at home mother raising kids and stuff, then yes, the housework is yours, but since you both work, it should be split evenly.

My husband works offshore, so when he's gone, I'm basically by myself doing EVERYTHING. But when he's home, and off for a whole week, I get a great break. He does the laundry and the dishes and sometimes we help each other with everything.

So, the answer to your question is, YES! a lot of men are helping out these days....well, the good ones anyway.

Answer 3

My guy does his own laundry (when I decide not to do his or when I don't have the time) and will do mine if I don't have the time. He will do his own dishes, even mine too at times. He does vacuuming, sweeping, mowing the lawn, weeding, and anything else that needs done. I also do all those things, except mowing the lawn (there are too many holes in the yard from previous tenants dogs and the mower is pretty hard to start and is messed up). He also helps with bill paying and grocery shopping. We both live here; he works and I am a full time student looking for a part time job (until I finish school, that is), we both dirty the house, so why shouldn't we both pitch in and do things around here. I refuse to live with someone that won't help me when we are both busy full time. I would rather live on my own if that were to happen.

Answer 4

My husband cleans the house (and in fact, does it more thoroughly than I do, as my version of cleaning is "Speed Cleaning"); cooks (as in gourmet), sets the table when we have company, food shops, does dishes and will do the laundry if I ask him to, but I like doing it. He folds clothing better than I do! He will take care of other chores too; the dry cleaning, the post office..things like that. Our joke in the family is that I wanted a wife in a man's body.

We share these things: we both cook, clean and take care of chores, but we don't have a list of who does what and when. It sort of evolves this way. I pay the bills, while he deals with the larger issues that I haven't got the patience for..dealing with the mortgage company, the real estate agents when our house was up for sale, legal issues, problems with the neighbors, and getting our cars maintained or repaired. He also maintains the house and fixes plumbing problems, electrical issues, and maintains the lawn and yard. In fact, he is the decorator in the house - thank god we have the same taste! I am in charge of our pets. I feed our 8 cats, change their litter, take them to the vet, and feed the fish. He cleans out the tanks because I don't have the patience for that. I deal with getting all the garbage together and bringing it down to the curb.

While sometimes it feels like I am doing a lot of the chores after I get home from work, the truth is that he makes as much of a contribution as I do, but in different ways. We have our own rhythm and appreciate what the other does well.

Answer 5

I did all the laundry and almost all the dish washing. I did all the ironing as only my good shirts need to be ironed as everything else is permanent press. I also did all of the handyman stuff around the house, took care of paying the bills, and half of the child care.

Since the divorce, about two years ago, I have our daughter 3 1/2 days a week and, obviously, do half of everything for her.

Answer 6

Well, my husband and I take turns cooking dinner. I do all the laundry because he tried to wash once and it just didn't work out... for my clothes anyway. He WAS doing the dishes but I guess he got fed up because he passed it onto me. He takes out the trash all the time. He does the dirty work. Oh! We also have a daughter (and one on the way) and he helps with her as well! I know he does more, just can't think! To wrap things up, we both share the work. I don't think it's fair for one person to do everything.

I have a friend who cooks for hers all the time... from what she says, he won't even make himself a sandwich! She does the cleaning, the washing... even his homework from college! He did help me buy a house though... I won't complain about that! :)

Answer 7

Oh oh oh oh this is a beauty... The eternal debate... but a good one at that !!! First all let me tell you that you got a great guy there. You should place a medal on his lapel.
He washes dishes, and does laundry, and iron clothes and that is more than I do. It all depends, see, on the circumstances.... Do you both work ? Then you need to share ALL the work at home without exception.
Do you stay at home and he goes to work ? How tired is he when he gets home ? Even there at weekends you both should share.
I have a feeling that yo have him well domesticated. He can't even come to the PC and ask that question himself, LOLOL !!!
Final point... in England it is perfectly normal for husbands to share every bit of work in the house. English husbands are considered TOPS (wink wink)

Answer 8

Tell him that's not a job for women only,as a husband ,we should share any job together,ask him is it fair after work from outside your wife has to cook and wash dishes and laundry and you sit down to watch your favourite sported or TV shows ?
For me ,I do cleaning and laundry regularly not only atfer my retirement but when I was working more than14 to 16 hours a day before.

Answer 9

I work 8-10 hours each day 5 days a week, I ride my bicycle to and from work, round trip is 31 miles! When I get home at night, I do all of the dishes and on the weekends we work together on cleaning the house! This includes me doing the dusting and vacuuming! Any man or lady can do it! You just have to be willing to make an effort to help each other and keep things going in your house!
I hope this helps you

Answer 10

Yes, we split the household chores up. I cook and wash/clean up dishes. She does all laundry. We both clean house. Our sons help also. Oldest cleans bathrooms, youngest vacuums, picks up. If he thinks that only the female works in the house than he is watching too many "Leave It to Beaver" episodes and needs to move into the 21st century. It is too hard, if both people work outside of the house, for one person to take care of the house.

Answer 11

Ok first Yes I'm a hubby who has been married for 14 years. and we started off helping each otehr around the house like you discuss.
currently while I worked a 60+ hour per week job and wife was stay at home mom. I currently Cook, Dishes, some laundry, exterior house maint.. some interior house cleaning ( and I can honestly say I ready to DIVORCE HER TODAY!!!!!!)
while my wife parties with friends, goes scrapbooking once or twice each week AND leaves on 4 day Cropping weekends, yet can not budget a checkbook, or save enough for a weekend getaway with her husband.

My guess is as long as there is balance and you both agree then it is healthy.
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A wife tends to find her husband irresistible when he
learns to create an environment of affection that clearly and repeatedly expresses his love for her;
sets aside time every day just to talk to her with undivided attention and interest;
is completely honest and open with her;
provides financial support for her and;
is committed to the moral and educational development of their children.

A husband tends to find his wife irresistible when she
learns to join him in a sexual relationship they both find satisfying and enjoyable;
becomes his favorite recreational companion;
maintains overall appearance in a way that he finds physically attractive;
manages household responsibilities and;
understands and appreciates him more than anyone else.