Someone once said that love is an action not a feeling. That in order to have a feeling of "love" you must love (action) the person you are with. But is it possible to love (action) someone and not have the feeling of love yet have a happy marriage? Does the feeling of love need to be present in order to be motivated to continue in a marriage?
2006-06-05 15:45:07 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes... trust me on this. I tried marriage without it and it doesn't work.
Love is an action compelled by a feeling. Without the feeling... there is no reason, compulsion or desire to commit the action. The action in and of itself becomes repulsive over time and you grow to resent the other person due to repeatedly being expected to act on emotions you simply do not feel.
2006-06-05 15:50:18 · answer #1 · answered by classymissgypsy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may come as a shock to some people, but I don't think so. Being "In love" is a great feeling that will always wear off in time. All married couples go through this. When the high wears off, all you have left is Love. Love is not a feeling. It is a choice. However, if you are not happy now, you will not be happy being married either.
2016-03-27 04:06:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes because there are times when only love can pull you through problems in a marriage not the actions of it but the feeling
2006-06-05 15:49:02 · answer #3 · answered by toosexy4thisshit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what you need to stay in this marriage... Love is not a feeling it is a choice at times... You choose who you love ... Seek counseling and help and learn to love your spouse/.... This is the only way this marriage will be a happy and satisfying one for the both of you! Why did you marry to begin with if i may ask?
2006-06-05 23:33:48 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES!! Some people can "live" off of love; meaning that regardless of the circumstances you know you have someone that loves you, cares about you and have your best interest at heart; and can't wait to see that person. That person is someone you can't take your mind away from, that's love. Without love, it's like marrying your "roommate" someone you like & trust, but not swinging off the chandlers from (just splitting bills along with the daily responsiblities). That's why so many married couples cheat. Because they lack that "feeling of love" from their spouses and seek gratification elsewhere, whatever that maybe. Why marry someone (for the rest of your life) and be unhappy? Never settle for less...What the world needs now is LOVE sweet LOVE. Love is a splendid thing... I wouldn't marry anyone without; unless his last name is TRUMP!!! (just kidding...)
2006-06-05 16:05:36 · answer #5 · answered by motherkc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are thinking way too much and picking apart the ideas of love and marriage. Marriage should be 2 people who love eachother and enjoy being with eachother as life partners. It's not that hard - if you love someone you love them - thats that!
2006-06-05 16:05:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have have the feeling and the action, although the feeling isn't always present you should know it's there you may just be upset, just like the action, but if it's never there or it was never there don't give up, tell your partner how your feeling and maybe you can work it out together.
2006-06-05 15:51:31 · answer #7 · answered by **Keisha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sure helps to love the person you're married to. Depends on how long you've known the spouse. Arranged marriages don't start off with love. But they do start with mutual respect and the desire to care for the other person and love can develop over time.
2006-06-05 15:49:18 · answer #8 · answered by stacey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im not real sure how to answer this because im in the same boat, but i ask my self these ?'s every now and then When something excitng happens who do i wanna tell first? Can i picture my life without him? What would i do if he didnt make it home from work today because of an accident? If you can answer those ?'s the same way you did at the begining then you can be happy still i think that feeling is just a part of life. its just not knew to you anymore.
2006-06-05 15:55:01 · answer #9 · answered by ajsolady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am married for my second time. my first marriage i was married to a man who loved me and he treated me like a queen, but i didn't love him.i tried for 9.5 years to love him and that was too long to play like that but i was young and only believed in one marriage. well i got wise one day and realized that even though he loved me very much i was not satisfied. i wanted to love him but i was unable to do so. love does not just grow like i thought it would. now i am married to a man who was inlove with and he only married me for papers, yes he is a latin american. i did not know this when i married him. everything was great before we got married and 3 days after he began to change and only ask for the one thing he promised to never ask me for. now 6 years later he has completely ruined our relationship, or should i say my relationship with him and i almost hate him. so my educated answer to you would be that if you dont feel the world would end with out them then dont marry them. please also know that you cannot have a happy marriage without it. period.
2006-06-05 15:54:46 · answer #10 · answered by wayladuley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋