What do u do when he doesnt want sex?

Question

We've been tgether for 10 yrs and haven't had sex in 1 1/2 years. the last time we had sex I got pregnant. Even bfore that it wuz like pulling teeth! I dont think hes cheating cuz we're tgether 24/7 Every time I ask him what the problem is he says he doesnt know. He says he's still attracted to me but hes really depressed all the time. I'm soooo sick of it. I'm starting to have a wandering eye. We're both still young and I still get hit on all the time. I love him but I don't know how long I can take this. HELP!!

Answer 1

If he is depressed, then he needs to get some help. May be when he is happier, things will be different.

Answer 2

Call me, I always want sex! Imean um I understand your problem from the opposites' sex point of view. It's like pulling teeth and I'm not a bad guy, i go to work every day, I pay the bills, I try to help out w the mundane, I feel where there is a will there's a way make time for the two of you, could be as simple as a scratch on the arm but there needs to be an acknowledgement of the humane condition. Reward each other and say thanks

Answer 3

Try going to counseling or a therapist because he obviously has some sort of problem. I have a Friend and her and her husband have not had S.. since December last year and she is the one refusing him. I asked her why and she said that she is doing it on purpose so he can leave her because she does not love him anymore. I told her why go thru the trouble, but she says that she does not want to be the one to break the marriage. wise up and Good luck

Answer 4

yep! sounds like depression to me, if he has sunk this low you will probably need to get him some medical help, an affair is the wrong idea, better to finish with what you have or fix what you have before you start anything you may regret, in the mean time masturbation will help somewhat with your wandering eye until his problem comes into the light, I would also consider birth control of some kind, this will help with the worries of pregnacy, you may want to try a surprise candlelight dinner for him or if you really want to get inventive, try surprising him in the shower when he has soap in the eyes, my point is that there are a lot of ways to spark his interest, he admits his attaction, FUEL THE FIRE, best of luck!

Answer 5

Sex isn't everything, but if a man doesn't want to have sex with a woman he loves and says he's still attracted to, something is wrong. Maybe it isn't you, maybe he's having a difficult point in his life and feels off. But if it is you, and he is just bored, you need to move on. Talk to him, see what's going on. And if the answer doesn't make any sense, it's probably not the truth.

Answer 6

He's probably suffering from depression - which is an illness not just a mood. Depression takes away you passion for anything and sex is one of these things. He should get help immediately - make him go to his doctor.

Answer 7

wow no sex how are ya'll still together?? well if he is depressed maybe he needs to be on some kinda meds. love isn't enough when both are not totally satafied. tell him how you feel and that if things don't get better you are gonna have to get some else where!!

Answer 8

Seems like you both need a complete overhall both mentally and physically. Get to the medical doctor and then seek out counseling.

Answer 9

find new posion u never try before, going outside for dinner or movie, share time talking together, have talking more about it, kissing more touching with no sex. this all will help.

Answer 10

Well you could do it yourself. Maybe he'll get turned on by that maybe you just need to spice it up!! If not it could be a medical thing and maybe he should see his Doc.