Why are people so disappointing?

Question

Have you ever experienced a series of disappointments from people? Did you change your perspective of the world because of it or were you able to put it all in perspective? I normally can put it in perspective and take each case individually, but then sometimes people all disappoint at once and I want to throw them in the trash! Does anyone relate? I still like you, though, and won't be disappointed by your answers! :)

Answer 1

cause were human
thats why we need God

Answer 2

You weren't very specific about how you were disappointed, but I wonder if you have friends whose character is not very good. If so, find better friends. But having said that, we are all human, and we all make mistakes, and we are all weak. To loosely quote the Bible, "We all fall short of the glory of God". It is part of the human condition. As we get older, we can become bitter over this, or we can realize that only God is perfect, and we must put our trust in Him. Forgiveness is the key. We have to learn to forgive others. Think of all the times you have disappointed someone. I don't even know you. You may be the best person around, but I know you have done at least a few things that made people disappointed in you. We all do. You need to learn to forgive (not necessarily forget, or some people will continue to take advantage of you) and move on.

Answer 3

I've probably disappointed people too even without knowing. I remember when I was in high school I waitressed. After awhile I got tired of some of the abusive people I'd meet so I developed kind of a tough attitude for a while and would try to give them as rough a time as they gave me. Of course is was a waste of time but sometimes I did get satisfaction as some would apologize for their rude behaviour. So anyway I'm sure everything works out in the long run if we don't always look for affirmation from people.

Answer 4

It's when one has the overwhelming desire to go out in the park and shout at the sky "LIFE SUCKS!!"

Actually, I think the clue is right there where you wrote: "I normally can put it in perspective and take each case individually, but then sometimes people all disappoint at once ..." Basically, there are times when *we* can't cope as well as we can at other times and everything just seems twice as bad as normal. Give yourself a break, take a deep breath and smile!

Answer 5

Yeah... but I like to look at it as if my experiences and situations in life help to mold me into who I am. I can take all of the hurtful or disappointing things that people have done to me and hate the world, or I can choose to learn from it, make better decisions, and/or help others from my own experiences. I wouldn't be here today, the person I am, if I hadn't went through some disappointments in life... and believe me, I have had more than my share. But I know I can become a better person when its all said and done.... so I just take one day at a time, and keep moving forward.
: )
Good question!

Answer 6

I have found as the years of my life roll by that my expectations of people get lower and lower. The majority of people in this world don't wash their hands after using a public restroom and that's just plain nasty. I don't look down on people or think there's any need for aristocracy, because many of the people that disappoint are in that "higher group" anyway. In America, people have just become lazy. It's sad. I think that a country like China could send over 100,000,000 people with sticks and defeat our country and make us their slaves. People here complain too much and want everything just handed to them with little or no effort. I am not saying that there are no good people left, because there are many. But, many people that say they are hard working people are actually sitting at work playing stupid games and answering questions on Yahoo answers.

Answer 7

It is because we are human, all too human, that we disappoint one another, There are times when someone may disappoint you and have a very good reason, it happens to all of us, but if you are being disappointed constantly, then you must take a stand and say enough is enough, be strong and firm and tell the people who disappoint you exactly how you feel,sometimes the other person isn't aware of your feelings.

Answer 8

I know exactly what you mean. I had a friend who never helped me, and I always helped her. So I just decided that I was not going to let her walk all over me anymore, and said that if she wanted to take she had to give. That incident made me think of all people in a different way.

Now, I don't look at everyone quite that way, but I have discovered that I wasn't all wrong. Most people are good, but a large portion of the world is not dependable and may easily let you down. The key, though, is to seperate yourself from people who do that and surround yourself with good and trustworthy friends.

Answer 9

sadly disappointments come. We never know when, why or how come, they just come. I know how you feel. Really I do. I finally set my mind to a mode whatever is going to happen is happening for a reason. My son once said, "Don't depend on others when you can do it yourself." Those words have stayed with me even into today. There will always be something or someone who is goona let us down one way or the other. We must pick ourselves up, brush ourselves off and move forward . Laying it all to rest. It would not hurt at one point in time to let those who disappointed you know they did and how it made you feel..I would futher suggest you not depend on them any longer.

Answer 10

I definatley understand what you're talking about. When a family member was diagnosed with cancer, it seems that family and friends were no where to be found! Perhaps, we're expecting too much of others, or are expecting others to act like we do. If we don't expect anything, then we'll never be disappointed!

Good luck and feel better. Remember there are still good folks out there.

Answer 11

yes, i've gone through disappointments by a number of people. it's not nice to experience all this but it's a part of life. who said anybody's going to get it easy.

did i change my perspective of the world? at the spur of the disappointed moment... ya, i did. but, after a while, i go back to my usual self and thoughts.

disappointments are just the many challenges we have to face in this world whether you like it or not. and plus, what are you going to do about it, anyway? just endure it.