2006-06-05 13:22:45 · 27 answers · asked by happydawg 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
She is 18 years old and just graduated high school with an attitude. She lived with her dad until about 2 weeks ago. I sent her there about 3 months earlier because she could not obey the rules of my house. She is highly manipulative and has been in counseling. Her dad told her to get packing because she is running around all hours of the nite with a not so good crowd. I work a full time job and she is making me crazy. She acts as if it is an imposition on her to follow the rules of the house. Her only response is "well, I came home". I would like to just lock her out and call it a day. I have really had enough of her. I am employed full time and not in the mood for her crap. I have to sleep at nite.
2006-06-05 13:36:39 · update #1
She is a legal adult now so tell her to act like one. Have her pay rent for living under your roof. Have her pay with her own money for the things that she wants and needs, food, clothing, health/beauty products, etc... Eventually she'll have to get a job to pay for things, and if she's late on rent she gets a late fee like any other place would do. If she still refuses to pay lock her out, so she gets the big picture that you are serious and aren't putting up with her childish games anymore. She wants to act like an adult treat her like one, still be her mom but only when the time is right, other then that be her roommate, her rent collector... Show her that the responsibility of being an adult is not all fun and games. Hope this helps, and good luck!!!
2006-06-05 21:45:03 · answer #1 · answered by ditzychik508 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is 18. Be happy you are not responsible if she does something stupid.
Tell her if she isn't going to live by your rules, then get a job and get out.
You might want to reconsider some of your rules since she is an "adult". Instead of, BE HOME AT 12, "give me a call if you're not coming home". That way you will know she is not lying on the side of the road. But also, make sure she never drives after having a drink or gets into a car with anyone that has had a drink.
She needs to be responsible for herself now, but since she lives with you, there has to be a few RESPECT rules.
2006-06-05 21:10:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i sugest that you find a way to lock her windows in her room, put 2-3 locks on the door that do not face in the room but out, and make sure that she is in by 11:30. put a baby montor in her room so she can ask to go to the bath room, and tell you if she has a problem. and get up and check her room 2-3 times a night for the first week or so. after 3 months of that stop doing itand tell her it will happen again if she does not come home when you want. i know it meens some sleepless night for you, but i have to work till 2:30 am and then get up at 7 all the time. you can do it, and its for her own good.
2006-06-05 21:17:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, set up some rules. Tell her if she does not respect you then she cannot live with you anymore. Mention that in order for her to live in your space that she WILL ABIDE by your rules and nothing else. If she wants to do her activities late then she will have to do them earlier. Also, your daughter is an adult. She should not live with you anyway. If she is reckless about her curfew and thinks that she can come in the house at any time of night then she should leave. You are right that you need peace in your house and your sleep. It should be one of the areas in your life where you have comfort and enjoy being at. I am sure that you love your daughter but it is time for her to face the facts. Be honest, no...blunt. Tell her that she needs to slow her act about because it is really bothering and disrespecting you. If she continues to object your reasons or rules,etc., then it is time for her to walk out of the door...as a person who does not live there anymore.
2006-06-06 08:51:48 · answer #4 · answered by spyder90tishuez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's 18. If she's old enough to be out late, then lock her out. I know you don't want to, but sometimes, tough love is the best love. When she realizes she may not have anywhere to go - either to your place or her dad's - then maybe she'll appreciate having an open door AND a curfew. Remind her that the home is YOURS, and you are allowing her to live there, and if she does it again, change the locks..do whatever you have to do until she understands what it's like to sleep outside. My parents did that to me, and believe me - it worked. I STILL call when I'll be late, and I am too old to live there anymore!!!
2006-06-05 20:55:01 · answer #5 · answered by little_e 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's 18, then legally she's an adult and can pretty much do as she wants. You can also elect to throw her out on the street if you want, or try the following: When she does come in, tell her to sit her A$$ down and listen up---you're sick and tired of her ignoring the rules, so she is to pack her things and get out. If she doesn't wanna follow the rules, then she can go ahead and @#$% her life up if she wants, but don't come crying to momma when she needs help.
2006-06-05 22:50:39 · answer #6 · answered by joecade_2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your daughter won't come home at a reasonable time lock the doors, sleeping outside is uncomfortable she will soon realise her bed is better than staying out or cut off her allowance, telephone use and all other luxuries at home. She'll learn that obeying 1 rule is better than losing what she likes most at home.
2006-06-05 20:30:24 · answer #7 · answered by purplem2004 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is 18 so there is not to much you can do but boot her out if she does not want to follow your rules. It's time she grew up. She needs to get a job and find a place of her own if she wants to live by her rules. You have raised her there is no need for you to be stressed out because of her.
2006-06-05 23:46:25 · answer #8 · answered by butterfly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lock her butt out... take things away from her... let her know why it is unsafe for her to be out that late... ask her why she is doing it.... maybe there is a better way to get her to come home eariler... if she comes in Sunday through thursday on time then she stay out about an hour later on friday and saturday night no later then your max time though.. and if she does this right then give her rewards that you know she would like...
Good luck!
2006-06-05 20:28:14 · answer #9 · answered by Deanna M9903 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is your house and your rules. She needs to know who is the boss. If she keeps this up then chnage the locks and don't give her a key. If she's not back by the time she's suppose to be then lock the door and go to bed
2006-06-05 23:24:36 · answer #10 · answered by Julie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋