he tells me he is attracted to me, but doesn't want to leave because he has a child with her and he lives with her and her family. she offers securement, but has conditions as to his whereabouts all the time (controlling). i, on the other hand, isn't secure yet. my schooling is in the middle of progress, but i do have vibes that tells me we feel so comfortable around each other and brighten each other's day all the time. when we look at each other, love is there. this isn't something that happens all the time. i believe a person should be with the one they feel most happy with and i believe he could still have a relationship with his child no matter what happens. i believe his child would want her father to be happy as well.
2006-06-05 12:55:29 · 5 answers · asked by tj 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think the guy you like is very considerate, and I can see why you like him. He wants his child to grow up in a secure environment where both parents are always there. His not leaving doesn't mean he doesn't love you enough---he does. But you have to tell him to make a decision, for he was the one who made the decision to have a child whether he wanted the kid or not. So you have to set him straight: you love him but cannot wait for him forever. If he chooses responsibility over his love for you, then he declared himself as a father, and you should accept his decision as well and move on. It will be painful but worthwhile to find some guy who is willing to devote their whole heart to you, not just half of it.
2006-06-05 13:07:07 · answer #1 · answered by Sumomo-hime 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STAY AWAY!!!! If he really wanted to leave, he would. He will play on your sympathy and in the end will blow you off. You deserve so much more. You do not need a relationship with all the baggage. Concentrate on finishing your education and establishing yourself. He should be doing the same, especially with a child involved!
2006-06-05 13:01:31 · answer #2 · answered by B Y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can believe anything you want. It is his relationship. If he is not happy about it. it's his responsible to break it not for you to meddle. This is the time to prove action speaks louder than words!! If he really into you, he will break his relationship. whether he's losing security or not. No man or woman should be bind by material means. If he can be bought, you better off with someone else. Cause eventually someone else will top your price and buy him out.....
2006-06-05 13:01:12 · answer #3 · answered by sstooc2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
here is the deal when you talk to him just say well if you break up with her let me know when your ready for a new commitment. this give him the choice and you dont have to think about it anymore.
2006-06-05 12:58:32 · answer #4 · answered by gsschulte 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just show him one b**b. It should take care of it!
2006-06-05 12:59:12 · answer #5 · answered by Junk Head 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋