2006-06-05 12:39:19 · 5 answers · asked by jsjr12469 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
because i to scared to leave i am scared he will take my son or come after me if i leave
2006-06-06 03:34:33 · answer #1 · answered by amanda_ploof 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having left an abusive relationship, I can say that while you are in that situation you honestly want to believe so badly that things will get better, that you do not leave. Men who abuse women in any way, prey on the woman's self-esteem---eating away at it slowly, until she feels she cannot leave. If you have children, and thank god I didn't, it makes it that much more difficult for a number of reasons. First, you feel pressured to keep a family together "for the sake of the kids" despite the fact that it is probably worse for the children. Secondly, abusive partners are naturally controlling.This control can get to the point that all social networks are lost for the abused person, or even financial freedoms being controlled, so that the abused person feels like she/he cannot escape.
So, I don't think women who do not leave are dumb, or as you say "UDUMD," they have just been manipulated to the point of helplessness.
I hope that helps.
2006-06-05 19:48:31 · answer #2 · answered by yng1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To the naked eye, yes, women look dumb (I assume that's what your illiterate statement was saying) for staying, however, until you are in their shoes, don't throw stones. When in an abusive relationship, the abuser belittles you so much that you honestly feel you're not worth more than what he treats you and it's a hard situation to get out of. You get beat if you stay, you could get killed if you leave. Rage is an ugly thing. Pray it never happens to you.
2006-06-05 20:53:04 · answer #3 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I come from a family of 16, 8 guys, 8 gals, and i was one of the younger ones. i had 3 sisters who boyfriends would black their eyes just beat the doo doo out of them, my brothers would go over handle the problem then the next day my sisters would go right back to them..it took the boyfriends traggic accidents to get them outta that situation. if a man or woman has to hit you than there is no future just hell.
2006-06-05 19:58:57 · answer #4 · answered by hottoddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would never stay with a guy that beats on or abuses me!!! GET OUT NOW while you can and get to safety....
2006-06-05 19:58:38 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋