My father is re-married (for the third time) and his current wife wants my daughter to call her grandma. I'm not comfortable with this, since this woman is not my mother. My mother passed away several years ago, before my daughter was born, but in my heart she is my child's grandmother, no matter how long she's been gone. Am I being ridiculous for not wanting my daughter to acknowledge this person as a grandmother????
2006-06-05 12:13:08 · 5 answers · asked by bye bye 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
My Grandmother was remarried several times as I grew up and with each new husband, I was expected to call the new man Grandpa Don or Grandpa Tony. It has had no negative effects on me and I still have a deep love and respect for my "real" grandfather.
I think my parents had me use their first name when addressing the new grandparent so it would be easier to separate the "real" grandparent from the new step grandparent.
I called my "real" grandparents simply Grandpa and Grandma and the step grandparents Grandpa Joe or Grandma Bonnie.
I say if it will keep things running smoothly, let your child call the new grandparent Grandma! Just remind your child often about her "real" grandmother, your mother so she can love and respect the memory of her as well. Good luck!
2006-06-05 12:24:24 · answer #1 · answered by melspags6 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel, the relationship you had with your mom was very special and you want to keep that. Your daughter shouldn't have to call this woman grandma at all but if you had a close relationship with your dad as "a due" to him you might want her to have some kind of "make believe" grandma relationship. As I am sure your daughter will be spending time not only with your dad but her also. Good luck.
2006-06-05 12:19:51 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Mandeville 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with the way that you feel. I would tell her and your Dad that you are not comfortable with this. Tell her, nothing against you, but my Mother is her only grandma and I'm sorry that's just the way it is. Stick to your grounds.
2006-06-05 12:17:43 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fair enough i think maybe you could come to a comprimise and call her nanny jane or what ever her name is we have the same situation and richards girls 5 & 9 just started calling my mum nanny helen. is your daughter old enough to discuss this with?
2006-06-05 12:19:30 · answer #4 · answered by nis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you don't want your child calling her grandma tell her no but maybe make up a name for her like Oma it is grandma in german.
2006-06-05 12:23:00 · answer #5 · answered by sarasucks! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋