Any ideas to spice up sex life or ways to help my husband want to have sex more?

Question

My husband is always so tired after work, he works fulltime and goes to school. It seems like when i want sex he's too tired and vice -versa. Also it seems neither one of us are good at instigating it anymore because we fear rejection. I don't want to be one of those married couples that hardly ever have sex...is this normal. I think sex is important though...and I want to do it more. Any ideas to spice up our sex life or promote more sex?

Answer 1

Viagra usually works.

Answer 2

You need to slow down his pace a little and find a way to put the trials of the world out of sight for a day or two. Perhaps a weekend getaway to a place where the two of yo had great times. Have days when the can be not talk about life's stress factors. You can build up to sex. Just cuddling and having tender moments creates a base desire. Dressing up the evening with some good wine and soft lights including some very appealing outfit and great music can set the mood. Sounds like both of you need time away from the grindstone.

Answer 3

Get a little gift box and make your own little erotic pictionary game. Put in little slips of paper of little things like noises, positions and experiences you've had together over the years. All the little hints to secrets shared by just you two. Wrap it up with a small paper pad and two small pencils and give it to him you after he's had a good meal. You'll laugh and love each other and be smiling the next day. Sex is more than viagra and the act. It is remembering that you are his and he is yours and you have a shared history that can still be erotic and fun in spite of busy life.

PS In the light that he is working and studying, it is absolutly normal to be tired and okay if you don't do it. It doesn't mean you are being rejected, he is JUST TIRED. Just showing how much you care is a big turn on. It is nicer to have one great night than every night with lame-o sex for the sake of being "normal". We get that idea from TV. Real life is not like that.

Answer 4

You didn't mention children, so I assume you don't have any. I would suggest you two, set aside some time and go away for a weekend, to some local romantic get away.
There are usually some of those places within easy driving distance of where you live. Ask around.
Get yourself to the beauty parlor if need be, buy some sexy underwear. Glam yourself up.
Go out to dinner, have a nice glass of wine, rest up, have a good nights sleep.
Romance in the morning, is often the best, as you are both well rested.
You need to jump start your love life. Being tired all the time, can sure kill that, as you have seen.
Try to cut back on your chores or work. Set aside some time for both of you, to reconnect.
Good luck.

Answer 5

One thing that worked for me when I was in the same boat was to talk about it, not complain or argue about it. We came to an agreement that sex was becoming an issue and if we didn't do something about it we would slowly grow apart.
Our solution was to make appointments for sex and keep them, no cell phones, visitors, etc. I suggest you ask for some time to talk and ask your partner not to respond until you lay it all on the table and explain the problem and the solution.
Start with a realistic goal, maybe 2-3 times per week...in addition once per week you get a fantasie and so does he...good luck!!!

Answer 6

There are some foods that will make any guy/gal hor*ny, things like cloves, muscles and oysters are 100% tried and tested. Good sleep of 6+ hrs, less stress, pheromone filled perfumes also boost sex drive. Plan a weekend getaway to a nice place where you can have all this pre-arranged. Give him massage, feed him oysters, and dress in sexy lingerie and put on RL's 'romance. Then reap the benefit all weekend long . Try it and you will thank me later.

Answer 7

Hello Leslie, send your hubby an e-mail or call him and tell him that the two of you are going out one evening on a sexy date!
Set it up in advance so that the two of you both know when it will be and can look forward to it. Pick a restaurant you both enjoy.
Wear something you know he finds sexy on you. At dinner talk about the things the two of you have done sexually that he enjoys and that you enjoy. Get him to talk about it and stay positive.
After dinner, at each stop sign or stop light, kiss him and touch him! Once home, you can remove all of his clothes and tell him to lay on the bed. He can now watch you slowly remove your clothing while you tell him what your going to do to each other once you lay in bed next to him.
You can take it from here!
Plan date nights together! They can be at home making a romantic meal together. You don't always have to go out.
Light some candles, play romantic music. There are a number of things you can do.
Good luck and have fun!

Answer 8

Seriously? Get a trustable sitter and rent a hotel room for the night. You don't have to stay the whole night, just get away and enjoy each other...I'd advise dinner and such as well...honestly once you have a baby its not all about the sex its about finding each other again,

Answer 9

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Answer 10

well im in the same boat you are.... one way is to make things sensual... and maybe, this sounds corny, but a good porno can turn a guy on... its tough to think about sex and gettin it on when you have work and school and all that stuff goin through your head... another way to get your sex life goin is to start workin out... get a nice little work out goin so your stamina is stronger and he has more energy at the end of hte day... good luck

Answer 11

Buy some toys and try some new sex posistions and ideas... How about flavor like cool whip and stuff.... Get him on a day he is not tired and have fun with it!!!!