I have a faithful husband who is the "nice guy". Recently he saw an old friend of his family at a wedding. She was nice to me when introduced, but continued to be very friendly with my husband giving him attention all night while treating me like i didn't exist. I felt this was disrespectful to our marriage. My husband insists that this is all in my head (he thought she was just being nice). He has other attractive friends that are girls that i do not feel the same way about because they take an interest in me as his wife and behave in a classy way around him. what is a polite way to handle this situation? I believe she was not trying to be rude to me but simply was not aware of how to treat a married man.
2006-06-05 11:23:56 · 31 answers · asked by sadie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When it is someone that is a one time situation the best thing to do is to just let it go. If it was someone who was going to be a regular part of your life then your husband should be the one to address the situation with that person.
2006-06-05 11:26:58 · answer #1 · answered by rkrell 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you think your hubby is faithful and that the woman didnt mean to be rude but was just unaware of the way she should treat a married man, then I dont really see a problem! After all, how many times will you see this woman anyway?! Just let it go and act normal. Dont bring it up to your husband so he wouldnt feel like you dont trust him. I dont think it's that big of a deal.
Good Luck!
2006-06-05 18:28:34 · answer #2 · answered by I Am Jack's Wasted Life 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are over reacting to a point, but your husband under reacted. He should have seen the difference in the way she was treating you, and just excused himself from her presence. You might want to look at it as a form of flattery also. The other women are jealous of the man that you have, and they wished that they could be so lucky. He should also retreat from all of the other female friends, he should only show interest in you, his wife, and the family entity.
2006-06-05 18:31:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said they were old friends did you ever ask your husband if they had ever had a relationship before you. I really don't think you should be concerned it was a one time thing and if not trust before anything. Just remember even if she wants your husband if hes happy with you and you know he is then its driving her crazy inside and that's why she is acting like that. Your the one going home with him not her. Its ok to get alittle jealous at times but show her that it doesn't bother you that's the best way.
2006-06-05 19:52:19 · answer #4 · answered by chemicalbrothers13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are around her again ask her after you have talked for a while. That you felt that a certain girl was been to friendly with your husband and ask her how she would react if it was her husband? And see what she says, and how she acts. Then go from there.
2006-06-05 18:38:10 · answer #5 · answered by Twilight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hubby seems to like the attention which is why he downplayed your concerns. The woman's behavior is not your problem unless hubby responds inappropriately. No reason to be jealous unless hubby is giving you reason to be so, and that doesn't seem to be the case. Let the babe do her worst while you do your best for your hubby. Keep open communication with him, address the problem and not his character or your insecurity. It might be good for you to give some thought over why the woman made you feel so insecure. Communicate, communicate, communicate.
2006-06-05 18:32:19 · answer #6 · answered by jayjohnson5295 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was my husband...you better believe that he would have gotten a good "talking to" if you know what I mean.
Also, it troubles me that he sort of just ignored you at the wedding. That is hurtful and disrespectful.
Perhaps marital counseling from a counselor would do your marriage some good. It helps to talk things out with someone who is impartial.
2006-06-05 18:31:19 · answer #7 · answered by Toolooroo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hold your busband, kiss him in front of thos women, hug him, tell him how you feel, he should understand, and put his limits and not continue the converstaion with them if that bothers you.
Plus it seems like your husband is attractive, so you should be happy, kuz you should be like, yea thats my man, and im doing him every night, and not you. Thats the best thing.
If it was me, i would just go up to my husband, stay close with him, and not let them get too close to him. And just let them now without doing anything, that hes mine, and i dont share!
2006-06-05 18:38:57 · answer #8 · answered by Happily Married 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can tell a lot about women in general by how they are to you vs. your husband. I always have my eyes open. I'd probably be lovey-dovey w/my husband so she'd get the point. Hands off b*****! Best wishes to ya.
2006-06-05 22:49:50 · answer #9 · answered by Just Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm assuming you mean by not decking them, I hope.
You should have your husband talk to her about etiquette regarding a married couple. You should also let him know how much this is bothering you, and that it makes you unhappy.
I wish you the best.
2006-06-05 18:28:28 · answer #10 · answered by Terri C. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋