What should i do if my boyfriend doesnt have alot of time to talk to me? I dont want to lose him!!?

Question

I love my boyfriend alot but he hardly ever gets the chance to talk to me.He is always busy:working, & talkin to family.

I love him and he told me that he would die if he lost me. he thought i was leavin him last night and he almost shot himself. i dont want to hurt him

i dont want to hurt him.

Answer 1

Pull him aside in front of the family just ask him if he's lost interest if not tell him you love him and you are dying for some attention from him I'm sure hell give you all the attention you need and then some....

Answer 2

wow u really need help with this one. sit him down and tell him that u wouldnt leave him unless he left u first or there was a reason. and if u ever do tell him not 2 do anything 2 himself. bcuz what if he hurts himself and then u to would've happened 2 get back 2gether? the fact that he almost killed himself shows that he *is* willing 2 do anything for u. sometimes that a good thing, other times its not. just tell him every day or when u get the chance 2 talk 2 him , that u love him. bcuz if u dont do thjat enough, he mite think u r losing interest. and if that happens, he mite hurt himself. he obviously cares alot about u, so dont show any signs that he should get suspicious about. and if he ever gets close 2 doing something out of the ordinary like that again, as soon as he has the time, tell him not 2 do that bcuz as long as u love him u will never lose imterest.

if u 2 ever happen 2 break up, tell him that u can still be close friends*so that he doesnt do anything crazy like that*


i really hope this helps bcuz nobody deserves a loved oneto kill or hurt themself. tell him that u dont want 2 lose him and he probably wont do it anymore. u rnt the one hurtung him. he is making it up in his mind that u r losing interest. make sure he know's that u rnt sohe doesnt so anything that would hurt ur relationship if he cares about u so much.

hope it helps!!!

Answer 3

I think someone else may have said this already but you need to leave this guy. The most important part any relationship is communication. You are a woman, you desire closeness, connection and intimacy and you deserve those things.

I would have said pull him aside and let him know how you feel. Create magic moments with him. However the comment about almost shooting himself - That should ring alarm bells!!
That is not love, that is obligation, guilt and fear designed to make you see a future of fear if you leave him. You need to get some loved ones around you and ask them or support create a safe network around you, then let him know you will not be bullied into staying in a relationship he is not interested in nurturing. Yes his work is important but if he needs the space to get sorted out you will give him that by leaving.

Answer 4

Communication.
Set a time aside. Tell him you love him and ask him how the two of you can change things. Make it a mutual goal and not a finger pointing at him. Make it a goal you two can work on. Tell him you need more communication to feel connected to him.
How about a ten second kiss every day. A 20 second hug a day.
Set aside a time to talk. And you might have to make time. He won't know what you need unless he hears it from you in a non threatening way. This could be an investment in your future.

Answer 5

Ask if you are so very important to him, why, exactly, he is not making you a priority in his life. Sounds like he has some severe emotional problems and is exploiting the fact that you "don't want to lose him" and "don't want to hurt him." Next time he threatens suicide tell him that nobody is stopping him. Emotional blackmail is one thing, but emotional blackmail when one is neglecting the other person is ridiculous! Perhaps an ultimatum of "seek therapy or I'm out of here" would be in order at this time. But don't say it unless you are prepared to follow through.

Answer 6

Excuse me--he "almost shot himself"??For ANY reason? This guy needs help. And you are NOT the one objective enough to give it to him. And it is not your responsibility. Your responsibility is to take care of yourself, and to expect adult and healthy behaviour, when you do that. You almost left because you are deeply unhappy. Go with that. Put him in touch with a therapist before you go, if you absolutely can't restrain yourself from fretting over what he'll do with himself after you're gone, but then leave it at the door---as you step through it!! And get yourself some supprt too, if you need it. This sounds really disturbing. Why are people not reacting to that giant clanging alarm bell, like I am??? Wow.

Answer 7

The bases for your present relationship situation is one of co=dependency!. You both need to take a break from one another and see and date other people. Don't leave your self with just settling when there is a whole world out there waiting to be explored.

You also sound very young (teen-or pre-teen). You have plenty of time to settle yourself down with a committed relationship.

You boyfriend won't kill himself. People use this control tactic as a means of getting attention. It's also a way to hurt you. Leave this boyfriend NOW before it is to late!

Answer 8

He doesn't have time to talk to you because he's busy working and talking to family, then he almost shot himself because he thought he was going to lose you? Are you serious, you shouldn't be in that relationship. You might as well just lock yourself up in the closet and wait for him to come and go as he pleases. He sounds unstable, immature and irresponsible and the best thing you can do it get out of there while you still can. Think about your safety and your future first.

Answer 9

If he's talking about hurting himself, he's either manipulative, in need of help, or both. Either way, it's too big for you to take on by yourself. Check out a movie called "Fear" starring Mark Wahlberg. Then, after watching it, re-think your position. If he doesn't contact you, but he "needs" you, then it sounds to me as if he's playing you for the fool you could be if you don't allow someone who can, to handle this situation with you. Empower yourself by not allowing him to rattle you and get someone else involved. If you can't talk to your parents, maybe a close family friend or a high school counselor? Seriously, it sounds as if you're in way over your head. And should he be found out as a player, dump the boy, 'cos that's all he could ever be to you; a boy who plays games. Good luck...

Answer 10

Ever heard of the book called "He's just not that into you."?
If not, then get it and read it.
If a guy really likes you, no matter HOW busy he is, he'll find a way to at least tell you he's thihking of you.
Come on. With text messaging and e-mails these days and everythings else, there's no real reason he has for
no having a chance to talk to you. It is a cop-out!