My husband and I are having marital problems and he has taken his wedding band off. He says he will put it back on when he is ready. We have been having financial problems. I don't work outside the home at this moment but I have. I substitute at my 2 childrens school. We have our good day and he still kisses me and and says I love you. I just am confused. I would really love have some good advice. Before this we always got along and joked alot. Its just since the financial problems we have been arguing alot for the past 2 months. Do most men leave their wives over this. I honestly and truely love him. PLEASE GIVE GOOD ADVICE!
2006-06-05 10:44:06 · 6 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hello, it sounds like your husband is just having some real problems dealing with his stress. You need to get him to talk about things and open up. Once he does this, the two of you can keep talking and it will help him to get this off of his chest so to speak. Can you do this, have a friend or relative watch the kids for an evening. Tell him that the two of you are going to have an evening home alone. Make something for dinner that he really enjoys. Wear something (it doesn't have to be sexy) that he likes to see on you. Once your sitting down, keep things positive, start by talking about the good times the two of you have had together. Once things are going well, talk to him about what is troubling him. Try to remain positive at all times. Express to him that your worried to and how much you love him and how the two of you WILL get through this TOGETHER! Don't push him about the wedding ring, get things going good first then if he doesn't put it back on in a few days, ask him nicely about it.
Good luck and stay positive!
2006-06-05 10:58:20 · answer #1 · answered by Ekimo 5 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Hello
take your time and breathe.... It must have taken a while to get the marriage to this point.... Why has he taken the ring off if i may ask? I tend to think it is more then just financial problems that has led up to this. Is he open to marriage counseling with you and maybe you both should talk to a financial advisor or counselor as well. He must still love you... It seems to me he is just frustrated and upset... Love him where he is at and let him know you will be there for him now matter what. Stick by his side and help him get past the financial stuff....
2006-06-05 10:51:18 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you go to church at all? if so then both of you go talk to your minister, priest whatever.
If you do not go to church then try some counselling.
Finacial is one of the biggest things couples argue about. Try sitting down and talking. Frugal times might be what is needed. Can you pick up more work during the week at all?
2006-06-05 10:54:46 · answer #3 · answered by moonspawnhotmailcom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, talk, talk, talk is the best advice I can give. My husband was having all kinds of feelings I didn't know about until he left it (and me!) in a note on Thursday. I wish you so much luck. Make him feel loved and appreciated. Do it before it's too late.
2006-06-05 10:53:39 · answer #4 · answered by carolscreation 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The number one thing that couples get tense over is money. If everyone that had that problem divorced, there wouldn't be any of us left
2006-06-05 10:48:20 · answer #5 · answered by lovesyourdiamond 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
same thing happened to me too good luck cause I am not having much myself
2006-06-05 11:13:27 · answer #6 · answered by pk80203 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋