Should I? Shouldn't I ?

Question

有件事困擾我有一些時日, sometimes it comes to my mind, but not all the time.
與前男友分開已一年+, 我自認是一理性之人也顧及對方也真是沒勇氣跟他聯絡.
但有時覺得遺憾,遺憾的是即使是不怎麼熟的朋友都可問候,但曾經與你如此親密的人卻連問候都顯得複雜. This is like going back and forth inside my mind. 連最簡單的問候都不知如何提筆更別說該不該提筆.我並不想造成他的負擔,但卻已造成自己的負擔甚至常夢見他.對於曾有憂鬱症的他,只想知道...「他好不好？」
卻不知如何做才是....還是什麼都不應該做~ What you think?

Nope, not a "third" party. I had been with him for 2 years then he called for a stop without any reason. Yet, I respected his decision.
我十分同意藉由共同的朋友或家人去了解他的近況但可惜的是這正是我知道沒法做到的.他的朋友我認識的在國外.他家人對我很好也實在不想造成她們的困擾.

As I am a relational person, I would never ask him *why*... We broke up a year ago, asking *why* wasn't suitable enough and it wasn't my intention tho. So, no worry ~~~

rational :P sorry, typo!

Answer 1

與前男友分開已一年+.......也顧及對方Are you the "third" party?If you are, then....If you are not, then why not?? Who said that one cannot be friend after 分開. I agree it is not easy, but it does not have to be a world apart. The distance may seem far apart, but remember, all journy begins with a first step. If you don't take a step, you will never know.想知道他好不好？Go find out then!!Love is caught by those with courage.=========================Good, not a third party.I don't like the idea of going through friend or family. If I were him and I found out that my X was checking on me "behind" my back, I would not feel comfortable as if she was afraid of me or something. Afterall, you two were lovers once. Lovers are closer than friends. You would not check up on an old friend behind his/her back, right? If an old friend would only go through other friends to check on you, you would not feel comfortable, right? Then why do it this way?One suggestion if you dicide to contact your X again. DON'T demand or ask for the cause or reason why you two broke up. (Too hostile) Approach him like an old friend.This is my 2 cent....==================Good luck then

Answer 2

我建議您可以藉由共同的朋友去了解他的近況,
因為彼此也害怕再受到傷害(按常理猜測)
所已經由彼此共同的朋友是最好的方法!