我是太在乎他還是小器呢?

Question

我同男朋友都係外國讀書的（係大學識）
但係唔係hk 人，係國內人
我１９歲，但係佢已經２４歲了
我地係埋一齊左差唔多半年了．
其實我地已經一齊住左３個月，下星期仲會正式搬去第二度一齊住
佢好ｔａｋｅ　ｃａｒｅ　我，無論我發脾氣都好，佢都會哄返我
但其實我一直都覺得佢仲有ｄ掛住佢以前既女朋友（佢以前既女朋友好靚，又成熟，又了解佢，佢地係因為分開２地而分手的，係我男朋友提出的）
上一個月，　佢屋企有ｄ事，有家人過左身，所以佢同ｄ好朋友傾計，但俾我知道左佢同佢朋友話我又令佢廢心，始終都係佢以前個女朋友好，我到而家都好唔開心呀．．
我知道自己思想比較細，無佢地咁成熟．但係我真係好鍾意佢架．我發覺自己愈來愈小器，一關於佢以前既女朋友既事就好唔開心．．
點樣先可以令我大方一ｄ，做到佢心目中又成熟，又善解仁意既女朋友呢？

Answer 1

1但其實我一直都覺得佢仲有ｄ掛住佢以前既女朋友（佢以前既女朋友好靚，又成熟，又了解佢，佢地係因為分開２地而分手的，係我男朋友提出的）
答:記然你都話之前係你男朋友提出分手,既係佢都決定左啦~
你地都一齊住左３個月下星期仲搬去第二度一齊住啦,你仲諗咁多做咩呢

2上一個月，　佢屋企有ｄ事，有家人過左身，所以佢同ｄ好朋友傾計，但俾我知道左佢
同佢朋友話我又令佢廢心，始終都係佢以前個女朋友好，我到而家都好唔開心呀．．
答:有時男仔都會口不對心 如果係心計ga男仔可能會用朋友來令你更加鍾意佢,有d仲會玩弄感情~有d係因為想你緊佢多d先咁做~仲會有好多其他原因 不過如果你覺得佢唔係咁ga都唔出奇,因為lee個只係佢話以前個女朋友好其中幾個可能 ga原因~係咪佢親自同你講呢?如果唔係就未必係真,只有你自己廳到同見到ga野先係真,有d野你自己會比較清楚,又或者其實你心裹已經有答案 最仲要ga係佢好ｔａｋｅ　ｃａｒｅ你 我諗如果佢唔係認真對你都唔會咁ｔａｋｅ　ｃａｒｅ你啦~如果你覺得佢係鍾意你認真ga lee d男仔已經好好 你都睇到我之前寫ga男仔係點架啦~如果你覺得同而家lee個一起辛苦ga,有第二個男仔好過佢,佢又比到你幸福,一起開心過而家lee個,穩重過而家lee個,感情又好過而家lee個,樣ok,你又鍾意佢多d,你可以同佢一起~但係你要知到而家d男仔係點同你個bf係點先好做lee個決定 如果你心裹有答案,就唔洗諗咁多架啦~

3點樣先可以令我大方一ｄ，做到佢心目中又成熟，又善解仁意既女朋友呢？
答:咁就要睇下佢係咪鍾意lee種類形ga女仔,有d男仔都鍾意d比較細心ga女仔~記住如果你麻木咁為佢而改變自己你會好辛苦,嚴重什至會失去自我~所以如果你覺得你太緊佢,就要搵下其他你自己ga喜好愛佢已經好足夠,唔好麻木去愛佢 如果對得住自己對得住佢又有咩唔好呢 做一個好ga人已經好足夠~唔洗太好 太好而又做唔到自己又有咩意私呢?

2007-03-26 06:01:19 補充：
直話說你會比外人清楚吧我們只能給你意見和評論如果我說得太肯定有什麼事起來我也對不起

Answer 2

Miss, you are making the WRONG turn !
You should not change ... and there is no need to change ...
He already complain that "佢朋友話我又令佢廢心，始終都係佢以前個女朋友好" ...
if he like you that much, he won't even complaint ... a REAL man should never complaint something like this to his friends ...
He should let go of the past. No matter how beautiful and how good the ex she is ...
NOTHING HE CAN CONTROL and IT IS THE PAST ... LET GO !
You are in love with him, so a bit jealousy is ok .... and I can see you love him more than he love you ...
He just use you as a substitute ... not a REAL man should do ... why compare people .... "person compare with another person, one person will die" .... so simple ... so naive ... he is ...
He should accept who you are, because you did not cheat him .... he accept you as the girlfriend, live together with you, have sex with you ... then he should be thankful to you ... HOW MATURE HE IS ? I don't think so .... if a man is mature he won't say all those BS to other friends .... so I can deny that he is mature :P !
anyway, be yourself, love him as you always are .... and I feel that he just want to give you pressure to push you to under his control ... 善解仁意既女朋友, you are already one, since you ask question here and try to do something for him ...
but I said you don't need to ... hopefully he will treasure you much .... and one day if he see a more beautiful girl or more of his type, he will treasure you and not let you go ... bear in mind ... I am not warning you, but he is not a gentleman already ... while saying BS about you in the back ...
just hao hao take care and learn who is a real mature man ...
hope all help and always be confident with yourself ... and keep a good heart
like you have now :)