我男友唔鐘意聽我講煩既野...我屋企令我好煩...次次我一同男友講煩野...佢既回應就咁"係咩?!"...咁算係意思jei....佢覺得煩就唔想聽唔想理,咁一對情侶唔係應亙相分享大家既開心同唔開心咩...佢又成日話唔知點回應我...佢話次次都係聽我講煩野...但係又唔係日日講..只係屋企有時發生先同佢講....佢又話個人唔想煩..番工又煩...佢話佢一煩又會掉頭髮...其實佢係真係有掉頭髮...但次次我一同佢講唔開心,佢就淨係up果2個字..."係咩"...之後就咩都唔講...我就好憎佢...好似佢同我講煩野我就有聽....我同佢講就唔得...
次次搞到我有心事都唔想同佢講..因為講完佢又話煩...佢自己就話覺得煩唔想聽就大哂咁 /_\\
我成日因此覺得自己好似得自己一個咁...有煩同唔開心都冇人可以傾...
2007-03-07 04:47:22 · 5 個解答 · 發問者 Anonymous in 家庭與人際關係 ➔ 其他：家庭與人際關係
講真，睇完你上面果段野，真係覺得幾煩，不過，唔係你的問題，相信呢個世界上有好多人都會面對同一問題，只要你慢慢分析，問題就可以迎刃而解。
問題一︰男朋友唔想聽你講煩野
聽你咁講，你男朋友的工作壓力應該幾大，請你不要再比壓力佢，如果唔係，你只會迫虎跳牆，到有一天佢忍唔住，你會迫走佢，小心。如果佢唔想聽你講煩野，你必須找另一個渠道去發洩你的煩惱，你可以同朋友講你的問題，相信佢地都會好樂意幫你，咁你咪又唔駛煩你男朋友，你又唔駛因為佢唔聲你講心事而憎佢，而你又可以搵人傾訊，一舉三得。
問題二︰你和男朋友的相處
我相信你和男朋友的相處是非常不協調，你說得對「一對情侶的確要互相分享大家既開心同唔開心的事」，但我不明白你男朋友是什麼原因會這樣，可能這一向是你們的相處方式，可能環境影響，又或者……可能性實在太多，你們必須要認真溝通一下，溝通亦是你們另一個問題，由於你地欠缺溝通，你們的相處才會有這個問題，快啲同佢傾下，協調下大家的相處方式，問題一路落去就會越來越大，快啲為你們的愛情努力。
問題三︰你自己
睇到你呢句野「我成日因此覺得自己好似得自己一個咁...有煩同唔開心都冇人可以傾...」，不知道你會不會是只有愛情沒有友情的人呢？為何男朋友不聽你傾訊便會覺得自己是一個人呢，你的家人，你的朋友，也可以是一個很好的傾訊對像，記住﹐愛情不是人生的全部，相信於你過份投入愛情時，你已忽略了很多很重要的事，試試給多一點時間於愛情以外的事物中，你會發覺你還擁有的有很多。
還有，不要滿口子也是抱怨的說話，想一想於這件事當中自己有什麼做得不妥，為什麼別人對你會有這樣的評價，再想想有什麼可以做，可以改善一下呢一個局面，不要浪費時間去抱這些無謂的怨。
發洩是必要，但常掛在口中及對每事也抱有一個負面的態度，這只會使你越來越灰，改變一下你自己的想法，你會比現在更開心。
P.S. 嘗試去建立一個接納的心，你一定會比現在更快樂。
2007-03-07 07:28:01 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
又唔怪得晒你男友既,有時一個人係出面受左氣又或者要係有好大壓力既環境下做野都會好怕有其他人去煩佢,但你既身份係佢既女朋友,佢唔應該成日都嫌你煩,你唔開心果時佢一定要係你身邊開解你支持你,唔可以唔想聽你傾訴你既心事,我覺得一對情侶一定要有足夠既溝通先會快樂,如果大家一直都欠缺溝通,這樣的關係很有問題,你好應該搵日坐低同你男友好好地傾下依個問題
2007-03-16 22:22:00 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
冇錯一對情侶唔係應亙相分享大家既開心同唔開心,
但大家都要亙相體諒大家既感受喎,
如果佢係覺得你講既野煩,而你又繼續係咁講既話,
就係你唔體諒佢喇,因為每人既感受都唔同架,
其實你唔一定要同你男朋友講你屋企D煩野架喎
你可以同你另外D好朋友講下架,
同你男朋友就講D開心既野,咁你兩個人一齊時咪會開心D囉,
我覺得唔好咁依賴一個人會好D囉...
2007-03-07 06:17:20 · answer #3 · answered by Kathy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
你都識講係你屋企既事....做男朋友有時好難去幫到你...
而且你男友可能更加多野煩緊...可以佢都想靜下...
你試下send sms比佢....起碼佢一定會睇
2007-03-07 05:32:25 · answer #4 · answered by szeto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
男友 Not equals to 知音/知己.
To be realistics, 知己+知音+男友+ future husband is very tough to find.
Sometimes, your 男友 is not smart enough to solve your problem anyway,
or sometimes he just does not have the patience for it.
男友 basic requirement is different from everyone, so may be your need a
知音/知己 more than 男友.
For me, 男友 is a person who you like to be around with, a guy that you feel like kissing and holding hands, even taking your clothes off in front of him, you won't feel uncomfortable, and you seeing him with body suit is also ok. (that is the physical side). In emotional side, it is very tough to find a man who can understand a lady anyway, Woman from Venus, Man from Mars ...
We are created differently.
You have to consider your 男友 also, if he is not smart enough or just not patient with you, it is ok for him, he has the right !!!! not to listen to your problems ...
Your work problem and your peers problem are so general to him, if he just want to give advice to you to something he has no clue ? He better shut up anyway.
As long as you like to be with him together and he can kiss you and you like to kiss him .... that is the basic requirement for a BF ....
男友 + money provider + understanding + smart + problem solver + life partner + future husband + psychologist + consultants are very hard to find ...
so good luck ...
my conclusion is understand your limitation in the relationship and don't be over idealistic ...
Similar to man, they can find a good sex partner, but how many ladies can solve the problem of a man or even understand most of it ... very tough also ... so a
GF + money provider + understanding + smart + problem solver + life partner + future husband + psychologist + consultants is also hard to find.
hope all help
2007-03-07 05:09:20 · answer #5 · answered by alien3333 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋