我已經同男朋友一起 8 年了......
係.....佢真係好了解我....
佢知道我要d 咩......
但我亦知道佢好難比到我想要的0野我.........
又或者咁講.....我男朋友冇打算比到一直以來我想追求同想得到0既0野.....
我同佢之間的價值觀好不同.........
我同佢追求的野都唔一樣..........
但我同佢不經不覺已經一齊左8年....
這幾年我地拍拖的生活已經好枯燥.........
大家都冇諗過比d 咩 surprise 對方....
佢覺得都咁耐啦.....唔再需要這些表面0野........
好多人都覺得我地應該結婚.....佢仲係我第一個男朋友........
佢對我又真係一條心......佢唔會出去拈花惹草.........
好心煩......我怕分左手我唔會遇到一個比佢更好......
我怕我會後悔.....
但再拖落去我怕第二時更加唔捨得.......
點算好??
2007-02-21 21:36:31 · 9 個解答 · 發問者 AthenaMee 2 in 家庭與人際關係 ➔ 其他：家庭與人際關係
我唔係要佢比d 咩物質上的禮物......
我意思係指佢比唔到我將來想追求的生活方式......
佢想要的生活方式同我想要的好唔同.......
2007-02-22 07:05:05 · update #1
人，好多時面對抉擇的時候，都會陷於兩難中，繼續維持現狀，抑或係放棄，沒有一定的答案，面對自己的男朋友，我諗你有一種：「食之無味，棄之可惜」的感覺‧你清楚知道你男朋友俾唔到你想要既野，但係要你放手，又驚揾唔到另一個比他更好，心情真係好矛盾‧
其實你地一齊己經有八年了，時間是頗為長，我諗你地已經非常熟悉大家，就好似家人一樣的感覺，朝見面，晚見面，就係因為太熟悉的關係，令你地的關係失去驚喜，令你感覺你地是否在拍拖...
不過，我覺得八年時間，真係好耐，感情並不是一朝一夕建立的，所以有時候我地要身在福中要知福，你可以嘗試重新去挖掘他的長處，你可以去制造驚喜俾大家，譬如你可以做一些大家有興趣的事，就算係 一齊食飯都係好既....或者得閒放假的時候，可以去沙灘、去行山、讀讀書.....
但係如果你選擇放棄呢一段的感情，你要承受的是你會失去你的男朋友，同時，你唔可以後悔你的選擇......
2007-02-21 22:52:18 · answer #1 · answered by Polly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
其實搵錯壞男人先會後悔，何況妳以家係搵到個好男人喎點解重要
我諗妳地應該係時間結婚啦沖喜下
拍拖太耐感情一定會掉淡
ｓｏ～要搵一樣大家既共同目標去努力
幸福就在妳身邊
2007-02-22 16:58:06 · answer #2 · answered by sean_lky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"一直以來我想追求同想得到0既0野" 係咩 ????
小姐
兩個人一起生活就是這樣
妳們只是走到感情的第二~三階段
開始接受第三階段的考驗 (妳喜歡考就考吧, 不想左右妳)
反正還有第四階段
2007-02-22 01:57:14 · answer #3 · answered by 西門吹水 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
唔好!~如果你係愛佢,而佢又愛你,咁點解要分手呢??
我都try過,不過...只係一齊佐一日,因為辛苦兩個字,我們分手,本來係him我提出分手,
因此唔想傷心所以我說分手,我到而家都好後悔...分手
所以你千萬唔好小小野而分手
我唔想你自己後悔...好似我咁...forever後悔
2007-02-22 01:28:05 · answer #4 · answered by chi wai 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
臨分開之際 臨崩潰之際
還好支撐到底
懷中這一切 曾出力地維繫
枯燥，係咪真係枯燥先！？
妳話佢同妳唔同價值觀，咁如果一樣，妳咪又話悶又枯燥，再者，「若要人似我，除非兩個我。」，妳想佢同妳諗既野一樣先好咩？咁妳咪即係想同自己拍拖。窮則變、變則通，妳e家有時間諗分唔分手，不如諗下點解決好過啦，如果你兩個真係關係咁差，你e條問題應該係8年前就解決左啦，如果妳e 8年黎都係辛苦咁過既話，妳都應該已經跳左樓啦，但係妳唔係wo，妳係e家先想起一D暗湧，妳只係一時既衝動姐。
妳真係想分手？妳諗下妳e 8年既生日點過先啦。
妳真係想分手？妳諗下妳e 8年既聖誕點過先啦。
妳真係想分手？妳諗下妳e 8年既情人節點過先啦。
妳真係想分手？妳諗下黎緊既生日會點過？諗下黎緊既聖誕會點過？
不知足，不常樂。青春有限，好男仔有限。如果係因為日子耐左而妳覺得佢悶，佢好可憐，不過妳仲可憐，分左手10年後，妳會覺得妳果時既男朋友悶，又換，10年後，又悶，又換.......一個女仔有幾多個10年？幾多個女仔可以只用10年既穩定？
姊妹，我相信妳既心態係覺得未玩夠姐，其實我同我女朋友有時都會咁，但當我諗返佢點對我好，我就會知道唔可以辜負佢，因為佢愛我！
2007-02-21 23:38:52 · answer #5 · answered by matthew 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
其實你諗唔諗住分開,你自己都應該最清楚
如果要分開就快 講真 有幾多個八年呀
唔係既話 再多幾年你先同佢講咩
如果佢比唔到你要既野你 而你又覺得唔得既
咁你之前果八年一直都係佢比唔到你要既野你
咁你又可以接受 點解而加唔得?
而你又講到佢咁好 如果真係分開左
你諗下自己會唔會後悔
而唔分開 你又會唔會仲後悔....
覺得冇左咁多時間 自己諗下啦
2007-02-21 22:26:22 · answer #6 · answered by xx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
唔好咁易就諗分手呀~
會好慘~好辛苦~
我就係好似你一樣~不過我六年~我而家好後悔點解之前會有咁既諗法!!!
而家無左先覺得好~
珍惜la朋友~
2007-02-21 22:15:06 · answer #7 · answered by yuen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
你係咪愛佢丫而家??
如果你係愛佢,而佢又愛你,咁點解要分手呢??
你有無諗過點解佢明知你鐘意某d野都唔送俾你呢??係因為佢經濟問題定係其他??
大部份拍拖既男仔如果知道個女仔鐘意d咩,都會送俾佢或者俾個suprise佢
你應該主動d同佢傾下,或者你同佢出街既時候,咁岩見到你鐘意既野(例如毛公仔等)
你就嗲下佢,叫佢買俾你,如果佢話貴/唔實用等等你可以即時爆晒你d心底話出黎(激將法)
但係唔好過激 ( 視乎佢既性格 ) 如果佢係好忍等,你可以專登激下佢,等佢知你諗乜
例如可以講:雖然我地拍左8年,你又覺得唔再須要呢d野,但係我係一個女仔黎嫁,唔多唔小
你都買d野黎氹下我呀,每個女仔都會鐘意比自己男朋友氹嫁啦,我都係一樣嫁
不過一定唔好提出分手,話晒你地都拍左8年啦係咪,或者佢有一日會無啦啦買左隻介子俾你
向你求婚呢!! 睇開d啦,一講左分手就好難收返,就算你地有8年感情都係咁話
希望幫到你啦~
2007-02-21 21:52:47 · answer #8 · answered by Nos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Miss,
Value system is a big issue. In order to have a fruitful relationship.
Value system must be matching on both side. And you should be
understanding and mature enough and that is why you are asking.
The issue is that both of you and your bf, does not want to tolerate
or sacrifice for each other. Love is not big enough to sacrifice the
value system difference. Even so, Love will fade, reality will come back,
so it is not going to be smooth in the long run.
In experience and record, almost 70%+ marriage problem started from
value system differences.
Example : If you are an ambitious lady, and love money, while your bf
is very slow and does not have too much interest on making more money...
It is very hard to push him... and everytime you push, finally one day he
will fight back ... that is not going to work in the long run.
Don't get marry because you guys stay too long together,
Don't worry about your won't find another person, because a matching one
is somewhere waiting for you. Be positive on that.
The logics is if you don't like your current job, will you shift to a new job and
demand a change ? if you will, break up and move on ...
Otherwise, stay and tolerate the difference.
It is healty ? No, but it is always a trade off, one side must step down or
tolerate the difference. But if you are stepping down, will you happy ...
That is one side-effect from male-female power balance in our advanced society.
We no longer has marry chicken, follow chicken, marry dog, follow dog ...
Because cat marry chicken, want chicken to become cat ... now :)
hao hao take care and good luck
alien
2007-02-21 21:52:32 · answer #9 · answered by alien3333 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋