我想知道我算唔算專一.........如果唔算咁點先叫做專一呢.........??

Question

我諗依個可以叫做我第一次鍾意嘅女仔..............
因為以前個啲可能係細路仔嘅意想...............
我鐘意咗姖大概年半
我話咗比我個朋友知.......跟住我個朋友話咗比姖知
第二日姖唔同我親講竟口然叫果個人同我講唔好再鐘意姖
因為我咁比人話法就冇辦法唔放棄啦

大概一年之後我先鐘意第二個人

第二個鐘意咗姖大概4年
但係我點問姖......姖都係咩嘢都唔講....講第二樣嘢.....好似當件事唔存在咁
所以我喺一個月前放棄咗

第三個我係大概喺兩個禮拜前鐘意姖
我同姖講咗我鐘意姖
但係個答案又好似係又好似唔係..........唔係好明.........
我都唔敢再追問..........唔想咁唔好意思.........
當然我係唔會放棄啦
因為我好愛姖
而且我諗住第時返香港親口同姖講.........因為我喺外國

我算唔算專一呀.............如果唔算咁點先算呀.................

當lauling2001講到我有冇係同一時鐘意多個一個人..........
我唔記得寫上..........我只係一次鐘意一個人嫁姐...............
我冇同時間鐘意多個一個人..............

Answer 1

man,

you are ok, that is called "MOVING ON", nothing bad.
Girls always like that they don't even know what they want !!!
Tell me what you want ?
Do you want a stable relationship or friendship ?
Then I recommend a smart girl as friend, no need to escalate
and be friend forever. She can help you in a lot of way,
a "soul mate".

But if you want some kissing or sex ?
then I recommend a younger girl around 20+, no more than 26 ...
and flirt with them, they are young and beautiful, good body
and no worry about future, confident ...
Those are the girlfriend type, have passionate kiss and even good sex ...
if things change, move on, get another one, they are young, you
wont have regret if you leave them... since they can handle themselve
very fast and get a new bf fast ...

OK, if you want a wife, different story ...
you need to have the same value system, similar style of life, similar
angles to this world, of course, staying together and sleep with her
daily, you have to handle the bads and goods also ...
Get a lady who can match all those, think about if she lost the looks,
do you still want to be with her, think about if her hair is all white,
do you want to still kiss her ... think about if you are broke and bald,
will she still follow you and support you ....
then she is the wife ....!

Don't waste too much time on all those "YOU ARE NOT MY CUP OF TEA" ladies...
I know you are a fine young man, but may not be the type like andy lau or
aaron kwok ... so take it easy ... get a girl that care about your heart more,
your talent and skill ... your career or money ...
LEARNING HOW TO MAKE A GIRL FEEL IMPORTANT AND LAUGH IS VERY IMPORTANT .... You have to learn how to become more creative and playful
with words ... and verbal conversation....

If you like her now, TELL HER, don't waste time ... Once a girl just treat you as friend,
you are always friend ... no way to move up ...
you have to take her by surprise .... when she is confused, push more, and make
her no defense ...

Yes, remote relationship is tough, but phone call once or twice a day ... it can be very nice... when you are back in HK, you can even have a good meeting with her ...
if she is open ... you can have "honey moon" with her, good sex good everything ...

Just learn to open yourself, and FORGET ABOUT THE PAST EXPERIENCE !!!
MOVE ON SO MANY GOOD LADIES AROUND ...

Good luck

alien

Answer 2

我覺得專一既定義很廣. 倒不如說 一個人 有沒有人格.
我覺得人係有感覺既動物. 當你見到一個. 好似好理想. 又好arm自己既人出現,
很難不會不動情.當然. 在了解未深的時候. 都是因為新鮮感 同未知對方的缺點. 把對象完美化, 才有這種感覺的
只是.. 如果自己是理智/性的. 會考慮一下結果. 先理一下別人感受.
人並不雖要刻意 壓抑自己的感受. 我覺得自己係好花心既人. 會同時鍾意幾幾個人
不過.. 返返現實.. 如果我的伴侶是對我不錯的. 我亦會好好的對待她.
如果我不再愛她. 我會先與她分手. 幾個月冷靜後才會考慮其他人
我覺得專一的定義. 只是 心裏面想做. 只是不會有實際行動而己
專一 係努力維繫. try去改變自己既缺點. 接受對方既缺點既善良品德
當我選擇左一個人. 我會花時間與她一起. 就算她不是我的最愛. 其間不受引誘. 送上門, 我又超鍾意. 都不會接受.
咁唔知算唔算專一?



其實男仔可以話每個都係專一既
但係要睇佢個專一程度去到邊啦
有d男仔拍左三個月或者更短既時間
(佢地既專一程序可能淨係得三個月，
又或者有d人真係咁樣，但有好多野可能係我地唔知既呢，
呢d人地外人批評個男仔「貪新鮮」，呢d係要睇下個男仔本身既好多野)
另一d男仔拍拖成十年甚至一世 咁呢d人比人講到長情，好好先生等讚賞既形容詞
呢d就可以話專一既程度比較長
咁其實我覺得冇論長又好 短又好
只要你係同男仔相處既時間入面 你覺得開心同埋甜蜜就ok嫁啦
最後做個總結 就係男人係唔係專一 係睇你個人既定義去到邊到
同埋識d咩人影響左你自己既睇法既~~~~~~