How come people don't believe in accepting your apologies for an honest mistake?

Question

I asked a question on Y!A, not meaning to insult anyone. I was apparently misinformed, & people say that whether I'm sorry or not & whether I knew or not, I was still wrong & there's no excuse. They even called me ill-educated because of my question. I have a college degree. My counselor said everyone has the right to make mistakes-innocent, not intentional. If you want to see the explanation of the question. It was the open question right before this in my Q&A profile. Even though I apologized & admitted that I was misinformed & didn't intend to harm, they still said I'm wrong & my wrongness is inexcusable.

& people offend/insult me on here all the time & don't get violated. They call me dumb, crazy, stupid, miseducated, delusional, all kinds of stuff & don't know me. Do you think they apologize? Hell no!

Answer 1

It's a simple misinterpretation of your words. Race is a touchy subject, and on the internet people tend to react fiercely faster than IRL. I wouldn't take it too seriously if I were you and, for what it's worth, I think that you reacted very reputably.

Answer 2

Apologizing does not undo the mistake or change the wrong. If you are wrong you are still wrong whether you apologize or not.

Everyone makes mistakes, but people don't have to forgive you for them and they don't have to accept your apology.
I'll give you an extreme example which actually happens a lot.
Let's say you got drunk and then you got into an accident and someone died - in other words you killed someone in an accident it was a mistake and your're sorry. Your apology will not bring the person back. That person's relatives don't have to forgive you or even listen to let alone accept your apology. If you were wrong, you were wrong and apologizing will not change that. If the person accepts your apology and forgives you, you're lucky, but they don't have to. When you make a mistake, there are consequences even though your action was not intentional, you caused something to happen that would not have otherwise happened and because you caused it you pay the consequences. An apology does not give you a free ticket to escape that - yes it's great that you're sorry, you will feel better in your conscience for apologizing but there are still consequences - some are big some are not so big.

Answer 3

I didn't see the question in your profile. The one before this is why did you get violated over the Hitler/genocide thing. So I don't know what you did. You've been on here for a while -- you know people on here can be jerks sometimes. Yes, people deserved to be forgiven. It's the right thing to do.....but I'm not sure what happened? I mean, did someone die? If that's the case, then it will take them a lot of time and forgive later....but I have NO IDEA what the situation is.

Answer 4

Queen,,,,I went on your profile page and read a few of your questions and answers,,, BY far you are NOT stupid,,in fact you are a very smart person,,,YOU don't need to apologize to any of us for anything,,,You will find that some people on here will report you ,,tell you that your stupid and tell you off JUST because they don't agree with whatever you have to say,,your question on the Jews may be personal to some But its not a reason to Jump your as*,, hang in there and if they cant except your apology for something you didn't mean ,,,that's their problem!!!

Answer 5

People dont want to accept apologies mainly because that big P word...Pride. They feel that if they accept the apology then they are giving in, and that maybe you think you can do the same thing again and get away with yet another apology. Honestly the only thing you can do is apologize and show them that you mean it. If they dont give you the chance to show that you mean it, then you have done all that you can do by apologizing. I hope all gets well for you.

Answer 6

"...needless to say confirmed I have not have been given any admire for you." Wow. in basic terms...wow. what's immature is writing it down. in case you won't be able to sack up and say it to his face, you do not deserve everybody. Be grown up sufficient to confess you have been incorrect with regard to the dating, you're sorry for having dragged it on see you later and deceptive him approximately your point of dedication, and tell him that is over. do not ask him whether he nevertheless loves you. You already reported you do not admire him, so which you formally neither care whether he loves nor does it do him any favors by way of asking a query like that. It makes it seem such as you do nevertheless care on some point. the two you're committed to saving the dating, or you at the instant are not. do not drag the query of his achieveable lingering doubts into the worldwide; if something ought to engender lingering doubts, questions like which will do it. commit to the dedication, or commit to the parting. To do something is merciless and immature.

Answer 7

Everyone makes mistakes, its human. If you were misinformed and you offended anyone then yes you were wrong, but you apologized and tried to make up for your wrong. Apologizing does not take the wrong away but it can make up for it. If people can't understand that then they are also wrong. Don't worry about it dear, you apologized and if they can't accept it then thats their problem

Answer 8

I know that it's hard to be criticized, but just let it go. These people don't know the real you. They are not your friends, they are not your family. They are average, everyday people who feel that this is a chance to be the real them. If you are able to admit when you are wrong, then good for you! I'd like to see how often they will do the same.

Answer 9

I suggest just forgetting about people who don't know how to accept an apology, because at the end of the day if people choose to hold a grudge then so be it. see your mistake as a learning curve and don't beg for forgivness.

Answer 10

Having read the answers to the question you mentioned where you apologised, I don't really think that they were yelling at you or abusing you; I think they were just trying to tell you that you did make a mistake. No one said 'I hate you forever now' or anything else rude (that was just an example :P ) and anyway.. Who cares what they think?