I'm out with a guy friend. This night he asks me to meet him to discuss maybe having a possible relationship. Said the bar is not the appropriate place to discuss it. I'm thinking, this is great. Respect, consideration etc. Then as he is talking to me, a girl walks past with a backless jumper on her and he looks her up and down. Bang! I feel terrible, like all the intensity of what he was saying was an act. Generally I have noticed that when he is nervous or with men, his eyes jump from one woman to another. I thought it was a macho thing with blokes to cover his nerves in social situations. This was a shock though. I mean he was totally intense with me, we also have been mates for years so I would not expect him to disrespect me like that. Why come on so strong and then gawp at another woman as she passed? Is this normal or should I be offended?
2007-11-29 03:10:20 · 12 answers · asked by susieboo 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Guys are more instinct driven, sometimes guys do this without even realise it.. its not his fault, he is just a dude
2007-11-29 18:52:27 · answer #1 · answered by nameless 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that would be highly offensive. After all, he did ask you out to see you, right? That's like leaving him behind and going up to another guy and flirting after you've told him something romantic. I would definitely feel hurt, and very upset. What I would have done -- Which probably would have been bad, but it's what I would have done -- was take the nearest object at the bar and throw it in his face and say "How dare you for putting up an act and trying to set me up." I mean, he wanted to go somewhere else... I don't mean to sound rude, but I think he wanted to get in your pants.
The real question is, did you go somewhere else? I would be highly offended, in all honesty. I am not just saying this to be rude at all; that is just flat-out rude that a guy would do that to you. You deserve a lot better.
*EDIT*
I believe guys do this because they want to see what else is out there. Or maybe he likes "open relationships" that can turn into polygamy. Irregardless, that is just not right to a person who is willing to commit.
2007-11-29 03:30:22 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Odd. 5.
2016-04-06 03:35:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not be offended!!! This is mens nature. Girls take this stuff way to hard! You know what, even if he loves you, and marrys you, and is faithful forever, he's always going to look at hot girls. Women are unbelievable, and men can't help but notice some of them. He might not even be aware that he did it....if you're so close, tell him straight up.."hey tiger, i know you have the right to look, and that's cool, so do i, but just please try to be careful about the staring when I'm around, okay?"...I promise he'll respect that, and try not to do it any more around you. If not, he's a jerk anyway.
But be honest, if Brad Pitt walked by, you'd stare too!!! Don't get crazy over nature!
2007-11-29 03:19:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
i would say this can be pretty normal for a guy i know that my ex lol used t do it all the time he said i would do the same and its just looking would be a different matter if he was touching but if he has told u he likes you i would say that must have taken a lot as he must have a lot of respect for u too have been friends for years and then tell you how he feels?? x
2007-11-29 03:15:58 · answer #5 · answered by xgemx 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should be offended!! You should have confronted him right then and there. Consider taking it very slow with him. He's obviously still looking at the menu because he's not quite sure. Tell him about this and tell him that you're not quite sure of him and so you want to take it slow. Be honest with him, be true to yourself, take care of your feelings and needs.
2007-11-29 03:15:10 · answer #6 · answered by gma 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course you should be offended, and let him know that.
Give him an opportunity to explain himself. Listen well, and you'll be able to determine his motives. At which point you'll also be able to make a decision if you in fact do or do not have a relationship. Best Wishes.........
2007-11-29 03:31:49 · answer #7 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The real issue is that you are not sure enough about him to have a serious relationship.
Just move on.
2007-11-29 03:36:13 · answer #8 · answered by alan h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id be very offended if i caught him doin that an would of said i dont wanna be with osmeone like you, i want someone who wants me and only me and would never look at someone else, i wants someone who treats me great and respects me and you dont have any of them things
2007-11-29 03:23:50 · answer #9 · answered by lilhails 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
of course you should be offended, he eyes should be on you and only you:o no match man thing about it, discuss this with him! tell him to get his act together or your walking
2007-11-29 03:14:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋