Last night my bf wanted to engage in a romantic evening but i was just too tired that i couldnt even put my best foot forward. He seemed upset too before going to bed, but i nudged him and told him sorry and that i was tired from working all day then going straight to the resturant for dinner at the same time attending to a 2 month old baby and two school age children. Now today he seems really bothered by it and he told me not to apologize or talk about it anymore or it will make him upset all over again. what kind of mess is that?? i really felt bad for not satisfying him but why is he so mad?? there would be other days that im able, but what's one day?? what should i tell him?? we are not the kind of couple that argues we usually talk things out.....
2007-11-14 05:13:18 · 26 answers · asked by KAT 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it's just male frustration... everybody goes through that time to time even if you are a women or man. Don't sweat it when you are able to make him feel good... he won't be mad at you anymore.
2007-11-14 05:19:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to grow up. Right now he's behaving like your two-year-old - "I can't get what I want the moment I want it so it must be Mommy's fault and I'm gonna sulk."
Why don't you talk about how you can both schedule your lives, including both of you spending time together and apart with your children, both of you getting private time for yourselves, and also time with each other?
Maybe you could both make a list of all the tasks you do and whether they're daily, weekly or whatever. This is important because while the number of tasks may be the same - you both work, he looks after the car, you look after the kids - I bet the kids need a lot more attention than the car.
Once you've agreed how to divide up the work that keeps your life together on the road fairly, and how each of you can get some crash time to rest, hang out with friends or whatever, you'll both be able to enjoy your time together with a rested body and mind.
Maybe your bf will have a clearer conscience and a more understanding heart too!
2007-11-14 05:23:21 · answer #2 · answered by Helen M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me ask this first: does your boyfriend plan these romantic evenings often? The way it sounded when you typed it, he planned something romantic, took you to dinner, and then you went to bed. If that's the case, I can't say I blame him for being a little jilted; he tried really hard to impress you and make you happy, and you rejected him (not intentionally, and he knows this deep down; that doesn't mean it doesn't hurt right now). I don't think it's that he's upset he didn't get any; I think he's upset that he planned all this and his plans didn't work out the way he hoped.
If you're good at talking things out, just straight out ask him what upset him. Let him know you appreciated his efforts and that you love him, but you were exhausted. Nothing is going to make this right; all you can do is ease the pain a little by letting him know that everything he did was fantastic and you really enjoyed it, and you're sorry that you couldn't continue to enjoy it when you were alone.
2007-11-14 05:23:05 · answer #3 · answered by xK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he put all his effort into making a special night for the two of you and you canceled on him, yes he is mad. Put yourself in his shoes. You said that you take care of a 2 month old and two school age kids and you work, all he was trying to do is spend sometime with you so he can make sure that the love is still there and that you are up to par. You should plan something for you two soon before he thinks that you are to busy and tired for him!!
2007-11-14 05:20:47 · answer #4 · answered by racheal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl I'm sorry happens to me all the time, I have a 2 and 3 year old, full time job and a horny hubby, it's hard and I can sympathize with you, he just probably really wanted you last night. All you can do is make it up to him tonight and surprise him w/ good loving then after your done and he's happy talk to him and tell him that sometimes you get really exhausted and need extra help from him. You may want to try vitamins in the future to keep you going another thing that helped me gain extra energy was running for an hour in the evening. Good luck!
2007-11-14 05:26:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Okay between us I used to fall asleep sometimes while giving oral sex to my husband..He would get so upset but tired is tired.We had 2 kids plus I was helping raise my nephew & I worked 2 jobs so I never felt bad about being tired I felt bad about not pleasing him-spontainiously make it up to him like after the kids are in the bed or at school or when u wake up in the middle of the night just do whatever he likes most
2007-11-14 05:22:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be tiredness, was he very tired or exhausted? Maybe from work or sport or something? If this is the first time it's happened, it could be anything, could just be bad luck. If it starts happening really often then he should maybe go to a urologist and check if it's anything physical. No harm in checking. Since it seems to have happened quite randomly, I really don't think it's anything about you or an emotional thing or your connection with each other.
2016-05-23 03:41:59 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sleep through it.
Na, thats silly. Tell him you would love to, but you need some rest first.
Easy. That way he does not feel rejected and go cheat.
Rejection from a gal is the number 1 reason a guy will cheat. Never say NO, Just tell him ya want to, but after some rest.
2007-11-14 05:20:03 · answer #8 · answered by sunshine man 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, the only men you need to satisfy is God and your HUSBAND. I don't mean to sound ugly, but it's a fact. I you are good enough to lay with, then you are good enough to marry. Too many issues to be going through with a boyfriend. What kind of example are you setting for your children? If you have a daughter, Would you mind her shacking up and fornicating. I suggest rearranging the situations you are in.......God Bless
2007-11-14 05:20:06 · answer #9 · answered by Angel 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
...maybe you should ask him to tell you what his REAL true feelings were last night darling....hmmmm...??
Then tell him he needs to respect the rights of a very special loving kind-hearted woman of children....who's directly tired and overworked and under-payed and definitely under-appreciated.
I'm thinking he acted out like an ASH here otherwise....and I'm a guy saying this to you too sweetie!!! Yikes!
E-mail me if you need more darlin......no man should ever be able to have the right to expect anything other then the best courtesy he can muster up for himself and give to you darlin....and that's respect hun........agreed?
2007-11-14 05:26:42 · answer #10 · answered by scott s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋