When you consider that the man typically pays 90-95% of the time and that the women can reject you at any point in the dating relationship, if a guy pays for a couple of dates, isn't he entitled to something? Otherwise isn't he just wasting his time and money. When the relationship is over, men typically have nothing to show for it, whereas women have gotten free meals, free dates, attention, etc.
2007-11-14 03:32:31 · 12 answers · asked by roughruggedraw 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No. Your logic is flawed. If your sole purpose for being in a relationship is sex, that's not a real relationship; a relationship is about being together, finding someone to share your life with (even if it ends up being only temporary). If you just want sex, find a "friend with benefits" or hang out in the bars at last call. You come out of every relationship with something gained, be it knowledge about the opposite sex, a better idea of what you want or don't want, more experience with a particular type of person, etc.
Men are not required to pay for every date. Men can also reject the woman at any point in the dating relationship. When you take a woman out, all you're "entitled to" is her company -- and she to yours. If she wants to have sex with you, that should be viewed as a bonus, not as the requirement for the end of the date. If you think the whole situation is a waste because she's not having sex with you, you're going to have a hard time being in a relationship.
2007-11-14 03:41:38 · answer #1 · answered by xK 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
" When the relationship is over, men typically have nothing to show for it, whereas women have gotten free meals, free dates, attention, etc. "
I thought i'd answer your question by turning the coin over,
and use the same statement give or take some words . . .
" When the marriage is over, and the man runs off with another girl preferably younger than his wife and the wife is left with 2 or 3 kids and on welfare and a life in disaray,then the wife typically has nothing to show for it, where as the man, has gotten free meals, free attention, free sex by some one who love'd him deeply enough to give herself only to this man as in the word commitment and devotion, etc. etc, etc . . .
Simply put it, you could say dating is a kind of rehersal
for what might turn out to be a life time of true love and
a beautiful family . . . etc etc etc . . .
2007-11-14 04:06:52 · answer #2 · answered by Ben 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not all men that expect something in return when they take a lady on a date! Some guys just do it for fun or to get to know the person better and maybe to make the relationship stronger, which could result in getting something back, like she is now he's girl friend (that could also mean unlimited sex) or they are about to get married after spending some money on the lady.
2007-11-14 03:46:32 · answer #3 · answered by FUNKTAST 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Arent you Mr. Caveman?
First of all-sex can be turned down by both parties. just because you have paid for a couple dates doesn't "entitle" to you anything.
Second-speaking for myself, my fiance and I ever since we started dating, I have paid for about 30% of our outings. Yes, he pays more, but he also makes about triple what I do.
Third-every guy I have ever dated seriously enough to have sex with has walked away with something to show for it. In fact, I lived with a boyfriend for 4 years and when I broke up with him and moved out-the only thing I took was my clothes. He got everything else...because all i wanted was out. I had to start over and go buy a new tv, bed, kitchen stuff, etc.
Fourth-if you are just looking to get laid, go into the slummy part of town and find some hooker to get you off. Or is the $10 too much to spare? If that is, grab a bottle of lotion and kleenex cause with that attitude-no girl is going to want to have sex with you.
2007-11-14 03:42:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are trying to pay sex. They do have women that do that kind of thing for money. Maybe you should try one of those at least you are guaranteed sex. After a couple of dates, that you paid for, you still aren't entitled to sex. You probably aren't getting any because the girl can tell that's all you are after. I don't give it up for at least 3 months. That way you can tell a guy really wants you and is not in it just to get in your pants.
2007-11-14 03:42:56 · answer #5 · answered by shellshell 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that's a ridiculous way to look at it. I take it ur a guy?
If you're that worried about it, think about how men should maybe be more careful when they date. If they don't want to "waste their time, money, etc." maybe they should wait and find a person that they know will be worth their time instead of dating every girl they think they "like". If all men are looking for in a dating relaionship is sex (which not all of them are, there actually are good guys out there.) They are not worth the girl's time.
2007-11-14 03:39:32 · answer #6 · answered by Ashton theKID 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i'm a woman so i'm going to respond to from my own adventure If the female has morals then the drawback is that I (she) needs an emotional connection and he needs intercourse She says no and that's the tip of the dating.
2016-10-16 12:14:54 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if the man is a selfish user of women.
2007-11-14 20:04:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you serious? women do not EVER owe men sex!! that is so ridiculous.. its a womans choice whether she wants to have sex or not.. buying her dinner does not give you a free ride, my friend!!! you have some serious growing up to do!
2007-11-14 03:40:00 · answer #9 · answered by amanda** 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man, u r going to get a lot of hate-responses for this....but my opinion: money doesnt buy sex. though if you r in a long term relationship and not getting any, then yes i do think you r a sucker
2007-11-14 03:37:33 · answer #10 · answered by boredatwork 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋