Anyone have any advice for keeping a bad mood or situation from spreading into other aspects of my life. I mean, I'll be upset or thinking about one thing that happened that pisses me off, and then I am short or mean when I interact with other people, especially strangers. I'm usually cool to people I know or work with because I realize I have to be around them more, but I give a clerk attitude becuase I'm pissed about something else, and after I ask myself 'why did I do that'
Any suggestions?
2007-11-13 01:58:00 · 9 answers · asked by tightlies 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Yep there are two things you can do. One is you can, if you are capable, and I say this because it takes practise usually to do , so my comment was not meant to be offencive.If you are capable then stand outside the situation in your mind, can you feel yourself getting angry and agitated, if so, take a step back and draw an imaginary circle round the issue, try not to step into that imaginary circle and loOK at the problem from the outside.Distance from it and tell yourself you have two choices. One is remain inside that circle and let this really p**s you off or stay outside the circle and tell yourself that this is not going to get the better of you and make a choice not to allow it to. Which brings me to my next point of the fact that thoughts do not exist. They are there of course, but we have to think them first. They are only in our minds because we allow them to be there.You can remove any thought at any time from your head. If something is bothering you then say to yourself ok I do not want this thought in my head and remove it. Puff its gone, because you have the control as to what you allow yourself to think.So next time something or someone p****s you off, then try these two simple steps and see which one works for you best.
2007-11-13 02:13:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called have a little perspective. Taking your anger out on an innocent clerk is stupid and juvenile. Hopefully I'll say enough things that piss you off and you'll wanna take your anger out on me except that before you do it, maybe you'll realize that you don't know me and it's not worth wasting your energy and you'll have learned what you need to learn. You made it even worse when you came out and admitted that you can control it at work too. That basically means you make a choice in your head to be rude and ignorant...and follow through with it when the opportunity arrives. You asked for suggestions...my main one would be to grow the hell up. Quit directing your anger toward people who are innocent strangers. If you're under 21, we could give you a bit of a pass and chalk it up to youth/immaturity but if you're older than that you just straight need to grow up.
2007-11-13 10:08:28 · answer #2 · answered by M.M.12 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very few people can actually 'be nice' when they're in a bad mood- at least convincingly.
The best thing to do is get OUT of that bad mood. It's not good for you. The next thing to do is count to ten- slowly- while thinking about if you REALLY want to say what you're about to say. And if you're mad, count to 100.
Brooding is tempting. I should know: I've done my share of it. But you'll need to find a way to stop thinking of whatever is upsetting you.
Good luck.
2007-11-13 10:06:26 · answer #3 · answered by Tigger 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all no one can make you act ugly to other people--that is your choice. I also wear my feelings on my face and my attitude, and this has caused problems for me in the past. I have learned and now try to implement into my life that I have to choose how I respond. I can not control how people treat me, but I can control how I treat others. Try to live by the good old Golden Rule--Treat others how you would like to be treated yourself.
2007-11-13 10:16:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you recognize you are in a bad mood then force yourself to be polite to clerks, etc. It isn't their fault you are in a bad mood. If you can't do that, then avoid situations like that when you are feeling that way.
2007-11-13 10:06:56 · answer #5 · answered by Bears Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
isolate urself when u are in a bad mood and know u can't interact. i do that all the time. and do make it known that u are in a terrible state of mood and explain to them that u can't talk or be bothered now. giving urself time to let off steam on your own is much better than showing it to others. trust me!
2007-11-13 10:08:55 · answer #6 · answered by ryhasin 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm so like that...what i try to do is limit what i say to others when i am in my mood...because it seems like people tend to get on your nerves more when you are pissed about something....like stupid drivers for instant they drive me bananas!!! i try very hard to relax...so my advice to you is..just try to relax...breathe in and breathe out....
2007-11-13 10:05:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what i would do is just think of something good, then that bad thing isnt on my mind, and i dont get all 'jerky' or whaterver, just dont think about what is making you mad.
2007-11-13 10:05:12 · answer #8 · answered by ang 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think before you speak.... It's not their fault your pissed.....
2007-11-13 10:05:45 · answer #9 · answered by TnM4E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋