What's wrong with me?

Question

I've been feeling a little strange lately.

Two months ago I moved from a bad job situation to a new place with a great job that pays me what I'm worth. The work I'm doing has gotten better, but I feel more stressed out than ever. Everyone hands me assignments all of the time, and I just can't do them all. My attempts to mitigate that issue have ended in my co-worker's disappointment.

My boyfriend is overseas for another month for a total of a five month stay. I miss him a lot, but our relationship is four years strong. Unfortunately, he's in an area where there aren't phones, so I can't even relax by talking to him.

I always feel good until I don't. Sometimes I'm okay without plans for the weekend, and other times I'm on the edge of my seat. I'm just tired of having to put myself out there all of the time to meet new people, some of whom don't really need new friends. I'd like some of the connections I've made to work in my favor. I am tired of doing all the work.

Help?

Answer 1

Go to your boss and get him or her to prioritize your work. People always pick on the new person. You need to get your position defined NOW. Once work is easier, the other things will fall in line.

-MM

Answer 2

The work stress sounds performance based and you probably need to get things worked to a routine that works with you instead of against you. Prioritize and make sure that you and supers have an understanding of what you are supposed to be doing. Take extra time for just you. Get out and move around. You don't really have to meet people, just do things. Do things for you. Take time to write your soldier letters, writing is a great way of working things out and he will appreciate loving letters from home more than I can explain to you. You will be okay.

Answer 3

First, congrats on the new job! Second, what is your job description, are you supposed to be getting all of these assignments? Have you discussed this with your supervisor?

Your boyfriend can email you, can't he? Send snail mail?
Look at this as a chance to have your relationship grow in a new way. Distance can do some incredible things.

Give yourself some breathing room, you don't "have to do all the work". Let things happen naturally, maybe you are trying too hard.

Answer 4

You are being challenged in your new job and it's making you feel stressed.

That's normal and it's a GOOD sign that you are aware of the challenges and the consequences of failure.

Now all you have to do is decide what you want - if you want to fail or quit this job, then you can act upon that.

And if you want to succeed at this job, this challenge, then you can act upon that too!

It's all up to you!

Answer 5

your relaxation is up to you. not another person to give it/do it for you. this is the lesson of maturity.

learn relaxation techniques and take charge of your life. then when you have too much work, first you can practice your relaxation techniques... and tell your boss and coworkers "I HAVE TOO MUCH WORK, i am overwhelmed, i can not possibly do all this"

begin with sitting somewhere comfortable. close your eyes. take 3 long slow deep breaths. when your lungs are full hold your breath for one count then with a sigh exhale. keep the eyes closed. begin emptying the mind (say to yourself "empty the mind" over and over.) and sit and breathe for 5 minutes.

there is more to it... this is the basic structure.

practice this daily. work up to twice daily 20 minutes each time.

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