My fiance would prefer cash gifts instead of a toaster.....is it rude if we don't register in a store. His explanation is that we can get what we want with the money we get.
2007-10-26 04:37:44 · 31 answers · asked by lulu 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It would be totally rude to ask for "cash only". Register at "Target" or another affordable store for basics you will need. Register at "Macy's" or comparable store for special items you would like to have. This will allow for your guests to shop within their budget.
If you don't register...you will end up with 10 toasters and 5 salad shooters!!
Good Luck!!
Good grief..is my answer that bad???
2007-10-26 07:13:20 · answer #1 · answered by KyLoveChick 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Hi and congratulations!
Well....you WILL need a toaster, unless you don't like toast! lol
You DON'T have to register....but really, you don't want any gifts? What a pain to go out after and have to buy everything to set up your home/apartment. I can't imagine a couple getting married now that doesn't need anything! Unless, of course, you are Donald Trump.
That said, you don't need to register, but don't assume if you don't that you will be getting cash from everyone. People will just buy what they want, and then you will be stuck.
And, DO NOT mention ANYTHING about registries, cash gifts, etc. on the invitations. That is a big no no!
Good luck!
2007-10-26 13:19:49 · answer #2 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You do not have to register, but that does not mean you will get money either. You don't marry for gifts, and be thankful for what you do get. It is rude to say you want money instead of gifts. There are things you could use at stores, and sometimes people will just give a gift card for that store. Go and register together and put things you both would like.
2007-10-26 12:03:36 · answer #3 · answered by bigjuggies79 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Some people find it uncomfortable giving money at a wedding. A gift registry is not to say that something is set in concrete but something you would like if someone else pays.
If you feel more comfortable with a registry but your husband-to-be still would prefer cash try doing both.
Include a registry as a guide and also give your guests the option of contributing to a wishing well.
(To wish you well - get it)
Using a wishing well your guests are able to put money in envelopes and place them in the well at your reception for you to spend on your new life together and/or your honeymoon. The well can be placed on the table with any gifts so that everyone has the choice for themselves.
A lot of wedding invitation places offer this so have a look around if you think it's something you might go for
2007-10-26 12:12:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
No, you do not need to register for gifts, especially if you would prefer the money for things for the house.
Guests will try to find out what you guys need...they will ask your bridal party, your family and friends where you are registered. So, make sure to spread the word to your close family and friends that the two of you would greatly appreciate wedding cards with a gift of money if the guest chooses to give something.
Do NOT put any mention of money, registries, cash or anything of that sort in the invitation. No matter how cute or fancy the poem, there is no polite way to say "Bring us money" in an invitation. It is tacky. Only use word of mouth.
Good luck!
~Kat
2007-10-26 11:51:48 · answer #5 · answered by Kat 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋
The point of registering is to tell people what you DO want.
Don't want a toaster? Don't register for it! It is consider the height of bad manners to ask for money instead of gifts, but if he really wants to tell people to just give cash, then I guess you could go with that. I wouldn't though. I know lately I've heard of people doing that but a VAST majority of people find this very tacky.
2007-10-26 12:31:05 · answer #6 · answered by Go Coogs! 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You don't have to register. But people will still get you gifts and without a registry you won't be able to tell them what you want or the color or how many of whatever you want and you'll be more likely to have duplicates. People usually only give $50 at a wedding, sometimes they give an actual gift that's worth a lot more.
The registry cuts out the middle man, your fiances plan of buying the stuff yourself with the money would cause more trouble and people might feel insulted if you tell them you want the money because essentially you aren't trusting them to pick out what you want themselves.
2007-10-26 12:44:20 · answer #7 · answered by Manny 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You don’t have to register BUT you will get crappy gifts that you don’t want. Some people want to buy and wrap gifts. Its very rude to ask for cash, it is not rude to ask your mother or mother in law to kinda drop hints to family that you would prefer cash. In a very subtle way so that they can do what they choose in the end. You can register for a bunch of small, cheap things at Target, cuz they are awesome about returns without a receipt. And then register for a bunch of really expensive things that no one would really buy and when all the cheap stuff is gone they will get the hint and put some cash in the envelope. When you are talking to people that you are close with you could let them no (in a sly way) that you would prefer cash, maybe even ask your sister or sister in law to spread the word - they are great for that! A lot of people will give cash if you are already established in your home or have just purchased a new home but have lived together for awhile cuz they know you have everything already.
I know that some people do a “honeymoon fund” for their wedding and people contribute to that - look it up on line and see what they suggest saying to people.
2007-10-26 11:50:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
While your fiancee may have a point, you have to realize that people will just give you "anything" if you don't register. You may end up with 3 toasters and some hedious frames. The whole point of registering is so that you get the items you want, in the color / design that you prefer.
Unless you are asking for cash (so that you can donate it to some charity) many of your guest will view it as rude and think you are just in it for the money--even if it is not your intention at all.
2007-10-26 11:48:08 · answer #9 · answered by Benji's Mommy 6 · 8⤊ 1⤋
No, you do not have to register. But please do not ask anyone for cash. If you do not register however, some people are going to go out and buy you something anyway. There are people who do not like to give cash as a gift. Just be prepared for that.
I would suggest registering only for the things you really want. You do not have to register for a million things. I guess if you are just going to take the money and go out and buy items anyway, it would make more sense to just register for them.
2007-10-26 12:14:59 · answer #10 · answered by vaya 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
No, you definitely arent required to register anywhere...
It's always nice to get cash and gift cards so you can go and get what you need/want... if you dont register anywhere, most likely you will get cash or gift cards (but there will be guests who give you the typical picture frame, etc.)
However, it is rude to specifically mention that you would prefer cash. Let your parents know so if people ask them "Hey what do John and Sally want as a gift" your parents could just say "Oh, its probably just best to give them money so blah blah blah"... but please dont specifically mention anything in invitations, save the dates, etc.
Usually people will get the hint but you could have it spread through word of mouth. Nowadays, most people give money anyway (I registered at two stores and still most people gave money)
Hope this helps! Good luck and congrats!
2007-10-26 11:52:47 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋