These days, most children are born to single mothers. But most of those single mothers end up getting married sometime in their life. So why is it that many women have children before getting married, instead of getting married and then having kids, when thre are two parents to support the children?
2007-09-25 12:50:02 · 13 answers · asked by Conrad 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
A big part of it is unprotected sex.
But I personally believe that just because you are pregnant doesn't mean you have to get married. That is the stupids reason to get married. what if it is a bad marriage are you going to blame the child for it. and before you say no or that is stupid, it happens all the time. times have changed and it isn't a strong belief anymore that you have to be married to have a child.
Perfect examples are my brother & my sister.
first my brother, married a woman because she claimed she was pregnant. no one has ever said anything but she was not pregnant til right before they were marriage. she had an 11 months pregnancy. woman like her use a child to trap a man or trick him into marrying her. woman like that piss me off.
secondly is my sister. she had a baby in december her first. she is not married but they are living together and have been together over 4 years now. she will not get married unless she knows beyond a doubt that they will be together forever and not divorce. Our dad and her mom were divorced. my dad married my mom, while my sis's mom got married and divorced 2 more times.
I personal agree with not getting married because you are pregnant. I don't think someone should get married if they don't know the person for a couple years. Now a days to many people are getting married and turning right around and getting a divorce within a few years. it is stupid.
I hope I answered your question I know I got side tracked a little. Hope this helps
2007-09-25 13:05:46 · answer #1 · answered by c_greiff 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I've often wondered that myself. I think it has to do with our biological clock. Women only have about a 10 to 15 year window to have children. And it's becoming more and more difficult to find the right man nowadays. Also, this is the first generation of people who grew up in single parent households so they don't see anything wrong with it.
I'm waiting until I'm married to have children. Kids need their mom and their dad living TOGETHER. If I'm not able to have children by the time I'm married I'll just have to adopt.
But another question you should ask yourself: Why are men so afraid of commitment? I'm sure the women who are raising their kids alone would prefer to have the father around. It's easier for a man to pick up leave his children than it is for a women.
2007-09-25 12:55:09 · answer #2 · answered by You wish 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it seems priority's have changed so much.like no one bats an eyelash for a girl to get pregnant at 15,14,13 etc., but act like it would be tragic if she married at that young age???isn't that screwed up or what? kids that young have no business having sex in the first place! what happened to getting an education and later finding the person you would marry and then having a family together??? is money,jobs and so called independence really worth what it has cost the family unit???i think it is a disgrace but so many people today have never been to church or studied the bible or pray or anything that shows how they should live,that is why there is so many problems in the world today!people think they can do whatever they want and they all scream about their rights.on judgment day GOD will not be impressed with this trivial non sense that people wrongly believe is correct.ignoring the facts does not change them!!!!many kids today are in trouble because they are born out of wed lock with no real parents or guidance for many of these kids.it is selfish to only think of what you want and not consider a baby should have a mom and a dad!!!this will not be a popular answer but it is a honest one!good luck.
2007-09-25 13:07:31 · answer #3 · answered by dixie58 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is not having child that was decided - it is the sex. Having child just happenned and the poor baby was just - a "just". This is bad. This is not what girls should be doing to their body. They should not give their nice curbs for free to the loser b-f.
This is wrong and don't even think about it. No single women wants to be pregnant single - but because their partners don't have any plan for thier life - so therefore these insecured women that is so scared that their lovers will leave them, they sleep with their lovers and the lover will stay TEMPORARILY with them, until they find someone in different SIZE or by luck, the guy will marry them. Remember, no guys in their good minds wanted a woman that's OK to have SEX before married - they think they are cheap and if they are cheap now that they are still single, what more later. Men are born wise too, you know. So be extra careful, it's good you ask this kind of question because there are people out there that cares for people like you.
2007-09-25 13:03:31 · answer #4 · answered by earth angel 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
From where are you writing? - Where I live most children are still born to married couples.
I could think of a variety of reasons for a woman to have their children, while not yet married:
The most common one is, that the woman finds herself pregnant (mostly accidentally so) and the father of the child is not willing to stick around - or she finds he would not be a suitable father and separates.
Also, a woman might wish for a child, but not have a found a good partner. Since there is a time limit on female fertility, she might decide to go ahead with childbearing, rather than waiting for Prince Charming coming maybe too late.
A lesbian woman has very little legal options to get married to her partner, before she becomes pregnant.
2007-09-25 13:00:51 · answer #5 · answered by LGM 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hell no. Sh!t, sometimes a woman just doesn't want kids and as far as marriage, look at the divorce rate in this country. Obviously, people have the right to feel adamant about not jumping the broom too quickly. Not enough serious people out there, when it comes to the matter if you ask me. I think a woman has the right to do whatever she chooses, as long as it doesn't negatively affect the lives of others. -Knowledge26
2016-05-18 21:26:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always wondered this too, however, I was married and divorced having no children and I hesitate to say I would have rather have been a single parent than a childless single.
2007-09-25 12:53:30 · answer #7 · answered by mypassioniswriting 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well for one the ball bounces on both side of the wall with this one. now the guys knows if he do not ask the question is she on birth control he knows a baby will come into place. she knows just as well if she is taken birth control or do not ask if he has a rubber.. guy get scared and runs or the girl is doing it to trap the guy.
2007-09-25 13:08:03 · answer #8 · answered by K_LOVE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a good question. I dont know the answer to that. Dont steriotype. Not all women are like that. Its a personal choice. I made a vow to God and myself I would not do anything like that until after marriage.
2007-09-25 12:53:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What sucks is its out of control. Kids are so undisciplined its ridiculous. Its almost wrong to be traditional these days. We drug our kids with ADD drugs instead of parenting and the lack of a stable household is one thing that is the blame.
2007-09-25 12:54:03 · answer #10 · answered by Ice4444 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋