why do most straight men get uncomfortable around gay men?

Answer 1

because they are affraid of gay men...some of them, in my opinion are affraid that they might like gay and so they prefere to maintain the distance!

Answer 2

I cannot say I have seen the same experience...I have known and worked with a number of gay men, and they were very nice. Everyone who worked with them was respectful, and they weren't treated any differently by anyone! I suppose, however, that there some people who do in fact get uncomfortable when in the presence of homosexual men. This can be for a number of reasons, they could be prejudice (which could be for many reasons as well), they might feel like they're going to get hit on, or the gay person is going to make a move on them. Some might feel annoyed by their behavior, as openly gay men may act a lot differently than straight men typically act. What I mean by this is, when a straight man sees another man, it's natural to assume he is straight. When someone realizes they are not straight, it might simply be abnormal to see them being gay. And then, some straight men have true hatred towards gay men, and I will never be able to explain that reasoning. Very sad world we live in. Doesn't really answer the question, but I wonder sometimes, when will we stop grouping people into races, sexual orientation, gender, colour, shape, or size. I hope someday we realize that we are all truly the same. Maybe someday will never come.

Answer 3

Because people in general fear what they don't understand. It's easier to fear homosexuality rather than try to understand the concept of being gay/lesbian.

Heterosexual men often are of the thought process that all gay men have one thing on their mind...sex. This is not true. No matter what sexual preference, a man in the proper environment, will most of the time, check out his competition. Especially in such an environment as a gym shower/locker room.

For one man to look at another naked doesn't mean anything. It's natural and in some way, expected. Men have HUGE egos and totally enjoy showing their bodies off. Silently boasting "look at me, my muscles, the size of my manhood".

There is no reason a straight man cannot have a male gay friend.

And yes, some straight "acting" guys will lash out at an openly gay man to hide his own secret desires to try gay sex or some form of homoerotic pleasure.

Answer 4

I think it's for two main reasons and has nothing to do with being hit on, not really.

One is the 'uncomfortable feeling' of finding out that a gay man can be just like any other man they know. That probably scares them. Plus

Also, men don't want to hear about other men's sexual stuff. They go as far as to know they 'got some last night' but not about the indepth stuff. Men don't usually share details about the act. Knowing a man is gay is too much information. I don't know why the gay groups feel we should all know they are gay. Be gay, good for you. But I don't have to know you are gay. Knowing gives other men, and everyone, too much information about something that is personal and private.

Lastly, I think smaller issues are things like the men on tv who try very hard to act super super girly and fem and talk as feminine as they can...they weird them out. So this portrayal (even on shows like E news where that 'stylist' comes out and is very fem...like that, not just him, but not scripted fictional shows) is not a positive slant.

Also, men worry that being near a gay man will make their friends wonder if they are gay.

Answer 5

I think they are not sure just how to act or what to talk about .
If a gay man is acting very effeminate that makes it even worse . Do they treat them like a woman or a man for instance.
Perhaps they think that If they treat them one way or the other--- that makes them a 'little gay' or somehow compromises their masculinity ?
For the most part aren't gay men still men ?? With 'most' of the same interests, likes and dislikes as the rest of the general public ?-------Gee take some points for all MY questions !

Answer 6

Straight man might think that the gay man will hit on him and the straight man is afraid that he would not know how to react.
They don't want to be mean and say, "Get the hell away from me you ding bat." That would make both parties feel uncomfortable in a public place.

OR they are afraid that everyone else who walks-by might think the straight guy is gay also.

Answer 7

I think this answer is obvious... fear. Though there are 2 different reasons for the "straight" man's fear. Either the "straight" man is not really straight and fears that his "secret" will be discovered. Or the "straight" man thinks he is so attractive that everyone, including gay men, is instantly attracted to him. So he's basically afraid that gay men will want to have sex with him.

Answer 8

The straight ones don't like the thought of two men with nubs, kissing and what they do in the privacy of their homes. I weirds them out. Sorry if this is not what gays want to hear but it is the way they feel. Take the high road and live your life the way that makes you happy without stepping on the toes of others who live differently than you.

Answer 9

I'm straight but I'm comfortable around gay men.

I don't care what people say even I'm around with them because I'm not what they think.

Some maybe for reasons
- they might discover that they are gay.
- gay men have their own way of communication that straight will not understand, they'll look like a fool in conversation..
- intolerant.
- been molested
- break up with their gay boyfriend
- don't have money than the gay men
- religious belief that should not mingling with gays

Answer 10

i don't know why exactly but a lot of straight men fail to understand the way of life homosexual men lead and so they may not know what to say or how to act without offending and so they are uncomfortable. i would say be yourself but don't make any obscene remarks about their sexuality. it would be like a homosexual man saying you're dumb because you're straight. it's not unusual to feel uncomfortable around someone who has a different lifestyle than you. i always say the golden rule is golden.

Answer 11

I don't.
But those that do may feel revulsion for the acts they imagine gay men committing. Most homophobes think all gay men want to have sex with them in a public bathroom or something equally as ludicrous.