The latest trends in my hometown are these: sign up for a registery at a travel agency for your honeymoon or there is one bank in town you can sign up to do a wedding money registery.
Part of me thinks it is tacky but then again I am unsure. What are your opinions?
2007-08-23 04:42:07 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think it's okay - at least they'll use it - I don't have to buy pots & pans - I'm still contributing the same $
2007-08-23 06:05:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 1⤋
I think the money registery at the bank is tacky, but I don't have any problem with a honeymoon registery. I know some people think it's really gauche, but I don't see a honeymoon registery as any different from other items on a store registery. For example, people register for expensive china, crystal and silver. They don't expect anyone to buy all of it for them, just a place setting or a gravy boat. How is a honeymoon registery any different?
2007-08-23 12:22:59 · answer #2 · answered by Trivial One 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not only is it tacky, the honeymoon registries are also...I don't want to say a rip-off, but they aren't what you'd think.
When a couple registers at a department store, it is a completely free service for everyone involved. The couple does not have to pay to register, gift-givers do not need to pay a fee to give, and what is chosen is what is given. If I walk into Macy's or Target, or wherever and see that the couple I know would like a particular toaster, then I can find that toaster, buy that toaster, and have it delivered to the couple who will then receive that toaster.
When a couple set up a honeymoon registry, every gift giver pays a surcharge on their gift. As much as fifteen per cent may be taken off the top of every gift given. Also, while the couple may register for snorkling lessons, and the giver may 'give' snorkling lessons, the money actually goes into a big slush fund and the couple then has to decide in the end whether they're going to take the snorkling lessons or a couples massage, or any other thing they wanted. What you give is not necessarily what they get.
As for a bank 'money registry' who ever heard of anything that ludicrous? One assumes the couple has at least one bank account, and quite possibly two or more, depending on whether they share an account, have both savings and checking, etc. Anyone may simply write out a check or hand over cash to the happy couple without any middle man whatsoever.
Cash and checks are a default gift, not something to register for,
2007-08-23 06:08:37 · answer #3 · answered by gileswench 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
I have only been to one wedding that I actually took the time to buy a gift and it was my childrens' god parents other than that I always give a monetary gift ( money ) and I know alot of people give money SO I think a registry at a bank is a good idea this way instead of giving money you will I guess give a bank slip. But don't tell people how much to give you. I usually give the same $100 to everyone.
2007-08-27 04:31:05 · answer #4 · answered by My Three 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't understand why most of the answers on here, think this is such a horrible idea.
As a guest, I want to get the couple whatever it is that they want. If they want money for their honeymoon, I am fine giving them that! What if they just bought a house and they want Home Depot gift cards? Isn't that the same thing? I am also fine giving that. I think it is up to the couple! If you are going to their wedding, you shouldn't be cranky about giving them some cash to do something that they enjoy. Not everyone enjoys a toaster and measuring spoons!
Plus, it makes it easier to give within my budget, I just give exactly the amount that I can afford. I don't have to wrap it, the couples family doesn't have to cart it around after the wedding, etc.
2007-08-23 04:56:40 · answer #5 · answered by Sharon 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
It's just like any other registry. Some people want a toaster, others want help with their honeymoon. I'm having a REALLY hard time understanding why people think registries are a way for the bride and groom to demand gifts from people. Where are people getting this crazy idea?!
Registries are nothing more than suggestions of gifts that people can give them. No one says you have to buy anything off of it, they're just ideas in case you don't know what to get. It's not being greedy, it's making everyone's life easier, because most people like to give a gift to the new couple that they will be able to use and enjoy.
2007-08-23 06:28:50 · answer #6 · answered by Peace 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Come on people, it's 2007.....get a grip.
Everyone is right when they say "guests are not obligated" to give you a gift, therefore, they are not "obligated" to contribute to your honeymoon registry, department registry, or any registry. It's their choice if they want to buy you something, and what they want to buy.
With that said, if the couple wants to have a honeymoon registry, then so be it. If guests don't want to contribute to that registry, they don't have to. They can just buy a different gift. A registry is a registry, no matter what kind it is.
People are so stuck on giving gifts that they think the couple should have, or that they THINK the couple would want rather than just giving the couple what they want.
I'd rather spend my money on something I know the couple would use as opposed to buying some $100 toaster that may sit in their basement for the next 50 years.
2007-08-23 05:42:52 · answer #7 · answered by CJ 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Personally, I never liked registries for myself but I had a friend that registered at 3 different places and it made it really easy for me. The bank idea is tacky but the honeymoon contributions sounds more practical and less greedy. I think registries are more for the shower, most people give checks for the wedding. And, how would you advertise a bank or honeymoon registry w/out it sounding tacky?
2007-08-23 05:04:44 · answer #8 · answered by Lyla 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I think it's a good idea, but I would never do it. It's tacky. I would like to be able to tell my guest exactly what I want, but you can't. It's just tacky if you do and I would never do it.
You can't expect people to give you what you want. You can't even put registry info in wedding invites. However, if you do want cash for you wedding. The best method is to let your bridal party know.
Most guests will say, "Hey so and so, what does the bride and groom want as a wedding gift" Your bridal party and say, "well, I know they really wanted to go on a honeymoon, but I'm not sure they can afford it. Make something towards that?"
2007-08-23 04:59:10 · answer #9 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Tacky if this is the only choice given because people should be given a choice as to what to give.
Some people like to give a gift that is personal and these registries take this choice away from the giver. Some people take joy in shopping for a gift even if you would prefer the cash towards whatever, but the choice should be the givers.
2007-08-23 07:01:34 · answer #10 · answered by no_frills 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Most people do like money for weddings the actually the bank account thing sounds ok....but what is wrong with just have something set up at your wedding were people can drop money off..... that way they can leave it in a card. Yeah I don't think I like it that much!
2007-08-23 04:50:00 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋