My boyfriend of 1 year is 24 and Iam 38 am I wasting my and his time?

Question

I broke up with him twice and he still comes back . We enjoy each others company and finally my son has accepted him. He is the first real relationship I have been in since my son's father.He says that he can see us togethere for years to come We are also starting a joint venture together and he is footing most of the bill. I love him and he is the first person that made me look at myself in the mirror and be real. I think he loves me too but he has only said it once. We go to church on occasion together, we play together he has cried and I have cried . Our love making is wonderful and really I'am just happy to be with him no matter what we do together. But our age difference is a factor and I'am afraid that he will find someone his age that is problem free,child free like him and have the whole world to explore. He says he is happy with our relationship and the age thing is my issue because it does not bother him until I bring it up when we go out. HELP

Answer 1

love knows no ages.... if you are both happy then go with it... your love seems like one that most only can wish for... if you end it for age reasons, you will regret it later on...

Answer 2

at 24 he is a man and knows how he feels, you're not taking anything away from him. If he wanted to be somewhere else, he would. He's not after you for money it seems. If he has woken you up to be aware of what a wonderful, beautiful woman you are inside and out, and you do love him.. it's worth it. Sometimes an age difference does not matter at all, you teach other, learn and grow together. my man is younger too, and I had all the worries you do, 5 years later and still strong. He put to rest all my worries over time. You may need to let him know it's ok for him to tell you he loves you and you won't reply back with i love you too, but ...this and that. good men are hard to find and keep. love is ageless between two people who really care about each other. relax and enjoy life in love, life goes by too quick as it is. wish you the best.

Answer 3

I will tell you the same thing I told another woman in the same type of relationship, If you want a good time and sex go for it , If you want a long term deal, I don't think it will work. What if, He wants kid's three or four years from now? Are you ready to be a mom at 43-44? when you are 50, He will be 36. When you are 60 He will be 46, but let's back up when he's 40 and hits the MIDLIFE crisis, You will be 54-55. I went with a woman 20 years my Junior, For four years it was great, then I turned 50 and it turned to S----. She turned to a 30 yr.old man. It's your life,Live it to the fullest. I wish for you the the best of luck.

Answer 4

There must be something about this situation that is bothering you and I don't mean the "age" thing, cos if that doesn't bother him then why should it you. I guess there is a possibility he may go for a younger girl but nobodys relationship is truely safe there is always a chance a partner may stray weather they are older than you or younger than you or your own age. If your happy with him and you don't feel he is using you for money or sexualy reasons then why leave. If it's a commitment you want well then your just gonna have to come clean and say it and if he beats around the bush about it then he may not be ready for something more permanant. I wish you the best just decide what is best for you.

Answer 5

Well he keeps coming back for more even though you broke up a few times so I would give it one more chance before giving up on the relationship. He sounds like a very mature guy and as long as you and your son like him age does not matter.

The only age related matter would be if he wanted children himself? Would you be willing to have his baby in the next few years since your biological clock is ticking? You need to get a firm answer out of him whether he wants them or not? If he can't give you a straight answer then you might be wasting your time!

Answer 6

You're his mother, with benefits.

Essentially, he sees you as stable and earning $$$. You probably have him staying over (which is what your son had issues with by the way, and not 'accepting him' but accepting your right to make horrid choices. Look for a man closer to your age, and you know why. You already have one son, at that. This guy's in it for the MiLFie sex, and he knows you're thankful for his time... and fearful of losing him. It's enough to feel he's got some power over a woman that's outearning him, etc.

You don't fear him leaving you, you KNOW he's just floating and using you for what he can, as long as he can.. and you're doing the same. You are both playing it lazy, about meeting other people that could give you True companionship not based on raw need.

Answer 7

Age doesn't matter so much to a young person.
the young never see themselves as an old person.
If I were you, I would think more about a man your age or slightly older.
He may not be unhappy today but my guess is that in thirty years he will still be into his sex life and you will not be.
Will you be able to satisfy him then?
54 and 68 is a big stretch in physical well being.
I'm 66 and not 52 any more.

Answer 8

What can a grown woman of 38 possibly have in common with a 24 year old other than good sex and that feeling of being desirable? He's made you feel good again, made you feel more alive, and given you some confidence. But this is not a permanent match. You know that, or you wouldn't be asking the question.

There will come a time when this young man will want children of his own. He will leave when that happens. The sooner you let him go, and no longer let him come back, the easier it will be to move past it.

Answer 9

I think it doesnt matter even if he leaves you, what matters is the memories you form, is that you love him and are happy with him. If one day he leaves you wont regret the fact that you at least tried and got some happiness out of it. If you let go now you will always wonder what it would have been like to stay with him and who knows maybe everything might work out.

Answer 10

ok ok im may be 14 but im not stupid
how old is ur son?
and what do u do for a living and him too
another thing is fourteen years is way too long thats my age pretty much say if u guyz marry and stay with eachother long time say ur 60 hed only b 46 thast a damn big differnce! or when u were 28 were u having a relationship with a man a little older than u 14 yearz old?

Answer 11

The age difference will probably become a problem later in life but I could not help but notice that you have asked a question on here concerning a cheating partner..Hmmm, now that could be a factor at this time..Apparently you feel that he is playing with kids his own age.Good Luck!