I'm told the boyfriend is ALWAYS over their apartment. Not only is he there, but he also eats there and never ever contributes to the household expenses.
Spending the night is ok with her but spending 5 to 6 nights per week is a bit too much.
What do you think?
2007-08-04 03:45:47 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I was shareing an appartment with a co worker while my house was under renovation which would of been about two - three months and she was aware of this. But I was going to stay with family but she told me how much she needed the money and I did not want to stay with my mom so I moved in with her under a few conditions. We have no men around the kids because at the time I had one daughter and she had one son. No smoking in the house and we shared all expenses 50/50.
But her son's father was over all the time but I did not care because it was her son's father and my daughter saw nothing wrong but he was using all the things in the house and not replacing them. So when I asked for his share of the rent I got that how dare you attitude. He was using her share she said so I asked for him to pay me for the things he used that belong to me.
Well to make a long story short I lost a friend ended up in my mom's house and regret that whole situation.
I am married now and some one who was once dear to me won't speak to me and I only wanted him to pay his expenses I had one child not two why should I pay for a grown man.
2007-08-09 07:54:24 · answer #1 · answered by My Three 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, something doesn't quite make sense here. First of all, are you living in the apartment? If so, why is it that you need to be "told" of this? If you are living in the apartment where these things are happening, I would certainly have a "household" meeting and discuss the future budget plan. In this plan, I would include a fair ratio for any "extra" people that stay there on a regular basis for more than just a day or two each week. If food is shared, I would stop the "food share" and start keeping these items separate. Therefore, the roomies "bf" and the "roomie" will be funding their own meals.
If this household is not YOUR household, just pass this bit of info (if you feel it is good advice) on to your friend or whomever you know that is the tenant with the "problem" roomies.
Good luck to whomever it may concern...
2007-08-04 11:46:57 · answer #2 · answered by zaytox0724 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he is there 5 or 6 nights out of a week, then yes, I'd say he should be asked to pay rent as well, especially if he's eating food there too (unless it is food his girlfriend bought, then that's different).
You should bring up the situation to his girlfriend. Just tell her that if he is going to be there that often to the point where he's pretty much living there, he should start chipping in.
2007-08-04 10:50:57 · answer #3 · answered by Me 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He may spend a lot of time at their house, but his name is not on the lease so he is not in any way obligated to help pay rent or living expenses. If the roommate feels that she is paying to house her roommates boyfriend than she needs to talk with her roommate and explain to her that she does not like company over that many days of the week and that she feels she should not have to pay to feed her roomies guests. They need to discuss this so they can work out a reasonable solution that they can both live with.
2007-08-04 11:24:22 · answer #4 · answered by pj 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to make it a house rule "3 days is a visit after 3 days is a tenent" The persons staying after 3 days must pay ONE third of the rent and food expenses!! This worked well for me when i had roomates, besides an extra person can be an inconvenience at times. How dare them intrude without offering to help pay expenses!!
2007-08-04 10:53:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Paying rent no. Buying food YES.Not spending the night and having pre-marital sex yes. He can be putting you in jeopardy of breaking your lease agreement. He is definitely affecting you being blessed in that home ,if you are allowing it to happen. I would either move out if she will not comply Or get a new roommate. Bottom line pray about it and you will get the truth.
2007-08-04 10:56:51 · answer #6 · answered by imezru2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you 100%. Your half of the rent and food is subsidizing your room-mate's boyfriend! Tell them to pay up! The boyfriend should pay his third!
2007-08-06 14:09:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plan to move at the end of the lease and tell the room-mate this is the plan unless things change. They either will change or they won't. Move on!
2007-08-04 10:50:46 · answer #8 · answered by dddbbb 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since he is practically living there already, then he should be paying for expenses.
Better solution: He shouldn't be spending ANY nights there!
2007-08-05 01:30:04 · answer #9 · answered by missmuffin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the other answerers... he basically lives there. The rent should be split three ways, not two.
2007-08-04 10:54:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋