Whenever i get my hair done or i get new clothes the girls at my school always tease me they say things like " u should'nt wear that shirt it doesn't look right on you" or i if i get my hair done they say " that hairstyle is NOT cute!" and even when my hair is messy and i dont have on the prettiest clothes they still tease me whenever their hair is done and they have pretty clotthes they still tease me even if i say their hair is pretty they still tease me. Please tell me why they do this they're always hitting me and pulling my hair!!! Also they talk about me for no reason im really nice to them and they still talk about me i give them food, money, and anything else they want but they still tease me. I just want to be friends with them thats all! **MOST OF THE GIRLS THAT TEASE ME ARE EITHER POOR OR FAT AND IM SKINNY AND WEALTHY MY DAD OWNS HIS OWN BANK AND MY MOM IS THE CHIEF EXECUTIVE TO THE CEO. IM 13 WHY DO THEY TEASE ME?! THE BOYS TEASE ME 2 DO THEY LIKE ME?? HELP PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!
2007-07-17 07:02:09 · 18 answers · asked by Tequan and Cami 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
they are jealous.dont be nice to them!they are humiliating you and you are being nice to them?please...tell them they can all go **** them selves and next time when they tell you something tell them you cant remember asking for their opinion.show some personality and people will respect you.
2007-07-17 14:40:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They tease you to make themselves feel better. It's considered really low class.
We just finished studying this very thing in church - Habakkuk (sp) - talks about people who tear others down to build themselves up in their own eyes. According to Habakkuk, they're condemned.
That said, no matter what you do, they're going to tease you and be mean to you. There's nothing you can do about it except tough it out. Kids are mean - that's how it is.
Sucks, too.
But give it time. Even though it hurts now - give it time.
Make the best grades you can. Be as nice as you possibly can while maintaining your dignity (without the bribes, please - quit that) Remember, you don't need these pains in the neck for friends. They're just losers and trash.
Yes, this means being not just a little bit lonely - they're probably the only people your age around. It's better to be lonely and keep your dignity than to have a million friends but be untrue to yourself.
Eventually you'll be able to blow that popsicle stand of a small-hick area and go off to a nice school on a scholarship while they'll be stuck getting fatter and fatter from having too many babies so they can get welfare and living in some crummy run-down shack of a trailer-pit with some guy with jail-house tattoos and green teeth.
But at 13, that seems a long way away. It's OK sweetie - just be true to yourself. Above all - be true to yourself.
2007-07-17 07:48:23 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a power trip thing. They're 13 and they're tired of being kids and not having a lot of power, so they want somebody below them in the pecking order. I bet they do it more when there are other kids around to see them do it, don't they? It's a way to try to raise their own status by picking on you. You seem like a very sweet person who doesn't have a mean bone in her body, so they know you won't get 'em back, so it's safe to be mean to you. Heck, you'll even share your lunch with them tomorrow.
As people grow up, they get more power and more freedom and they learn better ways than bullying to get status, and most of them stop doing it for the most part. When I was 18 I had a weird experience where I met this girl who was so horribly mean to me when we were 12 or 13 and she sat down beside me on a bus and chatted with me pleasantly as though we'd always been friends and she'd never said I was stupid and the biggest dork in the universe and all that stuff.
I don't know what to tell you besides that they grow out of it. Well, and I wish I'd tried insulting people back when they were mean to me. Might've helped.
2007-07-17 07:25:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 13, the biggest reason for girls teasing one another is insecurity in themselves and jealousy. More than likely they have already made up their minds about you before taking the time to get to know you, because you represent what they are not, but wish they could be. The way they make themselves feel better is to vehemently deny their unjustified feelings by denying them outright and picking on you.
As for the boys, although the reasons can vary, usually boys tend to tease at that age because they are interested in you.
2007-07-17 10:23:31 · answer #4 · answered by missmuffin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm...prolly cuz ur too nice to them. you should be nice, but stay away from being "too nice." theres a big difference. it makes you look weak and insecure to do all of those things for them, i know you want friendship and stuff but sometimes the best thing to do is put up a front. act like you have everything together in your head and like you don't need anyone to make you happy then they'll wonder what in the world is going on with you and try to be nice and friendly to you to find out. don't be mean but don't let them know what is going on either. they are probly also jealous that you have money and they dont but they make fun of you so they won't feel as insecure and worthless about it. don't flaunt ur riches but if you get a new hairstyle and they crack on it be like " i like it and you don't have to wear it...did i even ask for your opinion!? " well good luck...and remember most of the girls around you are going through the same thing as you they just hide it well! God Bless! :]]
2007-07-17 07:10:46 · answer #5 · answered by beachxchicaxmg 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
this is a simple question. the gurls tease u because they are jealous of u believe it or not. they want what u have. just let them do whatever they want but give it time. theyll stop. trust me. my sisters and i always got teased in middle school cause of the way we dressed and our religion. we let them say anything they wanted. they didnt pull our hair but they did say really mean things. now in high school they dont tease us anymore. they know where we stand. the gurls that tease u are probably just waiting to see if youll fall in their little trap. theyll be watching to see if u will trip up somewhere. dont worry about it that much. just go on like normal and if u have to tell ur principal or someone that will listen. pray about it. and the boys that tease u well it really depends on their personality. if they tease a lot of people for the fun of it then they r just going on with their reputation but if they dont tease a lot of gurls or people then they mite like u. that is if theyre not bullies.
2007-07-17 07:10:54 · answer #6 · answered by Jessica J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore them. when you give them food or money it doesn't help. you just want these people to leave you alone right? then just ignore them. they're nothing important to you, then why should you care to be important to them. another thing, [not trying to sound mean] do you try to come off as wealthy and show off what you have always? like wear nothing but designer and say stuff like "i would be caught dead wearing...". in any school wealth status is one of the main thing separating social cliques. [GIRLS THAT TEASE ME ARE EITHER POOR OR FAT AND IM SKINNY AND WEALTHY] if you see it that way how do you think they see you?
2007-07-17 07:12:05 · answer #7 · answered by Niniiker 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't try to get these girls to like you. They're not worth it. They tease 'cos they are just cruel, and they get their jollies from making fun of people. If you could be friends with them, they would expect you to join them in making fun of someone else. It's what they do for fun. There's got to be someone else you can be friends with who won't abuse you like this.
If they try to hit you, call the police. It's assault and battery. Maybe a visit from the police will take the fun out of it for them.
2007-07-17 07:12:38 · answer #8 · answered by Robin W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They're probably really jealous and trying to hurt you, even if you've never done anything to them. Middle school sucks. Don't let them know it bothers you and don't sink to their level by being mean back. And stop giving them stuff! They're using you and they aren't even nice to you!
2007-07-17 09:01:47 · answer #9 · answered by Saritah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Duh the girls are so jealous the boys are just following what the girls are doing. atleast 1 girl must not be teasing you.why not be friends with that girl.the next time they tease you lay things out straight to them if they can't deal with you being all that and more it's their problem not your's
2007-07-17 07:09:38 · answer #10 · answered by Jyoti M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋