I'm getting married on aug 25th. I started mailing out my invitations to my family members etc... and when i got halfway through my wedding planner forgot to tell me to include a stamp with the RSVP. So half of my invitations did not have a stamp on them. My Side of the family are complaining about me not putting a stsmp on my RSVP. First of all i did not know that i was supposed to include one but now i know. Should i worry about this at all????????? I mean they should not be mad or talk about me, about something that is so small.......
2007-07-15 14:35:59 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Wow-that´s too bad that some people are so petty about a stamp that costs them so little. I am sorry that people are complaining, and you should try to focus on big things about your wedding, not c--- lie a little stamp.
Just apologize to anyone that complains about this, and blame your wedding planner. Shame on that person for not telling you, but mistakes happen! Learn from this, and when a question on Yahoo comes up from a bride to be, you should tell them about your experience so they can learn from this very SMALL mistake.
Cheer up Honey, August 25th is just around the corner-YEH!!!
2007-07-16 00:48:18 · answer #1 · answered by Learning is fun! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is a small thing but it is a matter of etiquette. The thing is your wedding planner should have been on the ball a little more I feel. I mean that's why you are paying this fool, to make sure these little and or big mess ups don't happen. I would start calling and have your mother calling the people you sent the invitations to and apologizing for the mistake. I know it will be a pain in the but. The thing is you do not want people to think you were being rude or a tight wad by not putting stamps on the RSVP. Remember you care about these people and what they think and must really want them to come, so a quick phone call explaining what happened and how horribly sorry you are could go a long way with these people. I am so sorry that happened. I know you are embarrassed some but don't let this bother you it can be fix with just a quick call and explanation. I hope you have a wonderful wedding and that you all will spend the rest of your lives loving and treating each other right. Good Luck!!
2007-07-15 21:45:22 · answer #2 · answered by Prof. Dave 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, congratulations! I would probably worry a bit and laugh at the mistake. Don't stress yourself over people's complaints. And prepare for more, remember no matter how much you do, you bound to encounter some opinions and comments from different people.
Please do call give your guests a call, including those you have put stamp on. Take this an opportunity to talk to them, to confirm their attendance, apologise for the error though is not your mistake, and at the same time you could offer something in return (e.g. joking that they could claim the stamp from you on the wedding dinner, a lunch or dinner treat). Most importantly, make them feel that their presence is important to you. Sometimes, a small thing may matter a lot to others. Some people may use this as a gauge of how important they are in your event.
Last but not least, be a happy bride and enjoy your big day!
2007-07-15 21:57:57 · answer #3 · answered by charmvinci 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, they shouldn't be mad. A stamp is a petty thing for family to fight over. Just apologize and even use the excuse of being overwhelmed with the wedding plans if you want (I'm sure that is partly true anyway). If someone is still upset, offer to take their RSVP verbally so that they don't have to buy the stamp. After that if there's still a problem - tell them that you gather by their anger the response is a "no" and leave it at that. You have much more important things to worry about this close to the wedding. Good Luck!!
2007-07-15 21:43:21 · answer #4 · answered by lucy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hardly anyone RSVPs these days . And even if they mail the ones without the stamp then it will say postage due and you can pay the postman. Dont worry. You will be calling some people about August 15 and asking them if they received your invitation. ( of course they did) and then you will ask if they are able to attend. And they will say they do not know so you will have to say' I will take that as a no since I have to tell the caterer the count' Anyway, do not worry and if anyone has the nerve to talk to you about it just laugh and say what you wrote here about you didnt know.
2007-07-15 23:06:03 · answer #5 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was an innocent mistake. I hope people don't forget to put one on when they return the RSVP (your biggest potential problem). It's not that they will be unwilling to pay the 42 cents, it's that they will not be thinking about the stamp when responding.
If it was my wedding, I would leave a stamp on each place setting at the wedding (a little dry humor)
If you live in a small town, call the post office and tell them about your error and that you will pay any postage due on missing stamps
2007-07-15 21:39:22 · answer #6 · answered by mark 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am getting marry on July 28 of this year. I mailed out my invitations and I didn't put a RSVP stamp or card in or on my invitations. So, don't stress yourself out about this. Trust me it's going to be o.k. My mom fuss at me to because I didn't put a RSVP or where I was register at. Just have faith and believe that your family and friends will attend your wedding. Beside, it is not you fault that the wedding planner didn't tell you this. I know it's your family and all but, don't let them stress you out over this tiny mistake. Trust in God and everything will be o.k.
"CONGRATULATIONS"
I hope this help you out.
2007-07-15 21:58:23 · answer #7 · answered by calinahart 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't worry about it too much bc you have a lot of stress being a bride to be. But to make your side of the family stop complaining stress that it was a complete accident and you were not aware that you had to put a stamp on the RSVP envelope. Also tell them if it such a bother to put one measly stamp on a envelope that they could call or email you about if they are rsvping. If they are still complaining about tell them that you are willing to reimburse for the stamp they used, and tell them that they are giving you a lot of unnecessary stress.
2007-07-15 21:43:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a small oversight and they shouldn't make a big deal. Some people will whine about anything just because they can. Say your sorry, you didn't realize, and ignore them if they keep up their tantrum.
However, since you left the stamp off some you should leave the stamp off all of them so it's fair. Otherwise be prepared to somehow get a stamp to the people who's invites didn't have one.
2007-07-15 21:42:01 · answer #9 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Putting a stamp on your RSVP envelope is an absolute must. I wouldn't worry about it though. You've corrected the situation and if your family is that bent out of shape then they can just hand you their RSVP cards when they see you. It is very tacky of them to even mention - let alone complain to you - that you forgot the stamps!
2007-07-15 21:40:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋