am i a cheater?

Question

my husbands brother in law calls me @ work & talks to me all time.

no he is not my brother...
he is my husbands sister's husband
no phone sex either.

Answer 1

he loves you very much,

Answer 2

If your love for your husband truely then there is no problem at all. In that sense you are not a cheater. But do remember one thing, You should give way for advancements by the opposite sex. Now a days, people have become sex starved. So its difficult to choose between good and bad intentional people. If his intention is good then its alright but if his intentions are based on physical enjoyment, you should avoid his calls and show a bold kind of attitude towards him. Remember one thing, if you are loyal to your husband and is respecting your brother-in -law, then you should make sure he is a good friend and nothing else because if your husband somehow came to know of it, he might feel like being cheated by you and then you wont even get a chance to repent. Do something now and be bold to face the brother in law and ask him what he wants and the rest depends upon you.

Answer 3

You definitely are not a cheater for talking on the phone but you should put yourself in your husband's shoes and think about how you would feel if you found out that he was talking to your sister or someone else close to you on a regular basis. You don't want to mess things up between you and your husband or your husband and his brother so explain to the brother to stop calling you because its not fair on your husband.

Good luck!!

Answer 4

So your brother calls you at work all the time & talks to you? I know there are other combos, but that one can also be your husband's brother in law.

You're not a cheater, but you should let him know that you're at work and you can't chat right now. At work, you should work and he should have enough respect to let you focus on your job. If it IS interfering with your marriage (if your husband thinks this is cheating), then you also need to tell this guy that your husband doesn't appreciate it. Whether other people think it is cheating or not, if it makes your husband uncomfortable, it needs to stop or at least be toned down.

Answer 5

Are you having conversations that you would willingly have if your husband was in the room? Or are you engaging in phone sex and risque talk? There's nothing wrong with having friends, even if it's an in law... but if you couldn't carry on the conversation comfortably in front of your husband, you should think twice about the subject matter.

Answer 6

Well if your husband don't know about you guys talking you need to tell him because if you keep it a secret and your husband finds out he is going to think something is goin on between the two of you so no your not cheating in my eyes but you need to be real with you husband

Answer 7

his brother in law could also be his sister's husband.....i agree it depends on what you talk about and what the feelings behind it are. you know if you're doing something wrong. would your husband care if he knew? do you feel like you have to hide it? those are good indicators.

Answer 8

you are not a cheater but I am curious as to why he calls you and why you have not told him you feel it is inappropriate for him to call,

and technically for all the morons that answered he is your brother, HE is not your brother in law,, he is your sister in laws Husband, ask DEAR ABBY if you dont believe me,

Answer 9

He may love you but the best thing to do his confront him and ask him how he feels. and if he says he loves you then you should so tell him to back off because you are married. but no you are not a cheater it just means you like to talk a lot oviously.

Answer 10

No why would that be cheating. As long as your not talking about sex and sexuall situations. That is your family. your not doing anything wrong as long as you keep it clean. I would say as long as your husband know's and he understands your just friends.

Answer 11

Wouldn't your husband's brother in law be your brother?