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I feel a loser. I have no friends, no social life, no confidence, no future, I can't laugh o'r smile because I just feel numb and emotionless, everyone laughs at me behind my back..I know it! people have always seen me as a loser. I really don't see the point of living. I'm 26 and so far I haven't got anything out of life and nothings going to change.

2007-06-18 08:37:46 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health Mental Health

I am on medication, but there's a six month waiting list to see a therapist. And I'm too much of a looser to have the guts to kill myself anyway so don't worry. If I did kill myself I wouldn't jump off a bridge anyway........Too much blood and guts to clean up... See I'm considerate!

2007-06-18 08:52:16 · update #1

17 answers

i am trying to i.m. you, you won't answer back, it is not worth it man! plz don't , it's a permanant solution to a tamporary problem!!!!

2007-06-18 08:56:35 · answer #1 · answered by gfunk 3 · 0 0

First, you're not a loser. There are very few "losers" in this world. The fact that you're posting here, reaching out, says you're not a loser.

Second, you only get what you get out of life based on what you put in. I'm guessing you're most upset about your lack of social life. It happens to a lot of 20-somethings; it's hard to make friends in the first place, but especially once college/school is done with. Lo and behold, the internet beckons! There are plenty of really great people who would see the great qualities you do have (sensitivity, for one); many great friendships have been forged via the web.

If you're as low as you sound, you really should try therapy. If you don't like it, you don't have to go back. It's hard to give you specific advice based on what you've shared, but believe me - it can get better if you're willing to try.

As far as other people always thinking you're a loser... who cares? You're the only one in this world who can determine your own worth.

Good luck, and don't give up. If you're seriously considering suicide, please - call a hotline. There are plenty of really great people who will be willing to help you if you ask. You are not alone.

2007-06-18 08:52:34 · answer #2 · answered by Courtney 3 · 0 0

Anyone would feel suicidal in your situation--its natural to want to escape misery, but death isn't the only option. Usually people don't feel this bad unless there is medical problem affecting their emotions. You might be able to easily stop some of these problems by seeing a doctor that can prescribe antidepressants, and following up with therapy if needed (or the other way around). What if all it took to make this go away is one pill? Sometimes that's what antidepressants can do.

You are at a point where you have to make a decision about getting help, enduring misery, or ending your life. Getting help for depression is no big deal. Make an appointment with you regular doctor, tell him/her how you feel, and tell them you want to try an antidepressant.

2007-06-18 08:49:26 · answer #3 · answered by formerly_bob 7 · 0 0

i understand how you feel. honestly i do. i am 51 years old. i have attempted suicide three times in my life until some one finally got me in a physciatric ward and got me the help i needed. that was 5 years ago. now i am doing fine. and you can do fine too. you are not a loser. out of all the things you wrote your main problem seems to be that you have no confidence. soooo, what you need to do for that is pull your head up out of your shoulders and hold it up high. stand tall put a smile on your face whether you feel like it or not. say hi to every one you meet. get out of the house or apartment. go to places where you can meet people. church groups, libraries, movies,just any place you can think of. i doubt anyone is laughing at you behind your back but that is a real feeling for you and even though you feel that people feel like you are a loser that is still a real feeling for. ..you probably need to talk to your doctor about these feelings you be directed to see a therapist and /or a psychiatrist and put on meds for awhile until you are feeling better. sounds to me like you are suffering from some kind of depression which fortunately can be treated. GOD be with you

2007-06-18 09:12:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Noticed you didn't say anything about family in there.
What about them?

And things will change- they have to.

There is NO WAY I'd suffer thru 26 years just to give up- there is no way that I'd go thru all of that just to quit.

Go to a psychiatrist- if they're not working, get a new one.
Call those 24/7 support groups- if one doesn't work , head on to a new line.
Take care of yourself- people like people who can just take care of themselves well.
Get in some activity- activity helps, always.
Maybe get on some anti-depressants- just don't get to be a slave towards it.
Check yourself into a mental hospital- sounds crazy (for lack of a better word lol)- but just being in one will make you discover who you raelly are and if you really have legitimate feelings.

2007-06-18 08:46:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

You are not a loser! You are unique and special because you're you. Things can and do change but we have to take the first step and for you it's seeking professional help. See your doctor and get referral for specialist conselling. If you don't want to speak to a doctor you may feel more comfortable going to your local church and speaking to the pastor. There are so many people who can help you to get your self-view back in focus and to help you to nail the lies in your head about yourself. You sound like a sensitive person and I bet you've got a lovely nature. Hang on in there. I'm sure the future has good things in store for you. God bless.

2007-06-18 08:49:15 · answer #6 · answered by lix 6 · 0 0

you are looking for something to satisfy your thirst in life for purpose, reasons, answers. Perhaps you have asked the question "why am I here?" as so many have. I suggest taking the advice of the first answer, and doing some research into religion. You will find that your faith forms into the basis of your very being and becomes your motivation. Work towards something, even when sucess seems far from reach, work hard at something you want and go get it. Ignore the thoughts of others about you, they do you no good. It is in yourself that you should believe in, not the comments of people who don't really know you. Good luck and God Bless.

Oh, and its good to see you have a sense of humor ;) It is also good to see that you are not going to kill yourself. If you wanted to prove to yourself that you AREN'T a looser, don't kill or hurt yourself!

2007-06-18 08:44:44 · answer #7 · answered by Lori 2 · 0 1

u r feeling exactly like how i used to do! and i'll tell u what my best friend told me. he said,"the fact that people saw u as a loser does not mean that they will continue to do so always. having no social life or friends is no great problem and is certainly no reason to make u lose ur confidence. perhaps u did not have a good past, but how do u know that u have no future? are u God? God has given u this life, so its ur duty to live; do this for those who love u, if not friends then at least for ur parents or siblings. and who knows what miracles might suddenly happen...!!"

2007-06-18 08:56:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

there isn't any such element as a existence "ruined" by utilizing age 17. on occasion existence takes us in instructions we did not assume; on occasion it is straight away problematic to attend to; yet each and every thing has a manner of working itself out interior the top, and you will detect a existence you're pleased with, the place you're effective at issues that extremely count quantity to you. there is rather not lots you're able to do approximately your mom's alcoholism, different than comprehend which you won't be able to place self belief in her. you are going to be slightly extra advantageous than the customary person, for that reason - and that's unfair, and it sucks, yet interior the top it is going to in easy terms make you a extra advantageous person. As on your intrusive gay urges - nicely, there is two opportunities. the 1st is which you have one among those obsessive-compulsive affliction that makes you think of loopy issues you be attentive to deep down are not real (to illustrate, some obsessive-compulsives can not have faith their palms are sparkling even whilst they are observing sparkling palms, or can not have faith they did not run a pedestrian over on the line even although they have no memory of doing so). the 2d danger is which you're bisexual or gay, and which you're interior the closet, and your sexuality is making an attempt to interrupt with the aid of. And if this is so, nicely, finally you will merely could settle for that your existence will not be precisely what you concept it became. extremely it is easy to have a family participants and youngsters - distinctive gay and bisexual men do. you have as many suggestions as you like; your sexuality would not rigidity you to assume any particular way of existence. In a pair years, you would be out of the domicile and on your guy or woman, your mom's alcoholism isn't as pressing a situation, and you may initiate development your person existence. it is an attractive time, and the majority describe their early 20s as a time they enjoyed and efficient and (actually) pass over. you would be an absolute fool to kill your self and pass over out on those remarkable years.

2016-10-17 22:32:12 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

First of all, you are special, because there is no one in the universe who is exactly like you. Just because you are looking at the situation: people who don't love you, failures, whatever, it doesn't mean that there are no hopes. You don't feel people are loving you? Go find ones who love you. Please don't commit suicide. You can do better than that.
I felt this way a long time ago, and yes, I wanted to die because I felt the same way as you did. Then I started going to church, and accepted Jesus. Wow, let me tell you....His love just filled my heart, and He let me see my purpose in life. In time of misery, God gave me the joy that no one could EVER give me. Go to church!! Find out why you are here. There are always hope in the middle of darkness.

2007-06-18 08:44:12 · answer #10 · answered by pinkviolinistofthelord 2 · 0 0

You should NEVER think about killing yourself. I believe that killing yourself is just an "easy" way to get out of your problems. You should definitely try going to a psychiatrist. I do... chances are, you might have actual depression and you don't even know it. Maybe you won't agree... but medication does WONDERS. Don't just give up. Maybe you could even move somewhere else... start fresh?

2007-06-18 08:47:03 · answer #11 · answered by ♥ Lisa ♥ 3 · 0 0

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