I found out the other night, the parents gave them alcohol to drink. She is 15, what would you do?
2007-06-18 03:28:42 · 14 answers · asked by keda 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you get too heavy it will only make it worse. Forbidding her to see the boy will be unsuccessful. In some cultures, a little wine with dinner for children is not unusual. I think I let the other parents know that you do not allow your daughter to drink and simply ask them not to do it again. Do this in a very calm manner. Don't make the situation worse by calling the police unless it happens again. If you get your state's version of Social Services in your life that agency is very difficult to get rid of later. Try everything in your power to handle this between you, your daughter and her boyfriend's parents. However, I'd make it clear that under no circumstances can her boyfriend drive after drinking any alcohol.
2007-06-18 03:50:39 · answer #1 · answered by David M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would first confirm with the daughter that that really happened and exactly how much alcohol was given to her. You need to know too if she accepted it willing or asked for it, or was merely handed it and by whom. Then I'd let the comment get out among the other mothers to see if that was truly the situation. If it was then I'd report them.
From years past I know that "within families" families allowed taking a "sip" of alcohol for good luck at some event or celebration and that wasn't considered "drinking" with them, and they also used it for medicinal purposes, so it was a grey area. I can't make judgment on your question because I don't have all the facts and don't know her or your personal situation..
2007-06-18 10:40:57 · answer #2 · answered by sophieb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before pursuing any legal action, I would call the parents and explain that, while they can do what they want with their son, you don't want your daughter drinking alcohol. If they continue to do so, I would call the police.
2007-06-18 10:32:57 · answer #3 · answered by Joy M 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would call them and find out the details. If was just a bit of wine with dinner, I wouldn't make a huge issue about it, but I would tell them not to allow it in the future. If it was a couple of beers just hanging around, then I'd have to tell them that my daughter was no longer allowed to go to their house. I'd also talk with the boyfriend and explain to him that my daughter isn't allowed to drink. I'd also talk with my daughter and explain to her what alcohol does to your judgment and that she's not permitted to drink until she's older.
I'm not sure if I'd tell her she couldn't see her bf - that might backfire in your face.
2007-06-18 10:35:44 · answer #4 · answered by J F 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So what?!
I am dating one girl also for two months now,and everything is perfect.And about the alcohol....hmmmm....well she tried,she didn't get drunk.And i see no problem in it.I think that parents are overreacting sometimes.I mean i never had any kind of problems with my parents since my dad always says to me,if i want to try something i should try.There is no problem in trying there is a problem if she gets drunk and does something stupid.Like i did.
2007-06-18 10:45:19 · answer #5 · answered by mitanesic 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would talk to my daughter first and clear the air, if you haven't already. I would then talk to the parents and find out what the hell they were thinking and stress to them that she is your daughter and what they choose to do with their son behind closed doors is their business but DO NOT include your daughter or she would not be allowed to date your son, BC 1st off serving a minor Alcohol and if she has a DL its dangerous for her to drive home, or to have the son drive her home, hell its unsafe for them to drive her home. If you continue to allow your daughter to date this boy, then allow him to come to your house only....
2007-06-18 10:36:42 · answer #6 · answered by Free_Spirit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the police, because they're giving alcohol to minors.
2007-06-18 10:33:24 · answer #7 · answered by Magnix2k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the parents and talk to them. Let them know very nicely that you think it was unacceptable for them to do without asking you first.
2007-06-18 10:31:26 · answer #8 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea call the police and dont let her go out w/ that boy.. that is not a normal family..you dont let 15 yr olds drink.if those are the family morals who knows what they will get her into .
2007-06-18 10:33:53 · answer #9 · answered by mon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lay the smackdown on their @ss. What kind of 'responsible adult' gives 15yr olds alcohol?
2007-06-18 10:32:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋