I recently started dating a girl who wears a promise ring that her ex gave her and she always wears it It's been almost 6 months since they broke up and I just wonder if she still isn't over him. I don't want to get hurt if i fall for her and she still has other plans. Should i ask her why she still wears the ring or just let it go??
2007-06-13 09:00:50 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
absolutely! how would she feel if you continued to wear something an ex gave you? let her know how it makes you feel to see her with it on knowing its from her ex. ask her to either stop wearing it, get another ring to take its place, or buy her one to replace it yourself. if she still refuses to stop wearing it then maybe you should rethink your relationship with her because she may not be over her ex. also, imagine what her ex is thinking if/when he sees her still wearing his ring, esepcially if he's not over her either. it's like giving him a sign that they just might get back together because she's still holding on to a piece of him and their relationship. if she doesnt stop wearing it out of love for you, then at least out of respect, and if not that then maybe you need to just move on to someone new, or give her space until she's moved on from her ex. good luck!
also, ask her why she still wears it in the first place, and if she has no good reason then that should be your first red flag...
2007-06-13 09:13:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You DEF need to communicate with your gf and ask her why she is still wearing her ex's promise ring. You may not like what you hear, but communication is key to any relationship, and it would be bad to jump to conclusions before talking to her, maybe there is something special about the ring that you do not know about beyond it being an old promise ring...its a little strange and it def could be a bad sign, but the best way to find out is to ask. if shes niot over him cool things off and give her time to straighten out and decide what she wants to do....take thigns slow and they can still work out
2007-06-13 09:05:33 · answer #2 · answered by Rock* 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely ask her about this. A promise ring is a sign of a commitment to a certain person. By still wearing the ring she is still showing a commitment to her ex.
2007-06-13 09:04:46 · answer #3 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you have a right to ask why she still wears a ring her ex had given her 6 months ago. She is your new girl, so of course you should find out if she still has feelings for him, that way you know if you should back out of the relationship or get closer together.
But it could just be that she thinks its pretty or that she still feels like her ex is still a close friend to her, so she wears it to remind her of her friend.
2007-06-13 09:08:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is entirely as much as you. I've visible such a lot promise earrings within the $one hundred-$one million,000 variety. What kind does your female friend like? Most females like white gold, platinum, steady gold or silver. Yes, you'll supply it to her on her birthday. That could be candy. I could say you do not ask her father till you get to the engagement ring level. Best of good fortune to you!
2016-09-05 15:36:02 · answer #5 · answered by betker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you've had at least 4 dates, it's okay to ask. It's not an unreasonable question. Try to keep it light, you could just say, while smiling "I just wondered if I should be worried that you are still wearing that promise ring". keep smiling and see what she says.
2007-06-13 09:05:49 · answer #6 · answered by gracel313 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is not over her. if she is, then she won't wear it. it just can be somewhere in her draw or something.
i got a promise ring, and it was just somewhere in my house, and i don't even remember where i put at. he and i used to talk after break-up, then, i jsut realiaze that it was too much and hold me to move on. so, i decided just not to contact anymore.
i can understand she won't let go eaily, but take her time. 6 months should be okay no to wear ring anymore. and she has to build trust again.
2007-06-13 09:07:25 · answer #7 · answered by Tracy But 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she personally told you her ex got her that ring and still wears it with you, then definitely ask her why she still wears it.
She might just like the ring or she might still hope to get back with him, who knows. Just ask her, she should be honest with you.
2007-06-13 09:07:08 · answer #8 · answered by Manzanita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd ask her for sure! Is it a nice ring? Maybe ask her to switch it to a different finger or hand? If it's a nice ring I'd wear it too, but be upfront with her and tell her it bothers you!
2007-06-13 09:04:37 · answer #9 · answered by vballmilyssa 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would ask her why she still wears it if shes not with him. Usually a promise ring simbolizes that you promise to marry someone. I would be bothered by this. You definetly should ask her.
2007-06-13 09:05:22 · answer #10 · answered by Jackie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋