As a Catholic I believe we are called to love all even those whom have hurt us. I understand many faiths share that feeling. The hardest thing to let go of I believe isn't anger or resentment but hurt. I believe that hatred and it's brothers are prisons we build around ourselves and that love is the key to freedom. What are your thoughts?
2007-05-15 14:46:27 · 15 answers · asked by Debra M. Wishing Peace To All 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
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2007-05-15 14:52:56 · update #1
Can't forgive, can't forget.
My thoughts - well I have rewritten this 6 times, and still can't talk about my pain with my ex-wife.
She left 6 years ago, with my son.
You state: "As a Catholic I believe we are called to love all even those whom have hurt us." - So do I - I often do, and ask people to try.
I can - pretty much - all except her.
I wish I had never seen this question...
2007-05-15 19:23:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Debra,
I know what is is like to be hurt and verbally abused and treated cruelly. Forgiveness and overcoming is a process not an event. Just recently I have come to terms to forgive the way Christ forgiven us Was I angry did I want to hurt people yes but the Bible says vengeance is mine says the Lord.
Love is the key to freedom and unlocks the doors of hurts in the hearts of man and woman. Keep giving the hurt over to Jesus I do.
I also have been hurt and also embittered but I surrender that to Jesus daily.
You will be able to help alot of people with the hurt you have gone through with the comfort you receive from God.
Peace be with you God is with you here are some hugs to get you throughoooooooooooooooooooooo
With love and Gods blessing,
Encourager4God
2007-05-15 16:07:00 · answer #2 · answered by encourager4God 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm Catholic also.
I've lived with a hurt my whole life but I didn't realize it until my late twenties.
My father walked out when I was three months old and my brother was six. It took me a long time to realize the damage of having grown up without him and how accountable I hold him for this. I hold him accountable for the pains that my brother has suffered. Especially because somehow, he must have thought that it had something to do with me and we didn't start having a decent (and ultimately fantastic) relationship until our early thirties.
I realize that I have to let this go and many times I have thought that I had let it go until something triggers the anger again. I hope that I can release him from this anger someday.
Correction: My brother was three, not six.
2007-05-15 14:56:28 · answer #3 · answered by CUrias 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I agree, I believed this as a child, long before I found out that Buddhism also teaches this.
I cannot remember, I forgive very easily. It may have been the time a child in school punched me and gave me an eye contusion. When I got to decide whether he would go to juvy a week later, I was about to check the "yes" box, but then I realized that punishing him wouldn't solve anything, making him more miserable wouldn't make me any happier. So I forgave him and moved on..
2007-05-15 16:09:45 · answer #4 · answered by Shinkirou Hasukage 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being told by doctors that I would be dead before I turned 16 and then finding out that it was all wrong at the age of 15- took me four years to forgive but the experiences of that time of my life will always be a part of you I am today.
Verbal abuse from my father- still working on because it is still going on
spousal problems husband walking out on me, my two year old, and 10 month old (who was 2 months when daddy left)- working on this daily.
2007-05-15 18:26:57 · answer #5 · answered by Hawaiiflower 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being abused by a father that used religion to excuse it, but I am still religious, after a bout with atheism, PTL. I am not sure if I have let go of it, I claim I have because I have confronted my Father (and Mother, whom I think knew about it and just ignored it,) who denied it and was OK with that. I get along with my Father, but I have been told, a person can get along well with a person and still harbor unforgiveness, so I am very confused, I am trying to work out any unresolved issueds thru theophostics. www.theophostic.com.
2007-05-15 15:03:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Mine was after a particularly harsh breakup - someone who abandoned me when I needed someone the most, basically. It took me almost three years to get over it (this was about seven years ago). Two Christmases ago after several years without contact, I sent an e-mail asking for closure, and I got a reply. I still wasn't really past it until that point.
2007-05-15 23:16:45 · answer #7 · answered by nomadic 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I bear wounds from childhood abuse -
I bear wounds from romantic betrayal -
I bear wounds from family betrayal -
I bear wounds from... let's call it "an assault" -
Some took many years... some didn't... all are covered in the scars born on the body of my Christ who loves me so - and bears my sins along with theirs - side by side.
Forgiveness is a difficult thing... sometimes a daily thing... sometimes an hourly thing...
Some days I am successful, some days I am not.
All of it has to be left with Jesus, and when Satan picks it up and rubs my face in it again - I just have to wash it in the blood again to get clean.
Isaiah 1:18 Come now, and let us reason together, saith the LORD: though your sins be as scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they be red like crimson, they shall be as wool.
God is love - and His love is all I really have in this world.
Peace.
2007-05-15 15:39:43 · answer #8 · answered by Depoetic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I fell from grace.
I still hold on to it, mourn the loss of the connection to God, of the clarity and love that came so easily.
My life is still wonderful in so many ways, but its hard to make clear how awful a fall from so high can hurt than a minor fall from a much simpler place.
Like trying to compare the loss of a trillion dollars to only a million to someone who who has lost 20 dollars out of a hundred. It doesn't make me better (far from it), but it's still very hard, knowing what's possible, and feeling so far from God due to my own failure.
2007-05-15 15:07:48 · answer #9 · answered by mckenziecalhoun 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I hated my father for abandoning the family and it was not until recently, did I forgive him. I am still unable to visit with him but I no longer carry the load of hatred. The truth of the matter is, I hated myself and until I forgave myself first, I was totally unable to forgive anyone else.
2007-05-15 15:41:59 · answer #10 · answered by reverendrichie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋