My boss took an extremely rude tone with me today in front of a co-worker. When I confronted her about it later she explained that she was in a bad mood and didn't have to apologize for her "bad mood" or condesending tone. "Everyone is allowed to be in a bad mood".
Is this professionally acceptable? Am I over-reacting?
2007-05-15 14:23:24 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
SHow her how you felt by taking the same tone with her in the future and blame it on your bad mood.
2007-05-15 14:27:10 · answer #1 · answered by yayyo 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
It's not okay and not at all professional. It does sound like it is her personality though.
At the same time, everyone does have a brain-fart once in a while or make a mistake. Your boss is human and will make mistakes that only a boss could make (such as the one you encountered). Should this be a common theme, then they are not a good manager, but if it was a one-time thing, I would just let it go an move on.
Besides, you have to consider if it is just your view point or if that is truly how she behaves. Maybe your personalities are just different.
Too many bosses feel that apologizing is a sign of weakness. But since that was her reaction, you are probably right that she tends to be an agressive personality. However, you will likely find that you will either need to learn to tolerate it or move on. Unless it is affecting her job performance as a whole, reporting this to her supervisors could make matters worse. NOT that I condone or tolerate a workplace with these habits, but if the behaviour is marginal or not recognized by her superiors, you might be labeled as the problem in the workplace. Just some food for thought as you choose your next course of action.
Don't be rash and stay professional yourself and you should be okay. If you're not comfortable with that workplace then carefully consider your options and the repercussions for them.
2007-05-15 16:39:27 · answer #2 · answered by Mack Man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, this is not professionally acceptable and your boss needs to know it. Just because "casual Friday" rolls around once a week does not mean manners are out the window. Professional leaders in the workplace are the first line of instruction by example. At no time should a employee be "dressed down" like in a military unit for something in front of peers.
Your boss has a boss. I would inform your boss, in writing, that unless she apologizes for her unprofessional manners then you will be forced to go over her head. The company cannot afford people who make it look BAD.
Business IS business.
2007-05-15 14:48:57 · answer #3 · answered by Seraphim B 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That was not professionally acceptable and you as a worker need more justification for such actions then "a bad mood". As a manager it is her duty to maintain a sense of decorum. If she had a legitimate problem with you, she should have pulled you aside in private to discuss anything as such. Document what she said and if it happens again report it to her superiors. No employee deserves to be treated badly.
2007-05-15 14:27:40 · answer #4 · answered by dolce 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U are not over-reacting. Shes your boss, shes suppose to be professional and a role model and she didn't preform well in this situation bad mood or not. Thats just an excuse..I would def confront her and demand an apology. Its just rude.
2007-05-15 14:28:10 · answer #5 · answered by melay 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No it's not acceptable, not professional and you are not over-reacting.
Everyone has bad moods occasionally. And if she didn't mean what she said, then she should appologize. Also, if she appologizes you should forgive her. That would be professional. Since she is refusing to appologize, you might want to go to her boss about it. However, realize that all actions have consequences. Is her appology worth the possible consequences of going over her head?
2007-05-15 14:48:56 · answer #6 · answered by Gypsy Girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like she's full of herself (pompous a**), as is so often the case with mid-level managers or ones who are low on the totem pole. She should have spoke to you in private. A good manager knows how to communicate in a way that isn't belittling, but rather, constructive and that helps an employee do his job better.
2007-05-15 15:16:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anyone can be in a bad mood but that does not mean they get excused for their horrible behavior.
It is not acceptable and you are not overreacting.
If it is bothering you that much, then report to your managers boss about his attitude.
2007-05-16 01:43:33 · answer #8 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe your over-reacting at all, but the sad part is there's nothing you can do to change her mind. This is one of those instances where you have to be the bigger person, but that doesn't mean you continue to let this go on! Make note of it, and if need be take it to a higher source.
I hope everything works out!
2007-05-15 14:29:28 · answer #9 · answered by minstan76 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not overreacting. Your manager is a snotty twit who thinks her bad mood is more important than an employee's wellbeing and *her* supervisor needs to write her a ss up.
2007-05-15 14:31:13 · answer #10 · answered by Nightlight 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋