my mama want let me start going 2 church with my friend cause they dress a little nicer then me. theres no money 2 buy new clothes just for me! I told my mama that it doesnt matter what I wear cause im there for god. She got mad at me tonight for wearing blue jeans,a t-shirt,and flip-flops!! I dont care what people think of me!! so what do I do?? is it really a bbig idea?
2007-04-04 13:59:09 · 9 answers · asked by sam! 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Honey ,You are absolutely right it doesn't matter what you wear to church stick to your guns your mum is old fashioned and out of touch with the modern trends .My suggestion would be to invite her along to see for herself ,she probably won't accept but at least you have given her the opportunity lol.john h.
2007-04-04 14:10:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being a mother, I understand both points of view.
You are right. It does not matter what you are wearing to church. You are there for God, not for a fashion show.
But, your mother is probably worried about how other people will view you. Most people get dressed up nicely for church and she may be worried that you will look out of place.
I think what might work best is if you have a middle ground, a compromise. Since you do not have much money, you could do an odd job or two (mow some lawns, babysit, etc.) and buy yourself a nice cheap dress at a second hand shop.
Or you could ask around your family. Maybe an Aunt, cousin, etc. has a dress that they don't want that might fit you?
That way, both you and your mother will be happy.
Good luck!
2007-04-04 21:12:41 · answer #2 · answered by lorelei.siren 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's very admirable that your mother wants you to dress respectfully for church. You have a good point however. You are there for God - not to impress others. Your mother likely has the admirable attitude that God deserves our best, and out of respect for Him, we should dress our best. Because you can't afford to dress in clothing that she feels is proper for church, she likely feels it is a poor reflection on your manners and on her parenting if she allows you to go to church dressed casually. That's her perspective.
Now for your perspective: You feel you should be able to come as you are because you are not there to impress others, but rather to worship God and learn about Him. You likely feel that you will be accepted at church no matter how you are dressed. You are absolutely right. Any church which would condemn you for how you dress is really not a loving church. As long as you are not wearing extremely inappropriate clothing, such as clothing which is far too revealing of your body, then what you wear to church is okay.
Now the trick is to respect your mother's feelings, because she is your mother and deserves respect, but also because her feelings are valid, while still presenting your own viewpoint in a way that she can accept. It might be helpful if your friend's mother or father sits down with your mother and talks to her sensitively (so as to not hurt her pride because she can't afford nice clothes) about the church's position about how one dresses. If your friend's parent can reassure your mother that how one dresses is really not important at that church, your mother might feel a lot more comfortable with the whole thing. Or, you might invite the youth director to come to your home and speak to your mother. Often a youth pastor can have a lot more influence than you realize. They understand the parent's perspective and can present things in a way as to make your mother comfortable.
Bless you for wanting to go to church. That is admirable. I would try to understand that your mother's heart is in the right place, but her ideas are not current with today's thinking in church nowadays. You can help bring her up-to-date by recruiting a friend's parent or a youth pastor to come talk to your mother. I hope it all works out for you!!
2007-04-04 21:09:30 · answer #3 · answered by Chimichanga to go please!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is a bit too concerned with appearances.
She reminds me of my step mom. She always made a big production of getting dressed. There's nothing wrong with wanting to look nice but when you're telling your teenage girls they need to have on make-up b4 they leave the house & have on tons of parfume(she would hose us down)
Sorry, I'm rambling.
ANyways, yeah your mom just needs to chill. Church isn't a fashoion show.
2007-04-04 22:04:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
God doesn't care what you wear to church. You are not there to make a fashion statement. You are there to get nice garments for your soul which will not cost you a penny, they were bought and paid for a long time ago.
2007-04-05 00:38:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell this to your mother.
It doesn't matter what you wear just as long as you wear something.
Church is a place of worship, NOT a fashion show.
2007-04-04 21:06:17 · answer #6 · answered by grumpyfiend 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
God doesn't think it's a big deal. Jesus didn't wear the latest fashions either.
2007-04-04 21:10:18 · answer #7 · answered by Sherry K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think its a big deal-- but your mom obviously feels that your manner of dress reflects on her.
Can you learn to sew or go to the thrift store?
2007-04-04 21:06:41 · answer #8 · answered by Lisa the Pooh 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not a big deal, just wear what you have. God loves us at our best and at our worst.
2007-04-04 22:18:55 · answer #9 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋