i dont belive in cheating unless its in the form of, my man going on and having a full on emotional affair and me finding it out because he hid it from me.
I dont think there is anything wrong if after a few years of marriage he tell sme he wants his secretary and we bring her home. I would never consider that cheating. I think its just unrealistic to belive a man would never want sex from another woman, men arent wired like that.
As long as he tells me what is the big deal, its just sex, and as long as i am part of it somehow, what the heck is the problem?
Cheating is when a man lies or when he goes not only for sex but for emotional needs to another woman, then i would consider it cheating.
Why dont more women view it like that?
Why do all women think i am crazy?
I am in a very good commited relationship and i havent expreiced even a fraction of the problems my friends tell me about, we communicate everything we want and do all the sexual stuff together.
2007-03-29 09:45:14 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
haha , as usual, all the women always say the same thing with no logic to back it up .
What is wrong with you girls?
and by the way, Women cheat just as much as Men.
What do men think of this view?
2007-03-29 09:51:28 · update #1
the divorce rate for arranged marriage is less than 2%
Divorce rate in america is 55%
Men in arranged marriages often cheat(sexualy), yet the women do not leave them... does this mean that they do not love each other or they are not commited, or the woman is just acceptant of a mans desire for other sexual partners.
A man will never stop looking at women and wanting them sexually, because once he does, he stops wanting his wife as well.
2007-03-29 09:58:55 · update #2
If women know that men view sex diffrent from them then how can so many women apply the same rules of cheating/relationships as they would apply to themselves to men.
it has been proven/showen/discussed time and time again
woman=sex=feelings
men=sex=body/satisfaction
2007-03-29 10:05:15 · update #3
Welcome to my world sister!! Can you imagine anything worse in the world than your man laughing with another woman?? Sex is a different story...even dogs have sex, it doesn't take any emotion. ya know, if my man wants to go look at strippers...I'm right beside him with a pocket full of singles...it's JUST sex! But, it would break my heart if he were to become emotionally intamate with another woman. I'm with you on this one!
2007-03-29 09:56:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I feel where you are coming from but I think cheating is when your man goes out and has sex with another woman. I think that is wrong because if you did the same with another man all hell would break loose. Some emotion has to be in it when he has sex with another woman because that is something that is planned and not all of the time considered a one night stand. I agree if you want to have sex with another woman bring her home but make sure she has no diseases. You are not crazy you are confident in your relationship and do not even think about your man being with another woman unless you two are together. If more woman thought like you did maybe it would be less infidelity in the world.
2007-03-29 09:51:30 · answer #2 · answered by badazz_51 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow!!!
First there is nothing crazy about that!!!! I completely agree with you. I have been married for 5 years and I have done the thing on the side so has my wife and we had 3-somes and it only adds up to a very good learning experience, learn a little bit from every situation ,it is just sex, no feelings involved or even thoughts of breaking up the marriage or nothing crazy like that, it has put our sexual life in a different perspective
2007-03-29 09:56:18 · answer #3 · answered by Ramon M 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds to me like you have a really secure relationship with your husband, or man. There is nothing wrong with what you are doing when you both agree with the same idea's. but like you said, when they lie, and they go out on you with a nother woman or have affairs with other women, then that is cheating because they did it behind your back. I agree with that. Why is it, that men have these affairs and have to hide it from you. why can't they just be honest about them and talk about it with ya. I don't get it. but if you were to do the same to them, and hide it behind their back. you would get holy hell for it, even if you did try to talk to them first about it all. it wouldn't make any difference to them, you would still be treated baddley. so what is their problem? it's okay for them, but not for women, in a mans point of view.. a man can cheat and its okay, but a women cheats and she is a .,.........
I think Ill just keep it simple, and stay single. no problems that way, I can do what ever and no one would care and my heart wouldn't be hurt by them.
2007-03-29 09:56:15 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
funny thing is...i think it was in japan im not really sure but they also view an emotional relationship with someone other than your spouse is cheating...they actually ahve hotels and chat rooms dedicated to another's wants and needs in a sexual relationship and as long as the man pays the woman it is perfectly fine...
of course...everyone has different opinions
and i gues its jus how society taught us on what to percieve as cheating
personally, i think that if a guy goes out and does watever it takes to go behind ur back to have any sexual or emotional relationship with someone else is cheating and he should be able to talk to his partner no matter wat the issue
but having a 3some or somethin every now and then shouldnt be too much of a big deal as long as its what they both want
2007-03-29 09:55:25 · answer #5 · answered by l3x|a 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-11-24 22:03:05 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you. Almost all the guys want to experience of woman. As long as you both achive some agreement, then everything is good. Marriage is all about being open and enjoying life with a partner. If that does not work for someone why stay married.
2007-03-29 09:51:18 · answer #7 · answered by shkabaj 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not all men cheat. In fact a lot do not - it's just the ones that do that you hear about. If you're comfortable with the way things are what difference does it make if other people don't agree?
2007-03-29 09:51:55 · answer #8 · answered by lunasage 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
all men and women are attracted to many others, thats normal ... if a couple is capable of being as honest as you, anything is possible ... and couples with this level of honesty are more apt to become what(and who) they really want, and find happiness ... you can make this a positive or a negative, your choice ... but if you make another attraction a negative its going to make it hard for your signifigant other to be honest with you about it ... also, its very selfish to think you are so amazing to hold someones complete attention for a lifetime
all you asking for is honesty, and that a good thing
... the ultimate responsibility falls on you
2007-03-29 09:48:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i really do not know but i will tell you my opinion sex means need and if you are unable to share needs with the one you love you are cheating it is not mainly a thing you do behind you wife/husband back it is something you heart the other person with if you will full fill your needs away from the one you love you are hearting him/her it will heart the same as if your partner knew
2007-03-29 09:59:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋