My best friend got hooked up on a blind date with this guy by his mom. now he is saying that it would not be fair to her if he dated her before he was fully divorced. I think that is a poor excuse because he left his wife in January because she cheated. what do u think?
2007-03-29 09:41:08 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i would not date a guy who's closet is not yet cleaned.
2007-03-29 09:44:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
This really could go either way. It's one of those things that "two wrongs don't make a right" but if the soon to be ex wife is gone it probably doesn't make a difference then. He may not be ready to move on yet....even though he got cheated on and filed for divorce, really, he may not be ready yet. Men honestly don't get over things that easily, not any more so than women. I put money down he just isn't ready yet =)
2007-03-29 09:45:25 · answer #2 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he sounds like a Real, mature, responsible MAN. If he is divorcing an unfaithful wife, it makes sense that he would not wish to be unfaithful himself. Waiting for the divorce to be final before dating is all the way around, the right thing to do. That he showed up, instead of standing her up, also shows that he cares for others time and feelings. he didn't dissapoint his mother, leave your friend sitting, or make excuses. He sounds worth waiting for... if you can be "faithful" long enough for those papers to come through... and anyway, if it's your "friend" why do YOU care whether the guy dates her or not?
2007-03-29 09:55:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs time to get through the divorce and then time to sort out all his feelings after it. He is right - he should not see anyone while he is still married and probably not for a year or two afterwards, either.
So, hook your friend up with a single guy.
2007-03-29 10:13:28 · answer #4 · answered by Stefka 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dating before the divorce is final can come back to bite the guy in the *** and if the ex is a real witch expose the woman to a denial of affection civil suit which she could easily lose. Accept what he says for now and take it slow
2007-03-29 09:49:33 · answer #5 · answered by Deep Thought 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually it's NOT fair to date anyone when the divorce hasn't become final. Just because his soon to be ex wife cheated doesn't mean it is okay for him to do so. That's a child's way of looking at it and if one is married they're supposed to be grown ups not spoiled children.
2007-03-29 09:46:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is not an exuse. It is the truth. Maybe he still has some feelings left for his wife and deep inside hopes that something can work out. It is possible. I have seen it happen many times. He sounds like he is trying to be nice so leave the guy alone
2007-03-29 10:02:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say it's wrong. It's a little bit mixed up in that it has nothing to do with being fair to her - it's really just his own comfort level.
Divorce is seldom cut-and-dried - it takes an awfully long time to get over someone, and it sounds like this guy isn't there yet.
2007-03-29 09:57:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I think it is best to wait until the divorce is legal...especially if children are involved...it takes time to recover from a divorce and one does not want to hurt some inoccent person just because u jumpec back into the fire too quick...wait until the divorce is final...only my opinion since u asked
2007-03-29 09:47:31 · answer #9 · answered by sunbun 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He was cheated on and obviously doesn't want to do anything that even resembles cheating. I think he's a heck of a guy - obviously very honest. I would never date someone if their divorce wasn't final yet - and I honestly wouldn't think much of a guy who didn't wait until then.
2007-03-29 09:46:28 · answer #10 · answered by Zabes 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the length of time that they have been apart and whether or not the person is really ready to date again. I think that if the divorce is already in the process, then its that person choice to do whatever they feel is right.
2007-03-29 09:45:10 · answer #11 · answered by JustHeather 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋