we just found out its a girl. #2. My husband was really hoping for a boy, he was starting to be very happy at that fact, but when the lady said "GIRL" I looked at him and he just shrugged a smile at me. I could see he wasnt happy at all. And now he doesnt want anymore children because he feels that he can only produce girls. But I still dont think its a girl. My gut feeling always thought it was a boy due to my pregnancy symptoms and how I'm feeling. We'll get another ultrasound later on, I'm sure...but I dont want to be telling people its a girl yet. AND I'm feeling really guilty about not giving him his son. I know the man decides it, but he just isnt excited about the pregnancy like he was before we found out. And the people I have told, seem to be slightly disappointed as well. Maybe exaggerating, but they just say..."Oh...really?" No one's excited I'm having a girl... :(
2007-03-28 09:23:47 · 32 answers · asked by Laurellamags 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Don't be disappointed. You can try for the boy next time. I have 2 girls, and believe me they are a blessing. They are so close and they are each others best friend. It is so cute how close they are. The share each others toys and both have the same girly interests. And if they are close in age you can sometimes have fun dressing them alike. Brothers are great too, but nothing beats having a sister close in age, they become your best friend and confidant later in life. I have 3 siblings myself, 2 sisters and the youngest is my brother. I love my brother, but my sisters are my best best friends. And I know your girls will be too. She will love having a sister, someone to play with, if definitely beats being terrorized by a brother that would rather smash everything that sit and play barbies or dress up. When you see the face of your baby girl, everything will go out the window and you and your husband will fall madly in love with your new daughter. Tell daddy, that little girls are heaven sent and they will have daddy rapped right around their fingers. My girls have their dad sooo trained, its cute. I have a friend, he has 4 kids, 3 boys and 1 girl. The girl, he is just totally smitten for her. Girls, always become daddies girls, I was and both of your girls will be too. Don't get me wrong, I hope to have a son someday soon too, but even if its not now, he may come along sometime in the future and so will yours. Good Luck!
2007-03-28 09:31:28 · answer #1 · answered by MRod 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I must say I kinda know how you feel. I am pregnant with my 3rd and this was the only one I was able to find out the sex with and I was told it was going to be a boy (this will be 3 boys), not that I am not happy with another boy as long as my child is healthy. Just a little disappointing since I have always wanted a daughter, I do kinda hope there is a chance it is wrong and will be a girl. I to have also had very different symptoms with this pregnancy than with my other two, I know not all pregnancies are the same but this one is way out of whack, lol.
2007-03-28 09:34:27 · answer #2 · answered by im_a_lil_devil_22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband, as well as you and your family need to get over it and be thankful that you have a baby to talk about. I know that may sound harsh but going around in denial is not healthy for you or your relationship with your baby. I had someone at work whoes husband was so updet he wasnt having HIS boy and she ran around the whole 9 months saying well they may be wrong and I think its a boy, I feel it---Well the baby WAS A GIRL!!...Accept that she is what she is so you can move on from this issue and be prepared. Yes he made a girl so there is no reason what so ever you need to feel bad. That is not fair on you and is just sad. No pregnancy symptoms differs if it is a boy or a girl. Those are all old wives tales. Just go into thinking if it is a girl. If by some very rare chance they were wrong them yipee I guess but there are people that cannot have kids. Think about that. She will be precious and she will be loved. Thats all that matters
2007-03-28 09:31:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The same thing happened to me, only exactly in the opposite scenario. My husband and have one son and are now expecting our second. I REALLY wanted a girl and was pretty upset when I found out it was another boy. I actually cried a little after I dropped my husband off at work after the ultrasound. We have always planned on having three kids too and I wasn't sure if I wanted to risk having three boys (my older brother and his wife have four sons). That was about a month ago and I find myself excited to be having another son. Give him some time, he'll come around and will love both his daughters more than he could imagine.
2007-03-28 09:35:51 · answer #4 · answered by HeatherRK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im exicited for you to be having a girl, and there is no reason for you to feel guilty about the sex of the baby. Please don't let others make you feel bad about this. There is nothing wrong with having another girl or having a boy. Your instincts are your best judge of what is going on, so if you dont want to tell anyone until your next ultrasound when you know for sure there is nothing wrong with that. Im sure that your husband is still excited about this baby whether it turns out to be a girl or a boy. However since this is obviously making you have guilty feelings then you should tell him that. If it is a girl there is no reason to feel guilty about not giving him "his son" instead you are giving him "his daughter." Good luck to you and im sure that he is more excited then you think.
2007-03-28 11:16:47 · answer #5 · answered by Laura B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know a little about what you are going through. I had a boy first. Then we decided that we didn't want any more for a while. I went to the Dr. for birth control and found out I was pregnant. I was not happy about it. Then I was extremely sick, unlike my first pregnancy. The Dr. ordered an ultrasound and I found out I was having twins. I was extremely upset. Then at 16 weeks we found out the twins were boys. I was depressed!! I wanted to have at least one girl. Now the twins are two, and I am so blessed to have them. I don't even care that we didn't have a girl. My advice: Be thankful for what you have. Think of all the people that are not able to have children. I'm just glad that all three of our boys are happy and healthy.
2007-03-28 09:37:21 · answer #6 · answered by set_me_ablaze 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those are natural feelings. I was the opposite. I wanted a little girl so bad and I have two boys. When I found out that I was having a boy the second time around I was the one that was saying Oh and shrugging my shoulders. Now I don't want anymore kids because I'm convinced that I will only have boys. In the end he will get over it and you will both adore your new daughter.
2007-03-28 09:33:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Both of you should be happy either way as long as the child is healthy. Having a baby should be joyful and happy regardless of the baby's gender - think of all those people who can't have kids. be happy with what you have and be grateful, why try to hide the fact that your having a girl by not telling people -thats like your in denial over something that is good.
But for future reference my bf has two boys and really wanted a girl but based on genes and everyone in his family he thought he would only ever have boys so when i became pregnant with our first we both just assumed it was a boy, but it was a girl, now pg with our second and its another boy-bottom line two in a row doesn't mean anything your third could be the boy. My friends also have two boys in a row and wanted a girl so they waited four years and choose not to find out the sex and when it was born-a girl.
2007-03-28 09:33:53 · answer #8 · answered by emery_sage 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I AM excitted you are having a girl! There thats someone. I really hope you BOTH can accept this wonderful little life growing inside you is a true gift from God . There are so MANY women out there that would give anything just to have a little taste of what you have. Accept the fact that you are having a daughter that you and your Husband made together. ..Love her with all you have,and soon your husband will follow your lead.
2007-03-28 09:35:48 · answer #9 · answered by Marmar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I have a four year old boy and are 21 weeks pregnant now. We decided this would be our last child he and I both wanted a girl. At 12 weeks we found out our baby was alll Boy. We were both slightly disappointed. So our new baby will not be our last. We decided to try one more time for a little girl. Everyone is different. We love our little boy on the way do not get me wrong. Congratuations on your little boy and do not fear trying again. Best wishes!
2007-03-28 09:34:50 · answer #10 · answered by J&A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋