Is a vasectomy a good idea/painful?

Question

My husband and I have decided that we will one day adopt, but do not want to have our own children. I am on the pill, but still have stress about getting pregnant. I know that it is still a small percentage, but a chance nonetheless.
I want him to get a vasectomy. He is not opposed to the idea, he just does not do well with pain or medical procedures of any kind.
Can someone give me some information about the process and the amount of pain involved. Any information would be helpful. Thank you.

Uh, I don't live in India. Thanks though

Answer 1

Hi Mandy,

Well I have a unique perspective having gone through the procedure TWICE.

The first procedure was performed while I was awake (like most vasectomies are.) I can assure you, and your husband, there is noticable discomfort but the procedure and any pain during the procedure is breif. Maybe 15 minutes and it's over. For me personally, the worst part is the injection to numb you. (I think it's the worst part about the dentist too!)

Anyway... the pain afterward is what's lasting. For the next 2 to 3 days it feels like... (well have you seen the new James Bond movie?) Anyway, I just took it easy, ate pain pills, and watched movies or slept. Sex was no different after, although for about 3 months there was some discomfort from time to time, but nothing major.

Two years after the first procedure. My wife was pregant again. I went back to the urologist and sure enough, it had reversed itself! (I think that happens more than they'd like to admit as I have met others that it happened to.)

For round two, I was put under. To which I would say to you and your husdand is the way to go if he doesn't do well with conscious procedures. You still have the same pain after, but you miss the MONSTER NEEDLE! (My wife also got her tubes tied after that!)

Whatever you decide to do, good luck and I hope things go well with the adoption process for you down the road.

God Bless.

Answer 2

Its an easy process. He might be sore over the weekend, or a few days but that's it. My brother had it done, layed around on the couch over the weekend and went back to work on Monday. He said it was a little tender for a week but no big deal.

A woman has to have 2 living children or be so old....... a man has to be 18 or get parental consent......... Is that not messed up ?????? Its the woman that has to have the baby not the man.

ADDITIONAL: Make sure you stay on the pill and use a condom, until he does the follow up checks and they give you the all clear, after testing his sperm count.

Most men climax MORE after having it done. Alot say it makes sex better and they tend to last longer also.

1 in 300 vasectomies fail and have an Accident

Answer 3

I had a vasectomy at 21. I am now over 40. I never had children. My girlfriend had her tubes tied at 27, and she is now about to turn 36. We are very happy about not having them.

I can tell you about my experience. I am sure technology has simplified the vasectomy over the last 20 years, so it is likely must quicker, and simpler today.

The surgery took less than 15 min. It was nothing.. This is coming from a person that is scared of needles, an rarely even goes to get his teeth cleaned. Anyway, if your husband has a tattoo, he has already endured something much more painful, and potentially dangerous, than a vasectomy.

A vasectomy is completely free of size effects, and leaves no scar. In fact, it is completely undetectable without using a microscope to observe my semen.

Answer 4

My brother in law got a vasectomy and also my cousins husband got one done.
They both say that it didn't hurt. The only part that hurts is when they give the guy shots to numb the area. The actual procedure doesn't hurt. My brother in law was up and doing yard work the very next day. The pain doesn't last long.
He said he was just a little sore.
The guy can't wear any tight under-ware or jeans for a week or so and shouldn't sit for long hours like in a car.

So the only real pain is the shots they give you to numb the area. That's it.
I'm going to have my husband get it done pretty soon.

Answer 5

I found a wonderful site which even shows the diagram. This should be helpful to you and your husband. Let me say this because this is an element of truth that you must consider and I have seen marriages that failed and because the husband or wife had this preventative procedure, there were some negative repocussions. Be sure that this is what you both want, but even more sure that this is what HE wants. As far as pain - every man I have talked with who has had the procedure declared it did not hurt at all - a little sensitive and most men are anyway. Please check with his physician - both of you go together - there are videos available where he can have the opportunity to witness exactly what will take place prior to his own. Your support is going to be very important to him. It is a wise couple who make the decision they do not want to conceive their own children, but would open their hearts to an existing child who is waiting to be chosen and loved. God bless you both.

Answer 6

My husband said the pain was minimal. he had it done on a friday morning and was mowing the lawn on saturday. if your husband has a low pain threshold then he will need more time to recover.

I would hesitate to have one. It is not easily reveresed. My husband had his after our second child. a few years later i really wanted another one. we opted not to have it reversed since the cost and pain was too high.

the birth control pill taken properly should be enough protection. get the thought of pregnancy out of your mind and relax! enjoy life don't stress about this.

kudos for wanting to adopt. there are so many children of all ages needing homes. contact your local child protective services to get on the list. some states want you to be approved foster homes before you can adopt!

Answer 7

I have had a vasectomy. Yes there is pain involved. They use a local pain killer like the dintist does wehn he works on your mouth.

The pain isn't bad and does not last more than a couple of days. In the mean time, the doc will prescribe pain killers to deal with it.

Answer 8

Vasectomy surgery is very cheap in India. The cost is very low and the medical services are very good in India.

My cousin and her husband got their IVF treatment in India through the Forerunners Healthcare in India and is all praise for this company. She is a known case of PCOS.She is a very happy mother of a baby boy now. She just paid 2500 pounds for the full IVF treatment in India for which she was quoted 8000 pounds in private setup in UK.

Forerunners Healthcare is very famous in India. I read a lot about them in the newspapers. I have also read about a Chinese couple who planned surrogacy through the Forerunners Healthcare. They arrange financing for USA, Canadian, UK and other international patients who plan to have surgery and infertility treatment like IVF, IUI, and ICSI abroad for low price. They also have photos pasted of their International patients. You can checkout their website. There are huge cost savings. As a doctor I personally believe that surgery and treatment can be easily handled in India, as the quality of healthcare available In India is simply best in the world. The surgeons are USA/UK trained and facilities are 5 star.

http://www.forerunnershealthcare.com
Hope this helps.

Answer 9

My husband had it done and came home the same day. He was sent home with an ice pack and support. He was up and around in about 2 to 3 days. It was tender but he was not in a lot of pain. Nothing compared to my two deliveries.

Answer 10

I know of 3 vasectomy procedures where the woman still became pregnant. The pill really is safe as long as you are taking it regularly. If you want to adopt you should really ask yourself if you are truly not wanting to have your own. 9 years ago my husband and i said the same thing. today- we have 4 and i would have another in a second.