my boyfriend doesn want me to keep this baby and he didn want me to keep my daughter wot shall i do.
2007-03-24 08:28:51 · 23 answers · asked by michelle c 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
first off, what do YOU want? obviously you want this child as well as your daughter. thing is, your boyfriend can't tell you **** about what you can and cannot do when it comes to this decision. i'm sure you feel a bit trapped in this situation. the best thing for you is to not give into what he wants UNLESS you truly feel you don't want the child. but do not sacrifice your child for your boyfriend who may end up leaving you in the end. it's not worth it. so, what you should do is sit down and have a little chat with him and ask him his reasons for why he doesn't want the baby. if he does the lame-*** excuse of "i'm not ready for it" then he doesn't want the responsibility. that's understandable. some guys are that way. if you can't afford the child, find a way that you can. and you should talk with him about that. but if he just plain doesn't want it and his reasons aren't really realistic - leave. sounds easier than it would be to actually do it, doesn't it? it always is. no choice is an easy choice. but you need to think this through first: if you leave him, will you have enough money to make it on your own? do you have anywhere that you can stay to get your feet back on the ground? are you prepared and ready to have this child? things to think about. ask questions. think things through rationally. plan things out. and then act on them. and don't put in a half-assed job into it. do it 110%. good luck!!!
2007-03-24 08:37:17 · answer #1 · answered by Shakti Svātantrya Isa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to tell you the honest truth your boyfriend shouldn't be your boyfriend now if he told you with the first baby to have an abortion than that's not mature at all he layed down with you and he wants to erase his mistakes. Now your pregnant with #2 and he says the same thing. Have you ever heard of the saying fool me once shame on YOU fool me twice shame on ME! It's your body and a abortion should not be used as a form of birth control. He sounds like a little boy and not a man. Kids need a man and a woman to raise them so with that said if you want to keep your baby you should keep it and remember he's still the daddy regardless of the decision you make to stay together or break up with him. In my opinion he should hit the road and you should never ever ever give into sexual temptation with him again.
2007-03-24 16:15:41 · answer #2 · answered by missingNYC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's gotta be for a reason. Are you guys underage or having problems supporting the baby? Just because he says he doesn't want it doesn't mean that you have to get rid of it..it is your body afterall. You make the decision that is best for you. If you can afford another child go ahead if not rethink your options. Now I am not for abortion (don't get me wrong there) but someone may want to adopt the child. Just think the situation through.
2007-03-24 15:43:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do what you feel is right. If you want this baby, have this baby. Baby's are precious gifts and shouldnt be seen as life ruining. Tell him he can take it or leave it. Never base life decisions on what a man (or other person) wants when it comes to YOUR life. Good luck, and know that there are many single moms out there and you will do just fine!
2007-03-24 15:35:51 · answer #4 · answered by Snow Bunnie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep the baby-and your daughter too. The b/f? He needs to accept the children, or move on. There are plenty of good men out there that love kids, for the right reasons. Take care.
2007-03-24 15:34:13 · answer #5 · answered by SAK 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First off you should re-evaluate your relationship with your boyfriend. He clearly needs to grow up. In my personal opinion you should leave him. Whether you decide to keep the baby or not. You don't want him to have your children thinking that they were mistakes or not wanted in any kind of way.
Children are a blessing. You need to be with someone who will love you and any future child that comes along.
2007-03-24 16:03:32 · answer #6 · answered by Pinky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your baby too and since it is still a part of your body, it is your decision. If you want to keep your baby, then keep it and nobody can stop you. My bf wanted me to get an abortion too. Eventually most guys come around. He's probably just scared. Dont do anything you'll regret just to keep him happy.
2007-03-24 15:53:09 · answer #7 · answered by Freaked out 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you already had this daughter from a previous relationship, then he shoulda knew that she came with the package! and as for dads that dont want ne thing to do with thier kids. Leave him, My kid comes before ne man, including the my baby daddy! I love my baby daddy! but he would never tell me to get rid of my kid, cause i would laugh and say, well how about i get rid of you instead!
2007-03-24 16:18:24 · answer #8 · answered by Amanda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the baby is his baby too then he obvious is only into the relationship for sex. You need to dump him if this is the case. If the baby is with another guy, that is understandable. If you truly love him, get married before you have children together.
2007-03-24 15:33:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend shouldn't be having sex if he doesn't want children. It's not just the girl's responsibility to keep on birth control.
Have the baby, speak with your doctor ( WITH YOUR BOYFRIEND) about birth control.
2007-03-24 15:46:11 · answer #10 · answered by iampatsajak 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋